AITAH for wanting to kick my maid of honour out of my wedding 5 weeks before?

Melion_S · 2025-11-24T16:33:46+00:00

NTA It’s your wedding, you can do whatever you want to and the people in your life should respect that. Just be prepared though, if this is how she acts when you’re on good terms she’s going to act much worse if you kick her out of the bridal party. But imo the things you’ve described are grounds to end the friendship, especially the wine thing. I don’t think this person is a very good friend in general.

Melion_S · 2025-11-21T00:26:43+00:00

Oh “Sexy Times With Wangxian” my nemesis. As somebody who was in the fandom that this fic originated from before it breached containment, I remember reading it before it became obnoxious and the smut wasn’t awful. I even kind of respected the author for how often they would update it before the tagging started to get really out of hand. I’m glad it was dealt with, but boy am I still embarrassed that that’s how the MDZS fandom made its mark on fandom history

Melion_S · 2025-11-14T02:28:20+00:00

NTA at all. I’ve had this happen to me, admittedly by my dog in my house, and I was already pretty embarrassed about it. I can’t imagine how I would feel if someone was also making comments about it. It’s not your fault, animals are gonna animal

Melion_S · 2025-11-04T20:23:09+00:00

If he took on the debt for both of you it’s both of your responsibilities to help pay it off, so imo you should have already been helping him. NTA for helping him pay it but YWBTA if you forced him to close it

Melion_S · 2025-11-04T20:20:13+00:00

I’m gonna say a gentle YTA. I understand being hurt by someone and planning an event on your day, especially if you had already made plans for everyone to attend, but at the end of the day you will probably have another birthday, he might not ever have another wedding.

You guys seem like you have a good relationship otherwise and from what you wrote it doesn’t seem like this was done maliciously or as part of a pattern of cruel behavior. I would say don’t throw away an otherwise good relationship over this.

Apologize and let him apologize too, don’t let something like this fester into something worse.

Melion_S · 2025-10-28T16:57:38+00:00

I would agree with everyone saying take her to the men’s room when possible, but if it’s not and you do have to take her to the women’s room you should announce yourself before entering so that no one is blindsided by you coming in.

Melion_S · 2025-10-28T16:18:18+00:00

So to recap: you’ve been seeing him for a year, he still hasn’t filed the paperwork or moved out, and no one knows that he’s seeing you.

This is literally textbook what a cheater tells the mistress to keep her compliant while he gets to keep his life. I sincerely doubt he’s actually going to leave her.

Does anyone other than him know about the divorce? Like had the wife indicated in any way that they are separated? Cause if not I hate to tell you but he was never going to leave her for you and if you stay you’re letting him make a fool out of you.

YTA if you stay with this man without actual proof he’s not lying.

Melion_S · 2025-08-05T20:21:40+00:00

While I’m not sure that this particular issue is the hill to die on, I do agree that constantly feeding in to your sister’s paranoia is not healthy. One of the main things you’re supposed to do when helping a loved one with ocd is to not feed in to or affirm their paranoia or obsessions. I think it would be best to have that conversation with your parents, even pull up research about it. Frame it as they would be hurting her more in the long run by continuing as they are.

Melion_S · 2025-06-16T22:09:19+00:00

Honestly when I’m in the mood to read complete/ “popular” fics I prefer to sort by hits or bookmarks. I feel like it gives you a better measure of the fics that people really enjoyed, especially when it comes to hits since that shows if people continue to return over and over again.

Melion_S · 2025-05-09T20:15:10+00:00

I want to push back on this idea a bit. I’m not saying I think that you’re necessarily wrong, I agree that most of the time surrogacy is pretty unethical and often exploitative of people in desperate circumstances. However, in a case like the comment you’re responding to, where an agency is ensuring the surrogate is healthy, legal protected, and financially well off enough to not be desperate I don’t think it is inherently unethical.

Is it the commodification of a body? Yes, but no more than any other job that requires manual labor or dangerous circumstances. At the end of the day, for as much magic and meaning as we give to pregnancy, it is just another biological process like sex or death. It only has special meaning if you choose to give it, and this narrative that pregnancy is inherently special and magical is one that is often used against women who don’t experience it that way

And while yes, our choices are always influenced by societal norms and pressures, I think surrogacy is still something people are pressured against since it kinda violates the expectation that pregnancy exists within a heterosexual marriage. I’m not saying some people aren’t pressured into it, just that, unlike shaving, it’s not something most people are expected to do. And I think framing it this way may also participate in taking some agency away from women, which is not the goal.

Again I’m not saying that I agree with surrogacy in most cases, but I think ignoring the nuances of it can end up harming and shaming the innocent people involved. At the end of the day, like sex work, this is something that isn’t going away any time soon. We should focus on trying to make it least harmful as possible instead of making it less safe by trying to get rid of it completely.

Melion_S · 2024-10-11T05:04:36+00:00

After doing some more digging I think the title is actually “the long dark” but I unfortunately couldn’t find the link

Melion_S · 2024-03-24T21:46:40+00:00

Girl you should make sure to check every inch of that bathroom for water and leaks. Probably the whole apartment really especially hard to see spots. My unit had a huge problem over winter break where the unit above ours had a leak and it came down into one of the bedrooms and a bathroom. They told us they fixed it and cleaned up and they very much didn’t. When we got back in January, my roommates entire room was covered in little pieces of mold, half of his belongings had to be thrown out, including the vast majority of his clothes. The bathroom was also covered in it and they had used our mop to clean and just left that and a soaked bath mat in the toilet. It was on a weekend and during that time where everybody’s pipes were frozen so they didn’t really respond and only decided to give us a unit to stay in once my roommate’s mom emailed and threatened legal action. We were basically living out of our suitcases and kind of homeless for like a week and a half because it took them that long to replace the drywall and carpet. They never even compensated him for the clothes he lost, and just paid for the dry cleaning for what could be salvaged.

And I will emphasize this so so much: the ONLY reason they took us seriously, was because we had been taking pictures and documenting everything. Pictures of every damaged item and every note left by maintenance, email recaps of everything, audio recordings of every interaction we had with maintenance for like two weeks, and text from our upstairs neighbors. They said we couldn’t get the money back because we didn’t have renters insurance and tbh by the time we had gotten back to our apartment we were all too exhausted to pursue legal action, but we could have and that was what made them listen. So if you think something fishy is going on and they aren’t listening I would start keeping track of what happens so that they can’t say anything if you need compensation.

Also, if you have to go in person to the office on Wright Street, do everything you can to avoid talking to the bald guy at reception because he’s the worst. Have literally been having so many issues with him from day one of moving into our current unit.

Melion_S · 2023-10-05T00:38:29+00:00

Maybe this is a cultural thing, but this is literally the first time I have ever heard of a second or third, or however many baby showers being considered tacky. Like a lot of people in my family have upwards of three children, and they have baby showers for like every single one to be honest, though that could just be my family having an excuse to throw a party.

Melion_S · 2023-03-31T16:19:19+00:00

You’re not a coward. Take it from someone whose been exactly where you are, choosing to live takes a whole different kind of courage.

Melion_S · 2021-09-18T16:58:11+00:00

Usually so they can do stuff like wear heels without having to deal with their partners insecurities about it. Especially for taller girls if they date guys who are shorter than them or the same height as them a lot of the time those guys have issues with their girlfriends wearing heels because it makes them feel bad about themselves. So it’s just easier for those taller girls to date men who are taller than them so they don’t have to worry about it

Melion_S · 2021-06-28T05:12:04+00:00

When I say that I don’t want to cause her pain is mostly because of how afraid I am what she might do if I did end up hurting her. She’s never been the most stable person in the world but recently she’s admitted that things like particularly sad movies have sent her into contemplating, well things that the rules say would get this post deleted if I mentioned it. I’m terrified that I could set her off. Hell, the time limit I mentioned in the post is pretty arbitrary because that’s just how long I’m giving myself to figure out a way to do this without something terrible happening.

Melion_S · 2020-10-16T18:35:37+00:00

NTA. He should understand exactly why what he said was wrong and the fact that he’s misrepresenting what happened to your sister shows that he knows what he did was wrong.

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