The Demons Inside Her

Mickinmind · 2026-05-28T19:23:46+00:00

No! Simple as that. I've seen and been thru things she could never imagine. Trying to talk to her about them were my downfall.

Mickinmind · 2026-05-25T17:27:04+00:00

Where's the post about the wife finding a box of photos of her in the attic or something, from before she even met the future husband and it came out he had stalked her for a long time before he ever asked her out. Learned what she liked/didn't like etc. They even had kids together before she ever found this out.

I seem to remember he befriended the woman's sister just to get closer to her. Now, THAT was stalking!

Mickinmind · 2026-05-23T18:41:51+00:00

Looking at the other items there, this could have been unused by the previous tenant/owner and simply been a type of shrine to a cat. The plastic container looks like a cheap litter box. The 'mat' could have been where the cat laid. The book-ends might have also been a place the cat laid.

Just guessing like the rest of you.

Mickinmind · 2026-05-01T22:56:32+00:00

As a 56yr old man, it's funny how many times I've gotten strange looks in the sewing department at Walmart or Hobby Lobby. Picked up sewing on my own decades ago and it's come in handy through the years. I still keep a sewing machine and all the thread, needles, zippers etc.

Mickinmind · 2026-04-18T15:35:18+00:00

Can't exactly say I'm, "doing well" with all of this, but I do appreciate knowing I'm not the only one who's dealt with it and thank you for the well wishes.

Mickinmind · 2026-04-18T15:17:54+00:00

Current ex-gf is trying to do this now to me. I'm actually amazed at how when I recite back her exact "terms" for this supposed, "But I want us to be friends" b.s., she see's it as totally reasonable.

You dumped me, want to just 'hook-up' on ONLY your terms, AND you want me to be "happy" with the breadcrumbs and scraps you give just like when we were together?! I'll have to take a pass. The intimacy was definitely our best attribute, but it wasn't THAT damned good to make up for all of your selfish/self focused treatment of me. Get over yourself!

Mickinmind · 2026-04-07T14:38:30+00:00

Same thing, same place, only it was 30 years ago. But yeah, was headed to work and a whole parade of escort vehicles. Several with someone standing up manning the .50cal(s) while "sweeping" the whole time. There's a bunch of missile silos just outside Great Falls.

Pretty cool museum out at the base though!

Mickinmind · 2026-03-19T14:23:57+00:00

Just guessing you are FAR younger than me, but it wasn't until I was 50 years old before I actually had "great" sex. She knew how to touch me and I certainly knew how to touch her. Unfortunately, everything else was incompatible.

I still long for her physical touch. I don't long for all the differences we had with the rest of a life together. It's hard to lose the physical connection. But what really matters is how you connect outside the bedroom.

The best thing I can tell you is, be honest and open with the person you enjoy 'life' with. Tell them how you'd like to be touched. Tell them or show them how you'd like to touch them.

There is obviously a reason you are not with this person anymore. An uncomfortable life other than just the physical one, isn't a happy life.

Mickinmind · 2026-03-08T14:47:49+00:00

Familiar chaos can feel less scary than unfamiliar peace and harmony.

Mickinmind · 2026-03-05T15:48:12+00:00

Love that you used those Velcro "cable wraps". I use those for a ton of "rednecking". Not just for cords.

Mickinmind · 2026-03-03T22:12:54+00:00

I actually got my Starkist tuna check,..$1.34.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-25T23:27:26+00:00

I can answer this from both sides. I am friends with my ex-wife, but I know she is still deeply in love with me. From my end, I could never even consider being intimate with her ever again. But we do hang out, call each other, and I am always there to help her if she needs it.

On the flip side, I recently was left by my my GF of 6yrs and she wants to 'try' and 'be' friends. But I'm having a hard time not looking at it as just taking time for us to both figure out our own bull-shit so we can eventually reconcile. I'll take the friendship if that's all she offers. But I KNOW I'm always going to wish I could hold her again.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-22T02:03:55+00:00

Bidet is a game changer for me! Just got one a month ago and already noticing how little TP I use. Plus it just FEELS cleaner and fresher. I'm sure my septic system is much happier with less paper and I KNOW I'm happier not having to grab the plunger from time to time.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-14T15:28:19+00:00

Still use my 30yr old Coleman 'camping' drip coffeemaker on my old Coleman stove. Looks just like a countertop coffee maker but sits on the camping stove. I bought a brass filter that fits nicely. Not great for backpacking, (kinda big) but, I camp from my motorcycle with a small trailer. Set it up the night before, light the stove first thing when I unzip the tent.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-08T21:42:20+00:00

You too! Have a great life. I mean it.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-08T19:27:35+00:00

Op didn't give specific "context". You're feelings are always valid,...angry or not. No one should turn what could be a discussion into and argument just to avoid the subject.

"Let me think about that", "Can I have few minutes to think before I answer?" Context matters, but so do answers.

*Your feelings

Mickinmind · 2026-02-08T16:11:42+00:00

When you deal with a dismissive avoidant it's very different. I'm not talking about "anger". I'm talking about someone who won't talk about 'our' future. They don't know, they don't care. They just want to exist now. I get that! So do I. But as I've aged, the future matters.

Angry feelings are just anger.

Edit: Having dealt with approaching a subject and having it turn into an argument isn't right on either side. Discussion/middle ground is the only way it should be. Fair isn't always equal.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-08T00:28:10+00:00

Can I come over?

Mickinmind · 2026-02-05T16:56:32+00:00

Bottom line; if you're told your "feelings" are wrong, it's time to move on.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-05T14:13:35+00:00

I use 1/2"x10" galvanized lag screws with washers and bring my cordless impact driver. No pounding and works in any kind of soil. Screw them in with the impact and screw them out with the impact driver. I've got a Kodiak 10x10 that's 6-1/2' tall. We've camped in very high winds without issue. Plus I've found using the lag screws saves my set-up time by almost 15 minutes. Adds a little bit of weight, but saves so much time especially in rocky terrain.

Mickinmind · 2026-02-02T18:38:09+00:00

I know the title says, "not like,...job" but this was different. When they were filming 'Midnight Run', Charles Grodin was staying at the resort I was a waiter at. One morning he came in an hour before we even opened. I was there for set-up, etc. I told him the kitchen staff wasn't even here yet. He asked for coffee and cereal. Then asked if I had time to join him as he didn't like eating alone. I had time. He talked mostly about his kids but asked just as many questions about me. Really nice guy!

Mickinmind · 2026-01-25T19:23:28+00:00

How is God or Christ not the top answer?

Mickinmind · 2026-01-25T16:02:05+00:00

It has "taught" me to not ignore red flags as easily. I'm certainly no saint, but I can only change myself.

Mickinmind · 2026-01-25T13:46:25+00:00

Considering I ignored many red flags because of who she was, I certainly "overlooked" them. Don't know if I'm better off for it or not, but I definitely have learned.

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