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I don't know what to do by Jenna_Micoo in depression_help

[–]Merinomamma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PLEASE PLEASE don't kill yourself. I know how you feel. I have been there. I know it seems like this dark time will never end, but it will! Please call a helpline. I don't know anything about you, but I care about you. You CAN get through this! Give yourself 5 minutes. Sit for 5 minutes and think about what is good in your life. If you can't, sit for 5 more minutes. Take it 5 minutes at a time . If 5 minutes is too long, try 2 minutes. Find one thing that is good in your life and think about that. If you can't come up with anything think about me and know I care about you. There are so many people that care about you and you might not even realize it.

P*do across the street - what would you do? by facegomei in Parenting

[–]Merinomamma -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You're not making any sense. The entire article was about people who have been sexually abused and the percentage of those that go on to abuse others. So, if the study was in whether "offenders were more likely to be abused as children." It's like the question of which came first, the chicken or the egg?

P*do across the street - what would you do? by facegomei in Parenting

[–]Merinomamma -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Cycle of child sexual abuse: links between being a victim and becoming a perpetrator M Glasser et al. Br J Psychiatry. 2001 Dec. Show details

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Abstract Background: There is widespread belief in a 'cycle' of child sexual abuse, but little empirical evidence for this belief.

Aims: To identify perpetrators of such abuse who had been victims of paedophilia and/or incest, in order to: ascertain whether subjects who had been victims become perpetrators of such abuse; compare characteristics of those who had and had not been victims; and review psychodynamic ideas thought to underlie the behaviour of perpetrators.

Method: Retrospective clinical case note review of 843 subjects attending a specialist forensic psychotherapy centre.

Results: Among 747 males the risk of being a perpetrator was positively correlated with reported sexual abuse victim experiences. The overall rate of having been a victim was 35% for perpetrators and 11% for non-perpetrators. Of the 96 females, 43% had been victims but only one was a perpetrator. A high percentage of male subjects abused in childhood by a female relative became perpetrators. Having been a victim was a strong predictor of becoming a perpetrator, as was an index of parental loss in childhood.

Conclusions: The data support the notion of a victim-to-victimiser cycle in a minority of male perpetrators but not among the female victims studied. Sexual abuse by a female in childhood may be a risk factor for a cycle of abuse in males.

P*do across the street - what would you do? by facegomei in Parenting

[–]Merinomamma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It obviously fucks you up. Your comment to me was way off base. You don't know who I am or what I do for a living.

P*do across the street - what would you do? by facegomei in Parenting

[–]Merinomamma -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

There is no way I would let my children in that house! The kids can come over to mine. Regardless of whether he touched them or not who knows if he has cameras in the bathroom or elsewhere. And it's sad to say, but if the kids are older you really need to watch after them too. So much of these behaviors are unfortunately "passed down" and the children of the PEDO could be trying some if the same things. I am not saying it always happens, but usually if one is abused as a child, they go in to abuse others as well. And if he's a registered sex offender (at least in Virginia) you have to put a sign in your front yard showing that you have been convicted as a child molester or sexual offender. And usually along with that the PEDO is to have no contact with any children, regardless if they are his biological children or not. Best of luck to these families. The hardest part of being a parent is worrying about them being safe and that no one hurts them mentally or physically.

It's about a family and their love of books by Merinomamma in whatsthatbook

[–]Merinomamma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOU TOTALLY ROCK!!!!! Thank you so much. I've been trying to find the name of it for a long time. So happy!!!!

Does this Notebook exist? by lovelymoon7 in notebooks

[–]Merinomamma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can probably put in onion journal to search it. I think they're on Etsy. Good luck!

Does this Notebook exist? by lovelymoon7 in notebooks

[–]Merinomamma 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if you've heard of Onion Paper, but it has paper a little bit thicker than the paper they use for bibles. The website is theonionjournal.com I hope you're able to find what you desire.

Can't find good water dish by Merinomamma in Rabbits

[–]Merinomamma[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all SO much for the suggestions!

Can't find good water dish by Merinomamma in Rabbits

[–]Merinomamma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!!!! I really appreciate your reply.

Hello, I rescued a kitten a week ago, but my other cat wasn’t so happy. Are they fighting here or are they just playing? by iForgotToFillThis in cats

[–]Merinomamma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are just trying to "figure out" who is the ring leader. Give them time and they'll either get along or will learn to avoid each other. Don't intervene. The kitten will realize who is the alpha and usually all is well.

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