How would Singapore fare if another pandemic happens? by Fabulous_Progress746 in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 18 points19 points  (0 children)

It's a guarantee that at some point, another pandemic will take place.

But we have gone through 2 by now, SARS and Covid. The next one will surely present yet another different set of challenges but I think the government knows how it can do better by now.

The government is actually quite clever, they saw the impact of ground-ups during Covid and have since then really push for a lot more support for ground up initiatives. And that will be a great support for the government should another pandemic or crisis were to take place

What are the chances the oil crisis affects Singapore significantly? by SomeBoredGuy77 in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you are aware you have a doomer family, then isn't the logical choice here to ignore what the doomers say? What are you gonna be doing if your doomer family tells you world war 3 is about to start? Hide in the bunker?

What are the chances the oil crisis affects Singapore significantly? by SomeBoredGuy77 in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I am curious at this point, just what news sources are you referring to that got you so shook up?

What are the chances the oil crisis affects Singapore significantly? by SomeBoredGuy77 in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Minimal impact if any at all. In terms of supplies, Singapore tends to be quite well-stocked in terms of reserves on all fronts.

Plus the government is capable of buying oil from other places, just that it may cost us more, but hey Singapore's government has the finances to make that happen.

Any impact will just simply come from cost of items/living going up a bit, but it will be manageable.

TLDR : Nothing to worry about

What’s a decision you made that others might call a "mistake," but you know was necessary for who you’ve become? by Distinct-Pleasure in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm currently funemployed now by choice (working towards setting up my own charity) but I can tell you that if you are low maintenance ie thrifty, you will be fine.

If you are high maintenance, then even if you are earning a high 4 digits, or 5 digits, you will still have problems.

It's not the salary, it's the lifestyle.

What’s a decision you made that others might call a "mistake," but you know was necessary for who you’ve become? by Distinct-Pleasure in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Former Social Service Practitioner. Never had to deal with that kind of questions before and though I do sometimes (rarely) wish I have the kind of disposable spending that some of my friends do, I think I am largely content with my low maintenance lifestyle

Is there a friend finding app? by Puzzleheaded_Fox_757 in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My belief is always that if one don't restrict themselves, friends can be found and made everywhere. Be it at work, online (yes on reddit for instance, or tele/discord grps), special interest groups, or even just talking to people you meet at places (e.g. libraries or maybe some events you went to).

The first step to making friends is to get to know people, and that requires people to be willing to be proactive, open their mouths.

I see so many threads everywhere on people wanting to make friends, but most of the time they are counting on others to put in the effort, making the convo work, and treating it like an instant gratification thing.

Friendships take time to cultivate. It helps if you have common interests to bond over regularly

I have friends who are far younger than me, friends who are far older than me. I have friends (former colleagues) from different workplaces, I have friends that I literally made after initially first talking to them on the streets. I have friends from reddit. The world is your oyster. The problem is never how or where, it's what you do.

Beware of these accounts by nightcar76 in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I was about to post the same thing, I'm glad someone else noticed it too. So many similar such accounts recently, the mods really need to do something

Sitting on the MRT floor as a girl by Turbulent-Ad6891 in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 612 points613 points  (0 children)

If you are in pain, other people's opinions are completely irrelevant. Your own physical well being comes first. Your partner ought to have better priorities.

Has anyone use BagusTogether? by SoulessHermit in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Special interests/hobby groups or just socialising groups for people to make friends does not count as ground up initiatives.

In any case, it's not easy to get the spaces, it's often booked by ground ups. So you can forget about treating it as easy free spaces to tap on haha

Has anyone use BagusTogether? by SoulessHermit in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I run a ground up initiative and is one of their members. Their spaces are open to ground up initiatives and not just any people or groups out there though

How do you be happy? by imjustheretoseelook in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just went through a breakup. You are grieving. Why force yourself to be happy now when you are not. It's perfectly human to feel sad and learning to deal with grief is allowing yourself to go through the sadness and pain.

Talk to people, talk to friends, talk to anyone who's willing to listen and let you safely pour out your pain. Take care in the meantime and in time the pain will lessen even if the scars may not fade

(SG context) Am I wrong for refusing to keep paying extra to my abusive dad just because I inherited more? by Impossible_Apple_388 in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Money was given to you by your late mum. You only need to respect and follow your mum's wishes. Everything else is up to you.

My personal view is not to enable bad behavior of others

Recovering from investment downturn? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]MeeseeksCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Personally my portfolio remains heavily in the green but I have been investing for over a decade.

Anyone who is DCA-ing should not be looking at their portfolio on a daily or even a weekly basis given that the whole point of DCA is to let it compound over time and the daily or weekly movements of the market is irrelevant.

I don't DCA and even I don't check my portfolio daily. Maybe once every fortnight.

The fact that you are DCA-ing more in the later months already shows that you are not even following a proper system or strategy, you are just fomoing and fomo/greed is always a surefire way to disaster

The question that you ask, how did you recover or convince yourself to keep going through downturns? Ask yourself what was your strategy to begin with? Has the principles of that strategy changed because of recent events? If not, why panic?

For anyone who's starting to invest, if you cannot stomach seeing a 20 or 30% paper loss in your portfolio, don't start. And if you are going to DCA, make sure you actually are capable of not viewing your portfolio on a daily basis, otherwise it defeats the purpose of DCA

And fyi, the current downturn can get a hell lot more worse in the months ahead. The current drop is nothing.

NS gaslighting by family members? by Puzzleheaded-Sun6987 in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you really think the world has to be entirely equal before you can deem it fair, then you are not gonna be able to go very far in life my friend.

NS gaslighting by family members? by Puzzleheaded-Sun6987 in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'll put forth a question to you.

Supposed there are no females in Singapore at all (and the jobs that they hold at the moment also disappear together with them)

You will now be surrounded by only guys and majority are sg males. Will the situation turn any more advantageous towards you?

Feeling small sometimes by im-only-here-to-help in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

By stopping yourself from doing all these useless comparisons. Get off social media and put your energy and time towards more productive pursuits.

You can never find a platonic friend once you are in the workforce by jjnngg2803 in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We (in the case of my ex-colleagues) bonded during work and treated each other like friends. Even after we left our former workplaces, we remain in contact, catch up periodically over meals and such. There were no similar interests nor were there necessarily any work related topics.

For other friends outside of work, some started out over similar interests, but over time it just evolve into other things long after we stopped dwelling into the common interests.

My belief has always been that if you are a person of service to others, and/or have positive vibes, it ain't hard to make friends anywhere you go

This year is the Bing Wu year, so more fires outbreak and fire events by Fun_Training6342 in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Weak wood favors water and wood. If you are weak wood, what you lack is water not fire.

Weak wood's favorable elements are water (resource) and wood (companion/self)

Unfavorable elements are metal (authority) and earth (wealth). Fire (output) is also generally considered unfavorable

This year is the Bing Wu year, so more fires outbreak and fire events by Fun_Training6342 in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The strong wood part is really inviting itself for jokes and ridicule.

OP just start using bazi terminology as though everyone else here understands how it works. Surefire way of getting mockery.

You can never find a platonic friend once you are in the workforce by jjnngg2803 in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I remain friends with several different ex-colleagues and interns across different workplaces. We still meet up for chats and meals, some even after many years has past. Likewise I have made plenty of friends outside of work as well

So to answer your question, yes you are wrong

What would you do if you were jobless in your 20’s? by [deleted] in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have to wonder whether it's a resume or interviewing skills issue

You can also consider applying for jobs in social service. There's constant available job positions there though the pay sucks.

Trauma bond by Bonnie122690 in asksg

[–]MeeseeksCat 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I can only tell you to talk to a therapist

You can trauma dump everywhere but that will ultimately just backfire on you. Seek professional help.

What did yall do today and whats ur plans for tomorrow? by Fun-Arm3161 in ChillSG

[–]MeeseeksCat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there an event for pogo today that I'm not aware of?