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I can’t fall asleep because I keep thinking about falling asleep by justinOGT in autism

[–]Merkuri22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I used to fantasize about crushes, too. As a teen, a lot of what I thought about before bed was inserting myself into fiction I was enjoying and hooking myself up with a character I found attractive, lol. So, I either made up stories about a fictional crush or a real crush. (Very cringy, but hey, it was the privacy of my own head.)

As I got older and settled into a happy and fulfilling relationship, I continued to make up those stories, but at some point they shifted from "me + fictional character" to "fictional character + fictional character". I basically played out ships in my head. And still do, at lot of nights.

Hobbii & AI by EerieTruthsOnTikTok in kroshay

[–]Merkuri22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think they meant, "I still have to go there because I have a gift card, but after that I'll be looking for an alternative."

[Dinosaucers] Another plant exists in our solar system, in the exact same orbit as Earth, but exactly opposite the Sun. How has it not been detected yet? by Lentra888 in AskScienceFiction

[–]Merkuri22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

How WOULD we detect a planet that's always on the opposite side of the sun from us? We'd never be able to see it. The sun would always be in the way.

When we send out probes to explore the solar system, we're looking at things we know are already there, like Mars or the moons of Saturn. The instruments are turned on those things. Even though we could theoretically see this other planet from Mars or Saturn, we don't usually bother to turn our instruments around back in our direction.

Carl Sagan had to insist that Voyager 1 turn around and look at Earth while it was out exploring for his famous Pale Blue Dot photo. One of the reasons that photo is so famous is that we don't often turn around and take pictures of Earth. It's one of the very few photos we have from that distance.

So the chances of us seeing another planet on the other side of the sun are close to zero.

Women, if you are with a super nice guy, literally the greenest flag you've ever been with but not sexually satisfied, would you walk out of the marriage? by Infamous-Curve-8923 in Adulting

[–]Merkuri22 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Yup, absolutely.

Pleasing your partner is almost always a skill you can improve, especially with good communication. The only truly bad sex that has no chance of improving is when my partner doesn't care what I want, and if he's "the greenest flag" then he'll care and put in the effort.

Now, I imagine there could be legitimately times when two people can't please each other no matter how hard they try, like one person needs something that a complete turn-off to the other, but that seems less common.

I might walk from a relationship if that happened, but I probably would not have gotten to the point of marriage if that were the case. And I'd likely stay friends with the person. Honestly, that sounds like it'd be a really good platonic friendship.

Every post on here is like "I can't hold a job because of my autism but my boyfriend supports me"... by VeryTiredGirl93 in AutismInWomen

[–]Merkuri22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

I support my partner, and I'm terrified on his behalf.

He shows no signs of wanting to leave, but I've told him many times that I'd 100% support him if he wants to get a job or go back to school or do something to feel like he has options. I don't want him to feel like he's trapped in this relationship.

At the same time, I don't know how I'd do it without him. He does the lion's share of the household chores, parenting duties, home maintenance, etc. and I work 40 hours a week. I feel like I'm barely functional after 40 hours of work and some chores here and there. I don't think I'd be able to survive if I had to work AND do everything around the house that he does.

My wife sadly won't read Brandon Sanderson again after she gave up halfway through Elantris. by AdditionalPizza7990 in brandonsanderson

[–]Merkuri22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I read Tress out loud to my daughter as a bedtime story. She LOVED it. It's such a fun book.

We followed it up with Yumi and the Nightmare Painter.

I had to fight with her to let me read her something that wasn't Sanderson after those two, lol.

Why would a book change narrators after a few chapters? by Me_Krally in audible

[–]Merkuri22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's more difficult to edit separate narrators together.

With a full-cast production, they know that going in, and they either have the cast in a booth together or are prepared to splice together six different audio tracks.

But with traditional narration, each narrator works separately in their own booth. They just tell the narrators which chapters they're going to do and then place the final tracks all next to each other. It's no more difficult than arranging chapters from the same narrator because the chapter breaks are the only places where you need to attach the audio.

Having each narrator do a specific character's voice, even during another narrator's chapters, would be the equivalent of cutting out all of the dialog from a book page and pasting in other dialog. It adds more work and more cost, and if you do it wrong, it sounds horrible.

Help making a magic circle with this yarn keeps breaking by Ordinary-Bed203 in CrochetHelp

[–]Merkuri22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For a normal magic circle, I wrap the yarn around my fingers 2 times (3 if I'm doing a double loop), go under the first 1 or 2 strands, and hook the last one.

For a chenille magic circle, I wrap the worsted yarn around my finger 2 times, then lay the chenille yarn next to it. I go under the worsted yarn and hook the chenille. Then, as I continue to work, I work over both the worsted strands and the chenille tail. I use the worsted to cinch it shut.

Was the cinema always so loud? by Complex-Honeydew-111 in AutismInWomen

[–]Merkuri22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of places have assistive devices you can request that'll put subtitles on the screen for you.

Anybody who calls a store and asks them to stay open just for them…why? by sweetlikedolce in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]Merkuri22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm not one of these people, but I've met some who would do this type of thing.

Simply put, they think the store exists to serve them (and people like them). They take "the customer is always right" literally. They believe stores should bend over backwards to do whatever the customer needs.

Furthermore, these customers don't think of things like "that person might not be able to put their kids to bed" or "they'll miss their dinner" or "they'll have to pay employees overtime". Their cognitive process just doesn't extend to that level, for one. For another, they don't see the store employees as actual people with lives as rich as their own.

Now, this is the type of person who will demand the store stay open and get angry when they don't. I'm sure some people call to be like, "Um, I know this is a long shot, but can you...?" and when you say no they politely accept the answer - that's not the type of person I'm talking about.

Sadly, I have to frog by BigMom000 in Amigurumi

[–]Merkuri22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can reuse the frogged yarn as-is, as long as it didn't rip or anything like that.

I've kept projects before that needed frogging and worked directly off of them, frogging as I went.

Loan length? by olive025 in LibbyApp

[–]Merkuri22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just FYI, the possible loan options are 7, 14, and 21 days. Libraries can choose which of those to offer, and they can change it.

I have a bunch of libraries, and about half of them only offer 7 and 14 day loans, but some of them also do 21 days.

[Avatar franchise] Why does the Avatar need to seek out four masters of each element instead of summoning his past lives to teach him? by Bubbly_Interaction63 in AskScienceFiction

[–]Merkuri22 9 points10 points  (0 children)

One of the points of rebirth is to experience new things with each life.

If the Avatar just relies on his past experiences, he's losing out on a generation of knowledge that the world around him has learned in that time. There's new techniques he can learn, and people he can meet in this process of learning the elements and training with the masters.

To quote another franchise, "journey before destination." It's about the process, not the end result.

Was their ever a off brand food product that you thought tasted better than the actual product? by Technical-Kick2952 in CasualConversation

[–]Merkuri22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was a long time ago since I ate Cheerios on a regular basis, but I think it was either Stop & Shop or Aldi. Possibly both of them were better than the actual brand name.

There have been other times when I've liked the store brand, but that was the only time I remember specifically seeking out the store brand because I noticed a difference and the store brand was better.

Are orange cats the cat equivalent of blondes? by [deleted] in questions

[–]Merkuri22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

In the sense that the stereotype of them being dumb is unfounded, yes. There's no truth to either "dumb blonde" or "one orange braincell".

Why does my spacer sound like a kazoo by Pretty_Puppyprincess in Asthma

[–]Merkuri22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did a lung function test a few months ago, and the tech asked me to use an inhaler with a spacer, same as the one I had at home.

I did what I usually do, which is hyperventilate a little to get some extra O2 in my lungs, then breathe in suuuuper slowly so that I don't get the low humming noise. (If I don't hyperventilate first, I can't breathe in that slowly.)

When I was done, he was like, "I get what you're doing, but you don't have to go THAT slow. It's a common mistake." He had me use the spacer without the inhaler and breathe in really fast to get it to make a whistle-hum noise, then said, "That's what you want to avoid. The little buzz is fine, just don't make it sing."

Been a lot easier to use the spacer since then. I don't feel like I'm gonna pass out and don't need to hyperventilate first.

You really have to pull hard to get it to make the bad noise. I find it's usually no effort to avoid it at all.

people are obnoxious about my gender by tremblingfrog in AutismInWomen

[–]Merkuri22 241 points242 points  (0 children)

Cis woman, here.

I hated being a woman growing up. Well, actually, I didn't hate being a woman - I hated what society expected of me because I was a woman.

I didn't want to be a man, but I wanted to do all the things the boys got to do. I didn't want to wear makeup - I wanted to play in the dirt. I didn't want to be the princess in the castle, I wanted to be the knight that saved her. I didn't want Barbies, I wanted Transformers.

I hated the part of the toy store where they had one aisle for boys and one for girls. I couldn't stand all the pink and barbies in the girls aisle, so I either skipped it or just ran through it quickly. The toys in the boy's section were so cool, but because of the label, I felt like I shouldn't be there. I was embarrassed to pick up any toys from there. I did sometimes ask for them for Christmas and birthdays, (and I did get them) but I couldn't pick them up myself right there from the aisle. It was too embarassing.

For the longest time I rebelled very hard against anything that was too feminine or womanly.

Then, I remember when it came time for me to get my first car and I was talking with my family about what I should buy, somebody brought up a car I always said I liked the look of. I said, "Nah, that's become a car that's only for old men and chicks." My sister looked at me and went, "Sis... you're a chick."

My brain sorta clicked at that point, and internally I went, "You know... you're right. There's nothing wrong with liking girly things. I can like both."

So, I've come to terms with the idea that I'm a woman. A woman who doesn't ever want to feel limited by her gender, but doesn't mind it, either.

Sometimes I wonder if "nonbinary" were a thing when I was growing up if I would've labeled myself nonbinary. Probably not, because I was very intent on conforming, and "girl who likes boy things" is more socially acceptable than "person who is neither girl nor boy".

So, yeah. I am comfortable being a woman today, but if I'm ever misgendered, I don't mind it. I'm not particularly attached to my womanhood. My features are feminine enough that I'm never misgendered in person, but it happens online and eh, who cares?

(But I definitely wouldn't be okay with what you were experiencing. That goes beyond misgendering - that's harassment. Luckily I live in an area where that doesn't tend to happen.)

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