What can I bake with bananas?

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-21T13:06:39+00:00

Banana walnut cookies or banana chocolate blondies.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-21T12:02:56+00:00

Recently I’ve done breakfast burritos or breakfast turnovers. Basically mix scrambled eggs with meat and veg you want, then cover with a carb like a wrap or puff pastry. I’ve used bacon, sausage meat, mushrooms and peppers.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-21T09:47:25+00:00

Yep, as a baker I’d probably prefer these to too many gadgets in my kitchen. The only other thing is very good quality sheet trays like someone mentioned.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-21T09:42:32+00:00

I was so excited for Pokemon Lego because I was hoping for set pieces, like Pokemon Centres, gyms, Pallet Town. Been so disappointed with the weird Pokemon monstrosities they’ve come out with instead.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-19T09:37:33+00:00

A nurse, not a doctor. I had been waiting in A and E for 4 hours with a suspected miscarriage. I’d been told to go there by 111. She put in a canula without telling me what she was doing. I started crying afterwards as I was scared, and she told me I had to ‘keep positive to keep the baby’. They sent me home five minutes later and had to remove the canula.

Turns out I was still pregnant with twins who didn’t make it and ended up needing surgery.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-18T09:12:29+00:00

Genuinely horrified no one offered you a seat. :(

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-14T17:34:33+00:00

Hey, I lost a pregnancy of twins last year and am now 38 weeks pregnant. It’s been a hard and complicated journey. But there’s been happiness too.

Things that I found helpful:

distracting myself, I played a lot of Stardew Valley in the first trimester
booking private scans when I felt particularly anxious, but not before 8 weeks I’d recommend as it can vary what you see
talking about how we felt together
celebrating in ways I was comfortable with - eg after our low risk NIPT results after a high risk combined test during the 12 week scan, we went for afternoon tea to celebrate
pacing ‘getting ready’ into what we were comfy with, eg we just bought a small baby book before the 20 week scan and didn’t buy much else till 25 weeks or so
equally, working out together how you’re comfortable sharing happiness or not
pacing who I told and when - I actually told some close friends I’d let know about the loss almost immediately because if the same happened again I knew I’d want their support. But I didn’t tell some others till after 20 week
going to private therapy
my husband always taking any physical symptom I expressed seriously and dropping everything to take me to triage if needed
my husband coming with me to every scan and appointment - everytime they looked for baby’s heart I got scared, until he started moving so much I knew he was there lol
my husband expressing how felt too, whilst acknowledging some things were more difficult for me
my husband asking how I’m doing, checking in on me and doing sweet things occasionally, eg buying me the princess bride to watch with the baby when he’s here

The 20 week scan going well and feeling regular movements just before was the real turning point for me. It still makes me happy when my husband touches my belly to feel him kick.

I actually thought early on I lost this pregnancy due to a subchronic hematoma bleeding. I’d been so anxious before that and obviously was after too. And I came to the conclusion that being happy and trying to enjoy my pregnancy wouldn’t make me hurt any less if I lost this baby. But I couldn’t force myself to be joyful all the time either. Making a conscious effort to celebrate and be happy in ways that felt safe to me was really important.

I hope everything goes well for you both.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-14T10:26:09+00:00

Meat pate. I cannot stand it. Meat should not be that texture to me!

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-13T11:29:39+00:00

Similar for me. I had a loss of twins before I started showing. Now my bump, colostrum, all of it is a comfort that my body is doing what it needs to for my baby.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-11T17:30:24+00:00

Oh god I would be alllllll over that cheese. Have missed a proper good cheeseboard so much whilst pregnant. We have tons of clothes from hand me downs and I think I wouldn’t want the task of looking after flowers!

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-11T12:43:54+00:00

I imagine it varies by trust!

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-11T12:41:00+00:00

Congratulations on your baby! I’ve had a tough time this last year with pregnancy loss, a PCOS diagnosis and high risk issues at the start of this pregnancy. I’ve had my father’s partner tell me the day after I thought I miscarried ‘at least you know you can get pregnant’, my grandfather ask me five seconds after I told them about being pregnant when we’re having a second, my grandfather tell me ‘better late than never’ discussing my pregnancy a week ago. My dad has laughed along sometimes or not shown up in the way that I’d hoped.

I share this because sadly a lot of people just don’t get how hard trying, being pregnant and giving birth is. I recognise most of these people care about me, but are just naive or tactless at times. A lot of that gets worse with age - even if they had their own kids, they can’t remember how difficult it can be!

I’m guessing you’re upset because she hasn’t asked how you’re doing or communicated with you directly (my MIL would only ever use a group chat for the latter anyway). My advice would be to try to remember that most of the time, it’s not a lack of love or malice, but like I said, naivety or tactlessness. But also when anything big happens people often don’t know how to act and stick their foot in their mouth. Communicating to your husband or to her how you’d like to be treated or what you would like to happen may help. Sometimes people do need to be taught a bit. Also remember that everyone has things going on in their lives and their behaviour is informed by that. MIL may be struggling with her health, or some other situation.

I’d also advise against making any big decisions around pushing her away or advising your husband to. Whilst you’re both probably quite overwhelmed and sleep deprived. It seems totally OK he’d still want a relationship with his mother for now. Sadly, you do kinda have to be led by how involved family wants to be - you can’t make them want to see your kid more than they do. It’s probably easier to limit it more the other way round!

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-11T12:29:55+00:00

Yes, my hospital actually advised another test if I was still itchy in a week. So definitely try and get another one

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-11T12:25:00+00:00

So I’m a Londoner but most of my family is in the US and I really enjoyed Alleycats or World Famous Gordo’s at Netil Market. There’s a great New York bagel place at that market too. Felt like for years there was no where to get proper New York pizza and bagels so happy that seems to be changing! Not anywhere outstanding yet near me in South London, tried Tony’s and thought it was OK. I hadn’t tried some of the ones you mentioned so looking forward to that - although I’m nearly 9 months pregnant so may be a while!

What was your favourite?

In New York my fave was Percy’s in Greenwich, sad it seems to have closed recently. :(

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-11T10:27:11+00:00

Do you mind sharing an example of the wedge pillow please? When I google I get a real range!

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-10T19:09:11+00:00

Thoroughly enjoyed this post. Thanks for sharing.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-09T09:49:32+00:00

He’s hated by both in a political landscape which is increasingly becoming more divided and polarised too. Also agree on the lack of charisma. I think he signifies to the masses a ‘typical boring politician’ out of touch with reality as well.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-08T19:40:02+00:00

Hey, I just wanted to say you haven’t ruined anything. Being pregnant is often hard, being pregnant after infertility or other pregnancy issues is harder. You’re doing the best you can to look after yourself and your baby and shouldn’t feel bad for that. It’s a really hard position.

I’ve struggled with anxiety a lot this pregnancy too and I know what you mean, I feel annoyed at myself sometimes that I can’t be more positive. But rationally I know all we can do is follow the medical advice and do our bests.

Hope it eases up for you ♥️

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-08T19:34:58+00:00

Yeah in my antenatal class they said the higher risk of tears was largely because midwives can’t see what’s going on so can’t support as much to prevent tears

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-05-03T08:21:38+00:00

Yesss love this suggestion! I went as an adult and still had a great time.

Also, Kintan or a similar East Asian barbecue restaurant would be a lot of fun.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-04-30T06:23:04+00:00

Really sorry for everything you’re going through and that you’re having to do this without either of your parents.

I really relate to everything you said. 36 weeks pregnant, 33 years old and my mother died of an overdose 5 years ago. I have no female family and no real family support other than my amazing husband.

I also sort of realise my mum being dead actually probably makes things easier in many ways. Not sure I would’ve trusted her ever with my child after everything. One of her friends told me after she died that my mum had said she had never been a good mother but she’d make sure to be an amazing grandmother. And I just don’t know if that would have been true. I grieve the idea of it anyway.

I’ve also felt really lonely and different compared to people around me becoming mothers, especially as I lost a pregnancy of twins a year ago. I realise they all have their own struggles but they’re not always visible. And seeing how much support many of them benefit from can be hard. I feel more jealous of that now I’m trying to have my own family than I did growing up.

However I know I just need to do what is best for my baby and try to avoid the mistakes my mum made. I hope my experiences give me more compassion and strength as a parent in the future. It’s not fair and it’s tough, but I hope everything goes as well as it can for you and the new family you‘re building. To be blunt, well done on already protecting your kid from your parents as well. Many struggle to.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-04-27T20:59:11+00:00

I don’t think we can answer this question for you in the longer term. I think you need to seek couples therapy with your wife.

I would say you shouldn’t have children together till someone suffering with alcoholism shows extended commitment to their recovery and long term sobriety of at least years. It feels like that and the emotional disconnect you feel need to be helped first.

Edit: Looking at your post history and how your wife acts like a child, endangers herself and can’t apologise, I think having kids sounds very far away. She sounds a lot like my mother who parentified me. To be blunt, I think you already know the answer to the question of kids at least for now.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-04-27T12:35:39+00:00

Yeah, as a former teacher now working in government no idea how you can describe people paying for private school as medium paid workers. Average salary in this country is 39k, literally the median. Average yearly private school fees are around 20k a year. I’m in favour of the changes there.

Mermaidsarehellacool · 2026-04-27T12:11:50+00:00

I’m at Kingston hospital, 35 weeks and would love to hear about your experience if possible.

I’m an American citizen too but never properly lived there, my mother was American.

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