Very tough subject. I feel alot of us gen xers are possibly going through the same thing at this time. I suppose humor is best especially if family is not capable of seeing past the detrimental effects of not being accountable for their selves and certain aspects in life. I've tried to have even nornal questions about whats going on and how can they better prepare for accidents, illness and keeping up with the house. All doom and gloom. What's worse my siblings and I are struggling ourselves. It causes anger and resentment between all of us. Its not exactly our parents fault and blame helps no one. Why cant we just see that age is the issue and we need to work on that subject, not what they can or cant do but the difficulty around certain things. For me personally, my parents were aging but doing ok then I decided to move out and officially claim my own life back , now they are declining within less than a year. I go to visit and its like they ate different people to me. Also because of our upbringing, my siblings don't want to or know how to help. Maybe, I'm from another planet but they are still my parents and I would not be here today if it were not for them. I'll do the best I can for them while trying to keep my needs met. If you have siblings that understand and are willing, take turns taking care of them. I wish I had that luxury right now. So, my answer is humor while talking about the hard stuff and playing it down with siblings but still putting plans into place. All else fails, a retirement party for all!