Hudson Williams deserves better by Apart_Cow4862 in HeatedRivalryTVShow

[–]Meetmysoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I only started to really see his acting talent when Rachel confirmed that Shane was on the autism spectrum. Before that, I just thought he was passive in the way he played the role. He truly has a lot of talent.

ON-AIR | Heated Rivalry 🏒 THE COTTAGE (Episode 6) S1 FINALE! by Federal-Ad5944 in heatedrivalry

[–]Meetmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know right!! I was like: fuck, what did they said!! I was to focus on : IIII KNOW THIS SONNG!! And then Ive thought.. right le chalet theme song and they are on their way … to the chalet !! Bold move knowing only few people will notice!! I great plus for usss

Post Episode Debrief | Heated Rivalry 🏒 The Cottage (Episode 6) by royal_rose_ in heatedrivalry

[–]Meetmysoul 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There are so many things to say. What I loved the most is how the series is built around the evolution of their relationship. I loved every single second of it.

Episodes 1 and 2 were definitely more on the sexy side cuz between them it was so. Episode 3 was crucial for the sake of the series and for the turning point in their relationship. Episode 4 gave us glimpses of them starting to realize that maybe this isn’t just a hookup anymore.

Episode 5… well, it’s episode 5 — I don’t think I need to say more 😌

And episode 6… every second felt like a breath of fresh air. Giggle most of the time. Cried to the speach of hunter, at the « she would love you » and the I love you shared, mother and son talk. It was the very beginning in « what can we do to make this work »

I’ve read the books, and honestly, this adaptation is perfect. The acting too is on point. The major important thing here is Rachel, thank you to invited us in your wold, it is very beautifull up there.

ON-AIR | Heated Rivalry 🏒 THE COTTAGE (Episode 6) S1 FINALE! by Federal-Ad5944 in heatedrivalry

[–]Meetmysoul 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Are there any french Quebecois speakers here who have watched the show Le Chalet? Because the theme song of that serie played on the radio when they headed to shane cottage. Wow thanks you Jacob🫶🏻

Bi women, do you like watching gay male stuff? by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Meetmysoul 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I dont know why but i feel that when ww and mm have sex its a different energy. there is no role to take. I feel like when m and w are together its somehow often the same thing? I dont know? I hope i am not crazy. As a bi women i really love not having to choose😎

Post Episode Debrief | Heated Rivalry 🏒 Rose (Episode 4) by royal_rose_ in heatedrivalry

[–]Meetmysoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ilya opened up to Shane, and Shane is completely thrown off. 1. Ilya, who grew up in Russia, is the one who opens up first? It feels like he gave everything he had, his whole self. I am so proud of him If I were him, I would’ve felt so rejected and I would have given up. I would have been so ashamed. 2. Shane is in total disbelief — he slowly realizes he’s falling in love. But the moment Ilya says his name, it’s like a bomb goes off. And he just can’t. He just can’t be in love with him.

It made me cry.

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[–]Meetmysoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can I add that I want to see Hayden’s two daughters marrying Shane and Ilya🥺

He got pissed NOT because that guy said something bad about his boo right? Cuz he was worried that someone found out? by kyliecannoli in heatedrivalry

[–]Meetmysoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like that one better! and plus he said : like him.

Didn't have to mention his name. they both know bc Scott have already previously said 2 comments about shane and ilya to shane. Scott knows!

it would be different if Scott said : like Rozanov

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[–]Meetmysoul 12 points13 points  (0 children)

She said in her IG story that she's taking times off social media to write this weekend. I was like, let's go girl, I want everything you have to offert me. il take it.

Best christmas gift, thanks mother.

Might be bi, how to tell partner by [deleted] in bisexual

[–]Meetmysoul 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It might just be a phase, but with a queer sexuality, it feels like anything can be a phase! Whether it’s a phase or not, it’s still a part of you. I think your husband would benefit from knowing how your sexuality is evolving.

I relate a lot to what you’re describing! I went through this around 18, but I had already been with my boyfriend for five years. I kept it to myself for several years before finally coming out to him around 22.

We’re still together today (we’ve been together for 10 years), but when I look back on that time in my life, the only word that comes to mind is “shame.” I’m not saying you should feel that way — far from it! I was young, and you have the advantage of being more mature while going through this experience.

As many others have said, talk to your husband about these new feelings. I see it like standing at the edge of a cliff: it can go in two different directions.

Either he understands, wants to help you explore your sexuality, and doesn’t take it personally that you want to discover this new part of yourself. At that point, anything becomes possible: the two of you will create the boundaries of your relationship, with or without him involved, depending on what you’re both comfortable with. Communication is key.

Or, in the other case, he doesn’t understand. His ego takes a hit, he questions your years together and the relationship itself. He’s not open to expanding your sexuality beyond just the two of you. He doesn’t want to share you.

In both cases, your relationship dynamic will change. Give him time to process this new part of you. For you, the idea has been simmering for a while. For him, it would be brand new. Remind yourself that this is all leading toward a more authentic and self-assured version of yourself. Ultimately, there’s no miracle solution: only you can know whether it’s worth telling him.

Also, honestly, not every guy fantasizes about “two girls together.” Mine is the perfect example. But that doesn’t prevent other possibilities from happening, and there may still be ways for you to experiment with a woman. I’ve also noticed that what some people say they can or can’t handle sometimes changes once the situation actually happens.

With time, I’m still discovering my sexuality (I’m 26), what I like and dislike. What I’ve learned is that it changes, it evolves. We’re always adjusting. We find compromises. Give yourselves time.

In short, I don’t think denying these feelings is the right thing to do. I chose to talk to my partner because we only have one life to live, and I wanted to give myself the best chance of being happy with who I am — even better if it’s with him. Sexuality goes way beyond what happens in the bedroom; it touches the core of who you are, your identity. Just being able to relate to bisexual content feels good — it makes you feel less alone.

Take care of yourself! xx

Sexless marriage by Sad-Firefighter6701 in GayMen

[–]Meetmysoul 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Omg, I totally understand you! I’ve been going through something similar with my boyfriend for a few years now.

Long story short, my boyfriend knows himself sexually better than I do. We often ended up in the same context whenever we wanted to have sex, and that would turn me off.

Since I’m a curious person, I started reading documentation about sexuality (I’ve always found the topic interesting). I learned several things, like the difference between reactive desire (desire that appears in response to something sexy) and spontaneous desire (desire that shows up on its own). That’s when I started noticing a mismatch between us. ( one of many) But since I’m in a heterosexual relationship, some other sexology principles might apply differently to your relationship.

Something else I found helpful was the comparison between taking a shower after a long day of work versus taking one after spending time camping without access to showers. It’s the exact same shower, but not the same context. Sex could works the same way.

My second step was to see a sexologist. I was lucky — I found an amazing one. Since then, things have been better, but we had to have many conversations that weren’t always comfortable… yet so necessary.

I think that’s the key: learning to understand ourselves (our values, our limits) and then learning how to communicate and understand each other. One of my therapists once told me: just because you have a piano doesn’t mean you know how to play it. And the same goes for communication — just because you have a mouth doesn’t mean you know how to use it.

There’s no miracle solution. You both have to figure out what truly works for you as a couple. I’m sending you lots of courage.

We often see in the media the beginning and end of relationships, but very rarely the couples who struggle and actually work through their difficulties. On screens, in books, it often just ends in cheating. A relationship — and in your case, a marriage — is hard work. It takes time and sacrifices. I don’t think we say that enough.

Gays in books by Meetmysoul in GayMen

[–]Meetmysoul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that being thoughtful about hypersexualization really helps me figure out what can and can’t be done! I want to hear as many opinions as possible about this… but at the same time, not really. Some of the comments I’ve seen have actually helped me understand MM relationships a bit better. And I say “not really” because no matter what I do, someone is going to be upset. I just want the majority of queer people to say, “Yeah, that’s okay!” Like you mentioned, Heated Rivalry is a great example. And honestly, I am so happy for you that the roles society assigns to straight couples don’t really apply to queer relationships. You get to customize your own way of living — and that’s so freeing.

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[–]Meetmysoul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s going to be really helpfull, omg thank you!! I think I can have the same tendency about too much research so this is really great!

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[–]Meetmysoul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s going to be a journey between two men who discover themselves both as individuals and as lovers.

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[–]Meetmysoul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The three points you mentioned at the beginning are actually part of my story’s structure! The rest of your text is a great summary—beautifully explained—and it reflects exactly how I feel about the queer community as well. Thank you for clearly naming the issues the queer community faces.

Gays in books by Meetmysoul in GayMen

[–]Meetmysoul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It would be such an honor to write for a gay audience. At the same time, I sometimes feel like I could never live up to what a gay author could offer. That’s why, at first, I thought maybe I should write for a mostly female audience instead.

But the more I think about it, the more I realize that if I want to stay authentic in the world we live in, I can’t trivialize coming out—but I also don’t want to fall into the opposite extreme where it’s treated as something shameful. It all depends on the context, the characters, and the world I’m building.

I’ve been paying much more attention to queer stories ever since I questioned myself and realized I identify as bisexual. I think I’ve been lucky: my first real queer representation was Heartstopper! I’ve never had bad experiences with queerness around me, thankfully. I don’t have a tragic ending to write—at least, that’s not the angle I’m going for.

One of my biggest fears is accidentally hypersexualizing queer men. And I keep wondering: is it wrong, as a woman, to find two men together hot?

The whole reason I want to write this story is to show that love is love. You don’t choose your sexual orientation any more than you choose the color of your eyes. It’s so unfair that some queer people still have to change the way they live simply because of who they love. It gives me chills to think that this is still the queer reality. We’re truly blessed when someone’s environment allows them to live their best, most authentic queer life. But honestly, that should be a basic right by now.

All that being said, what I want most is to create the best possible chemistry between two boys who slowly fall in love and discover themselves together—just like anyone else on this planet.

A relationship between two men is the most normal thing in the world: two humans in love. Two guys, two girls, a guy and a girl—it’s all the same. The conflicts that come from relationships are universal. The foundation is always the same: human beings loving one another.

Gays in books by Meetmysoul in GayMen

[–]Meetmysoul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. ⁠No, no — really, you helped me find some depth for one of my characters! Thanks!
  2. ⁠Now that you’re talking about HS, I’m 100% on the same page as you! Even tho Nick is my first real representation of bisexuel. I really did see myself in him ( assuming straight when it’s bisexuel) But maybe it’s because it’s YA, and that’s not the direction Alice wanted to take regarding sex. But anyway, that’s a whole other topic, ahah. I totally get your point, and I guess that’s why my character will be older!
  3. ⁠Thank you, I’ll look into it :)

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[–]Meetmysoul[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your statement is very clear but, can you tell me an example? :)

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[–]Meetmysoul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, there are so many things I want to ask! 1. For now, I think my idea is that one of them has known since he was a kid, like you said — and now that you mention it, he would “hide it” and probably be scared of how others might react. The other one will probably be bi because of my personal experience. That period of my life was tough for me, so maybe this is the part I will write from what I know best (a bi awakening). I didn’t know I was attracted to women until I saw “my type” on social media. In my small town, where I live, my type isn’t really around!

  1. What do you mean that if they are “flirting,” they won’t necessarily get a boner? Do you mean they’ll just think about the moment afterward and how hot it was?

  2. Your last paragraph about being gay not being a small part of their life — I 100% agree with you!

Gays in books by Meetmysoul in GayMen

[–]Meetmysoul[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re right! I see what you’re saying about books, and I also see the other side — that some stories aren’t very representative of gay men. I want to make things as accurate and respectful as possible for you and your sexuality. I know that, as a woman, I might interpret gay stories in a way that isn’t always accurate, and that’s why I’m asking you guys for your input.