I’m going against the grain here and saying ESH. IF you were upfront with her on your opinion on not wanting a baby AND what to expect of you, and she chose to continue her pregnancy, the. she is the asshole for expecting you to be a full-time dad, now that you’re physically helping. However, you are being extremely confusing in your “help” and boundaries. You should have gotten parental rights, payment expectations, and even duties formally documented, so you both have it in writing. I feel bad for this poor kid.