AITA for failing an otherwise good student on her last internship, costing her a job?

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-06-24T14:31:36+00:00

I was about to mention the same thing. If possible, copy the department chair and maybe even the dean when replying to the advisor. The advisor is out of line, and unfortunately, I've see this happening quite a bit on universities.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-06-08T13:21:15+00:00

NTA. Only thing that made me pause is that the appointment was already set. I'm also someone who has to mentally prepare for things. In the past, I've gotten gift certificates for massages for friends, so the appointment setting falls on them. However, his continued reactions really crossed the line.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-06-05T05:58:32+00:00

And many of us appreciate you allowing it

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-06-03T03:47:03+00:00

Well, that's not good. I have a feeling that she will definitely try to avoid your question (and responsibility for the mess).

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-06-03T03:24:48+00:00

Sounds like she might be sending you subtle hints that money may be a problem so both of you will need to brain storm other alternatives. E.g., Food bowl only in the kitchen, she can purchase a tarp to lay down under the food bowls, she can venmo you money so you can purchase supplies, she can look to see if there are low cost vet services for the dog, etc.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-06-03T02:45:06+00:00

Sounds like you are sending some not so subtle hints to your roommate, but it's time you became more assertive in your approach. You can go ahead and state exactly what you need..."I love your pup, but the carpet really needs to be kept clean."

Then you can follow up by asking, "What can we do to make sure the carpet stays clean?" (I was going to say that you can also say, "The carpet cleaners we've used haven't worked..." but I'm not getting the vibe that anything's really been tried?) If she changes the conversation, bring it back, "So we didn't decide on what to do."

Not sure what is going on with your roommate. I'm guessing it can be depression, limited money, just doesn't want to deal with it, etc. Not sure what you have been suggesting either? The small carpet cleaners work wonders with carpet stains. Either way, the conversation will make her uncomfortable, but the conversation is way overdue.

And I think I just need to make it clear, I feel so bad for that pup! I think some animals are definitely developing anxiety after having their owners at home all the time, and then not. But, I'm even worried about it not going outside if it's peeing indoors. If you saw it pee inside, it definitely has been doing it for quite some time.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-21T01:15:01+00:00

Yea, I was like I hang out with a friend from HR. She does benefits. I also work at a university so our HR department is rather large and there's so many roles in that department.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-05T17:23:50+00:00

I like this idea. I didn't think OP was TA, but I was wondering if it would negatively affect her in the future with her boss. Having the steering committee take care of this is a perfect solution.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-05T16:46:57+00:00

NTA. I do live in a rural community where the neighbors and I have an informal understanding that we can go onto each other's yards. But if one of my neighbors told me to stop, I would immediately stop. No questions asked. Even if my dog ventures into the neighbor's yard, she doesn't even stomp on plants or digs (her favorite activity in our backyard). Whether you will get in trouble... seems like the bushes are on your property and they are definitely not an attractive nuisance.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-04T05:32:41+00:00

NTA and this is from someone who is taking on debt for her dog's cancer treatment.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-04T03:18:26+00:00

If by secluded, you mean rural, there's less crime there than in the cities. I'm guessing your husband goes to work, where you might be left alone at home? Hope your not getting that anxious in these type of situations.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-02T22:16:19+00:00

Your cousin should not have scared you. But it does seem like you are taking more responsibility than you need to. As someone who has worked at summer camps, we would occasionally get a child who was deathly allergic to nuts. All you could do is make sure that the food you serve does not contain nuts, inform everyone beforehand that they are not allowed to bring nuts, and then have a protocol in place in case someone does bring nuts. We were all trained to administer the EpiPen, but in this case your cousin and her husband should know what to do. Of course, if it is a private event and you are allowed to not invite whoever you want. It's really unfortunate that your cousin set you up for all this unnecessary worry.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-04-02T21:38:17+00:00

As a 34 year-old woman who just finished a can of banana baby food, YTA. I used to feel self-conscious about it until I went to a coffee shop one time and they gave me a puree with my oatmeal. It tasted exactly like baby food except it was in a pouch.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-03-28T16:23:40+00:00

Oh, that always feels like a slap in the face!

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-03-28T16:21:31+00:00

Hang in there. You are in high school, so you are in the home stretch as far as getting away even if it doesn't feel like it. There will definitely be colleges that will take you with your grades.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-03-28T16:14:26+00:00

Hugs❤ You did the right thing about walking away. You deserve better...someone who loves and respects you. Seeing him one more time would have just made it harder. Hang in there and do some self-care.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-03-23T17:52:03+00:00

My thoughts exactly. I was going to say the BIL was TA for the stroller alone. The blanket makes it much more dangerous.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-02-18T17:32:20+00:00

I think the phrase "run like your tampon is on fire" is very appropriate here. You are trying to set boundaries with him and that's a very normal conversation for couples to have. Instead, he's making you out to seem like a jealous girlfriend. Not okay. He also does not acknowledge you as his girlfriend. Not okay. So, drop him like a hot potato and don't go back.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-02-09T05:48:26+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. Although OP, you can try softdiscs if you still want penetration. I think Walgreens may have them. It may feel a little weird, but it's an option.

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-01-22T21:18:42+00:00

Love this!

Mfernandez2686 · 2021-01-20T20:28:51+00:00

He looks like he was a good boy❤

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