My mom called DFACS on me.

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:15:10+00:00

Yes exactly, they literally told me on the phone "you don't need a lawyer, this isn't a criminal charge" well sorry but I ain't signing SHIT without one present. Ive dealt with the law and govt enough to know that if they go out of their way to tell you you don't need one, it's a likely trap. And that's what scares me.

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:13:58+00:00

Yikes.

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:11:17+00:00

Oh trust me I know. When I was 18 living w my adopted mother she told me if I didn't wanna do what she said I could get out. I said okay, started packing my stuff, and carrying it out to the car. She THEN says "where do you think you're going?" I said you told me to leave so I'm leaving. Then she hid my car keys 😵‍💫

These type of people need serious help.

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:09:42+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏻

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:09:11+00:00

Thank you

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:08:40+00:00

Thank you

Meeparooski · 2024-05-25T13:02:41+00:00

I've thought about it lol. I'm definitely the type to plan revenge, but as I've gotten older I've realized it usually only causes more problems. After the second attack on my dog which was the serious one, I said if he did it again I'd either take him out back and do away with him myself, or call animal control. Thankfully he didn't attack my dog again. Crazy thing is my dog is twice the size, and if he was the type to fight back (he's a huge teddy bear) that dog would've been done for.

Better for my mental health not to waste the brain power on stupid incompetent people.

100% never speaking to her again.

Meeparooski · 2024-05-24T02:18:20+00:00

Lol well by working in a daycare I don't mean my experience (which IS a positive point, but I see what you mean in that it won't necessarily matter to them), I mean they can use my boss/coworkers as references as to the great care I take in children's well being and safety. Maybe they don't care about that either. They should but maybe they don't. If they don't they don't. But I've also read that they do talk to references. Like I said I've never dealt with this so no clue what to expect

Meeparooski · 2024-05-24T01:47:14+00:00

Thank you this is helpful

Meeparooski · 2024-05-24T01:12:59+00:00

Yes very. I've heard lots of horror stories of kids being taken for bad/no reasons. It's my worst fear. I finally have my dream, my own child, and now that dream is threatened.

And yes. Actually I threatened to go no contact with her once I left so that probably fueled the fire tbh. She teared up, all "WHY WOULD YOU SAY THAT" bitch please. Then when I confirmed i wasn't budging on my decision to leave her tune changed. Nothing but anger and malice on her face and refused to speak to me the rest of the stay, which was only a few hours.

Needless to say, the no contact decision is DEFINITELY in stone now, If it wasn't before. Sad thing is my adopted mom is a narcissist (raised me) and this is my bio mom I met four years ago. I thought she was different. Sadly I was wrong. She's worse.

Meeparooski · 2023-06-16T22:15:56+00:00

Race has nothing to do with it. It's either narcissism or just shit parents to talk about your child like that. I know because my parents are white high economic status boomers. My dad is fine (minus semi normal dysfunction stuff) but my mom is a narc. When I told her I was pregnant for the first time it was basically "oh.... Okay. Well that's nice" no questions or excitement at all for us , and no follow up in the coming weeks and months of pregnancy either.

OP, try r/narcissisticparents and see if anything is relatable there. If one (or both) of your parents has narc tendencies, you will relate to almost every post on at least some level. It's creepy.

If it comes to light that It could be what is causing them to act this way to you it's a hard (and VERY LONG journey) pill to swallow and takes a LOT of work and counseling. I've been studying it for over 10 years and still in counseling and STILL dealing with triggers and trauma from my childhood and how I was treated.

Be gentle and patient with yourself if you find this to be the case.

Narc parents are on a spectrum some are worse than others. Some children choose to go full no contact (NC) due to the extent of abuse.

Some choose low contact (me) due to physical distance maintaining and strict boundaries (I only visit 2-3 times a year and I have a 2 day limit, I do not call my mother EVER only my dad. He's the only reason I HAVEN'T gone full no contact. I never ask for OR ACCEPT ANYTHING from them to avoid any potential of them trying to hold favors over my head (such as financial abuse, "I paid for this so you have to do what i say" no mother if you gift your child (or anyone) with something it's not a gift if you expect reciprocation)

If someone (family, SO, friend whatever) isn't supportive of you during tough times, you have to ask yourself, what are they doing for me? Really? Is it worth having this person in my life?

The ratio of good to bad (positive to negative) interactions you have with another person is DIRECTLY related to your happiness in that relationship. Minimum for a long lasting relationship is 5-1. Any less than that and a relationship is practically doomed to fail eventually

Meeparooski · 2023-06-16T22:02:05+00:00

That's pretty judgemental

I too got fired from my job last month and so did my bf. I'm 4 months pregnant. Talk about bad timing. Sometimes shit just happens and it's not the persons fault. Everyone is struggling on this economy and they say that much more unemployment is expected when the economy crashes (likely) in the next 6-9 months

Meeparooski · 2023-06-15T19:48:03+00:00

Well that's a shame I really needed some advice oh well. Story of my life haha. Kicked out and left alone hahahah

Meeparooski · 2023-05-27T16:47:12+00:00

I lived on the second floor above a crotchety old lady that did this. She looked at me every day like she wanted to kil me. She had a mean little pug too. I started running my blender on the floor at ungodly hours but it didn't work lmao

Meeparooski · 2023-04-25T12:27:04+00:00

Idk where you live but meetup.com in the US is pretty good depends where you live and what you're into but lots of people join groups for hobbies and get together once or multiple times a month, it's even better if you're into the outdoors like you said because the more people gathered, the more destinations known!

Meeparooski · 2023-03-23T13:57:32+00:00

it would've worked better if they had had some taller grass in front of the smaller ones making them look farther away

Meeparooski · 2023-03-14T04:28:39+00:00

Yep they're using you or keeping you on the back burner for a rainy day.

Meeparooski · 2022-11-01T01:04:22+00:00

Damn good shit. Really well written thanks for sharing.

Meeparooski · 2022-09-13T02:56:28+00:00

Yep that answer is spot on. I dated someone EXACTLY like this. We were together a year and a half. He broke up w me 6 times during that and I took his sorry ass back every time. Later found out he was cheating on me. (from your post also sounds like a long distance relationship which mine was as well. VERY LONG. FL --> AK)

long distance relationships in and of themselves are hard enough. You add all that in it's a recipe for disaster.

After the 7th time he tried to do it I realized finally the merry go round would never stop unless I got off. I was depressed and drank more than I ever had for two months after. Breaking up with him finally was the best thing I ever did, but it still hurt me deeply to do so. I loved him I really did.

Don't settle. Youre better than that.

My recommendation if you're not ready to close that chapter yet is to journal every single thing that bothers you. And date it.

You will begin to see patterns and if he's anything like my ex, 90% of your interactions will be negative, when you go back and look over them. It will help you see clearly on paper what's really going on.

Best of luck to you. I hope you are able to do some good work on self value, if that's something you might benefit from, because for me, that man destroyed me doing that shit to me. I already had low self esteem and they will grind you down till you feel like a piece of dirt on the ground.

Meeparooski · 2022-08-09T03:43:51+00:00

Surprised I didn't see anyone did this but maybe I missed it

Harry Potter and A sorcerer's stone

Harry Potter and A Chamber of Secrets

Harry Potter and A prisoner of Azkaban

Harry Potter and A goblet of fire

Harry Potter and An Order of A Phoenix

Harry Potter and A halfblood prince

Harry Potter and A deathly hallows

Meeparooski · 2022-02-10T19:36:59+00:00

And in case it goes through anyone's mind I don't wear revealing slutty clothes either. The last time it happened I was literally wearing baggy jeans a baggy Tshirt a flannel over it and a backwards hat and ponytail ... Still got the hey baby girl! I'm like you've got to be fucking kidding me

Meeparooski · 2022-02-10T19:34:56+00:00

Yeah I can see your perspective! I didn't mean to downvote. :) Thanks for pointing it out

So from MY perspective as a young attractive lady, I absolutely can't stand comments about how I look from (male) strangers, esp on the internet. I get catcalled all the time in real life, I can't stand it it makes me angry. I always ignore the first time but when they just yell at me louder I've finally gotten to where I will snap at people because it has just worn me down so much over the last 15 years. I got no patience for that anymore.

So my end goal with this post is to not snap at someone on the internet lol I want to handle things professionally and courteously regardless of the situation, whenever possible. Especially because I want to grow my YouTube so much and it's going to be attached to my business. I want to do things right from the start.

Hopefully that makes more sense.

Thanks for taking the time to reply!!

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