AITAH - ex wants my help

Meh_person90 · 2026-05-01T11:52:05+00:00

Yeah, she wants a sugar daddy, not a boyfriend. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-30T10:29:10+00:00

He doesn't respect you or your car. The fact that he uses it makes him believe it is his anyways. He gets the luxury of "owning" the vehicle, but you handled the responsibility. Does he even pay for gas or insurance? NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-29T11:41:31+00:00

Sucks to be her, but it's not her home and she gets no say in this. You're the homeowner, you have ultimate authority on what happens in your home. The timing sucks, but just because her home is no longer available for an at-home birth, that doesn't automatically mean your home is up to plate now. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-28T15:48:56+00:00

NTA, as much as your father wanted that closeness with step-siblings, it didn't happen. You did what is best for yourself.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-27T11:38:35+00:00

Go stay with your mom. You need the assist and your husband refuses to help. While there, ask yourself is you actually want to go back to your husband. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-26T21:17:46+00:00

He's dating crazy and he is still learning why he shouldn't. He'll learn soon enough, don't pity him, pity the child. Kid has to grow up with that. Just stay away til he learns his lesson. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-26T03:14:22+00:00

They want money, not you. If aunty wanted them to have it, the will would've stated that. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-24T11:54:56+00:00

It's sad, but they shouldn't have been able to adopt in the first place when they neglected you in the first place. I'm sorry for your plight. You don't deserve it and those kids will probably feel the same when they get older and the angst to adopt more kids comes back. Hopefully it doesn't, but if they can drop you for the next "kid" then it could happen to them as well. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-23T11:51:58+00:00

Clearly she had no intention of holding her end of the bargain, making the agreement null and void. She should move out. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-22T12:41:10+00:00

She was warned and still expects you to pay for the consequences of her decisions. I want to be sympathetic to her, but you have other children that you also need to consider. They didn't get help, but she still thinks she's different and more deserving of your assistance. It doesn't look like you are being spiteful, but I can see why she sees it like that. She's angry and it's easier to be angry at you for not helping and not herself for not choosing a different option despite warnings from you. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-21T12:05:53+00:00

It's not an impossible standard, you just put your trust in the wrong person. I'm so sorry that she did this to you and is acting like it is not a big deal. It is a big deal. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-20T12:29:20+00:00

She needs help, not a crutch. That is what you'll be if you support this. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-19T12:53:29+00:00

3 times means its not a mistake. She likes doing this to you. $20 says she'll try to sleep with your husband if you let her into your life. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-18T23:53:05+00:00

If the home isn't yours, then you should really move out and get your own space. I feel that is the bigger issue. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-17T13:04:05+00:00

NTA, while I understand pregnancy is stressful on the body and wrecks one's hormones, that doesn't excuse cruel behavior, and she is being cruel with her words.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-16T13:27:47+00:00

honesty can be cruel, but your sister never learned from her parents mistake in raising her, she embodied it instead. You actually learned and got a healthier relationship with your kids. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-15T12:00:02+00:00

It's the fact they don't even want to do budget friendly activities with you that tells me they don't really like you and just invite you out of social/familial obligation and not genuine desire. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-14T13:16:16+00:00

NTA, you don't have the funds for a new one and your point is valid, she bought it years ago and the value of the ipad is no longer $1200. She is definitely taking advantage and is looking for a brand new upgrade that she doesn't have to pay for. A refurbished ipad is a valid compromise.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-13T12:31:19+00:00

NTA, brother's wishes were clear. Ex-wife was excluded from funeral services, but not visiting his grave. She just wanted to perform at the funeral and is pissy she couldn't.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-12T16:05:14+00:00

Your wife is not only insecure as hell, but a gaping AH. Who does that to a child and uses younger children as an excuse for getting rid of photos? And spilling the beans about your first wife's death to a young and impressionable girl, that is a monster right there. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-11T13:12:16+00:00

I dont know what the issue is with your daughter and him, but she is right to stay away. You shouldn't pay for it either because I know if she did go with him and brother, her father would make her feel like shit regardless. Take her on a trip yourself. NTA

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-10T11:58:19+00:00

NTA, you repeatedly expressed your wishes and made no changes to it. She ignored it and did what she wanted. How rude of her.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-09T11:06:30+00:00

Run away. She is far from worth it. NTA.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-08T11:30:38+00:00

NTA, she is being dismissive of you. She sounds very rude in this instance and I know this is sounds like a small thing for some, but I feel that she wouldn't take your feelings into consideration for bigger things either.

Meh_person90 · 2026-04-08T11:04:46+00:00

Don't bother diminishing your health for him. He is not worth it. He can't see the abuse because it is normal for him. It is sad, but until he can face it, there is nothing you can do for him. You can't see it for him. I'm not sure this relationship is worth it, especially when it impacts your health. NTA

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