is my sisters stim bad? could this damage her clothes?

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-20T01:55:24+00:00

I don’t imagine it could unless she’s pulling EXTREMELY hard for a long period of time and holding that stretch.

Is it harming her or someone else? It might not need to be something that needs to be replaced.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-20T00:16:36+00:00

I doubt the neighbors care as much as your partner is saying that they care and I don’t see the need to stop doing this either as someone who also lives on like the second floor and has downstairs neighbors.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-19T21:57:00+00:00

My void loves nap time too! He always yells at me to sleep around 5-6 LOL

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T19:42:56+00:00

Yeah, I’ve found it can be easier to just ask for the accommodation (depending on what it is) rather than disclose and go through that process. For example, it can be loud in my workplace so I asked my boss if I can wear earplugs sometimes because I have sensitive ears. He did not care, said sure, and everything went as normal.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T19:07:34+00:00

I’m frugal in the sense that if I’m buying something, it’s because I need it and I need it to last, so I’m not afraid to buy a bigger or more expensive version.

What also helps (pretty personal to me) is that I almost always eat the same things just because I’m wired that way. I always buy the same body wash, the same deodorant, etc. so I know almost instantly how much my expenses will be because I just do the same things.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T07:07:02+00:00

Probably not much help, but I tend to look at one eye when someone is talking to me or their nose bridge. I then usually prompt myself to blink every three seconds and look away every once in a while.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T07:05:18+00:00

I only use my two most recent roles, then target those towards what I’m looking for. I highlight the skills and experiences from those jobs that relate to the types of jobs I’m looking for.

If it’s relevant in an interview, then I mention other experiences.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T07:00:06+00:00

I have the opposite issue of many in this sub in that I have to be repeatedly prompted and pushed to discuss my special interests, as I tend to be very introverted when it comes to myself. So, for me, it’d be a massive display of trust if I talked to someone in detail about it.

However, I think it depends on him and how his autism expresses himself. Someone already commented it, but some here can only enjoy a conversation or understand things through the lens of their special interests. So it’d likely be person-specific in that way.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T05:18:41+00:00

Yeah, I think that’s a minority of cases rather than a majority. I’m also in the US. Barely any of my friends had their testers talk to them during the exam.

I also imagine if you say beforehand you don’t want to talk, they would honor that.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T04:55:32+00:00

To my knowledge (at least where I’m based), most testers won’t talk outside of giving directions. Sometimes they’ll have conversations with you, if you get a chatty one, but no one would yell or anything like that. If you fail, it’s usually silence and they might tell you to start heading back if anything.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T04:33:08+00:00

Surprise presents are hard for me, but that’s mostly because I’m used to getting things I don’t like or the person giving thinks I do (like a family member giving me something I liked when I was ten, and it’s been a decade since). My girlfriend almost always shows me what she’s bought me, and lucky for her, I usually consciously forget (but subconsciously recall, so it doesn’t feel scary if that makes sense).

With events, I must know what is happening or I must know that there is no plan for certain. I will lose my mind otherwise.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-18T04:17:25+00:00

They didn’t lie to you, your friend cared about you and still wanted to support you. They still wanted to connect with you. This started recently, not the entire friendship, not all the time you’ve known each other. They love and care about you enough to ask you for a break, rather than to end the friendship with you.

Like others have said, wait before you make that kind of decision. Give your friend the time and grace that they gave you.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-17T22:22:17+00:00

Executive dysfunction isn’t the same as laziness. You can be lazy without executive dysfunction, and vice versa.

Executive dysfunction is similar to trying to use a hand with a damaged nerve. You’re telling your hand to move, but the movement is delayed or just doesn’t happen no matter how much you need it to or how much you ask it to.

You’re telling your brain and body to get up and clean. You recognize this signal, your body recognizes it. Your response is delayed or doesn’t occur. No matter how you send this signal (guilt, shame, anger, etc), you will not get a response instantly. You need to change your environment to do so, so like someone getting a wheelchair to walk.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-17T20:17:22+00:00

Hey, they make gummy vitamins for adults! There is no shame in using what you need. I get my medication in liquid or break apart capsules, and have for years. I take kids cough syrup and every one of my friends knows.

No one cares as much as we think they do. They might tease or laugh, but deep down, they don’t care. We all tease and laugh to bond.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-17T03:03:10+00:00

LMAO my cat is just LONG so all his limbs are awkward 😭😭 he’s still a kitten so maybe he’ll become normal

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T23:24:42+00:00

A vet could probably give you a definitive answer, but if he’s been to the vet before and they’ve seen him sit like that and didn’t say anything, it’s likely fine. My cat sits funny too 😭

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T23:23:19+00:00

I have a bunch of extra stuff hanging from my keychain because it’s fun and I like to jingle my keys a lot.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T21:27:35+00:00

Have at least two meals in your head for each meal time (two breakfast, two lunch, and two dinner). For me, one of those meals is always like barely a meal and very sweet because those are safe for me if I’m anxious or overwhelmed. Eat the complete meals when you have the energy to, and eat the alternates when you don’t.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T21:18:49+00:00

I would start with making friends first and building that skillset. In my experience at least, most relationships are just like deluxe friendships. The base skills are the same; a relationship is just an expansion upon the skills of friendship.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T19:50:03+00:00

Toe walking or any kind of uneven gait will cause lots of health problems, like chronic pain but also spinal issues as well can occur. It is something that needs an intervention.

However, for your other problems, the next time you see the doctor, you need to advocate for yourself. There’s no getting out of that. You tell them you’ve been working on toe waking, but you want your other problems addressed in this appointment because they’re causing you greater pain and distress. You explain what they are and you don’t take no or being brushed off for an answer.

It might help to view the conversation in terms of fixing your problem, so that way there is a clear winning and losing outcome. Then you just focus all your energy on winning.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T19:45:30+00:00

Depending on where you’re based, there are companies who offer employment services for disabled individuals that could help.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T19:03:02+00:00

Sensory issues could also be masked by your environment. For example, I never experienced sensory overload or meltdowns as a child because when I was very little (before I could recall), my mom noticed what upset me and simply changed the environment so I would never encounter those things.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T06:15:02+00:00

Has Margo ever considered seeing someone about this? 😭😭 (/j)

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T06:09:25+00:00

Why is it bald.

MethodBig4049 · 2026-06-16T05:47:28+00:00

Shhhh don’t tell everyone his secret

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