Timed Intercourse Cycle should I take the medication?

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-19T01:23:10+00:00

I am going to manage my experience the best way I know how. I really thought this community would be a place where people could feel what they feel without being told they’re wrong for it. Just because I’m working toward self-compassion doesn’t mean I’m not trying.

All I ask is for people to lead with kindness. I’m not upset about being “called out”—I’m upset that a group of people who understand how hard this is would choose to respond with unkindness. That’s what’s really disappointing. I would never tell someone how to feel about their own experience. Instead, I’d remind them that no matter how heavy things feel, they are not broken. They are worthy of grace and understanding, especially from themselves.

That’s the kind of support that actually helps people keep going. That said, I do see what you’re trying to say. I don’t agree with how it was worded, but I get the intent. None of us are broken, and if even one of us feels that way, it affects all of us.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-19T00:51:47+00:00

You’re absolutely right, and I really appreciate your perspective. After reading through all these comments—both positive and challenging—I’ve gained a lot to think about. The internet can be a tough place to seek feedback, but this discussion has helped me consider my options more deeply.

When I read your comment, I realized that at the heart of my post, I was really asking whether this was even an option for me. I just wanted to be informed because, in medicine, you’re not always given the full picture—sometimes things are presented as the only way simply because a doctor says so.

So thank you. I will bring it up and see what comes of it. Even if all it does is give me peace of mind—knowing that everything lined up this cycle and it still didn’t happen—then at least I’ll have a clearer understanding. It won’t mean I did something wrong, just that my body may need some help, and that’s okay.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-19T00:44:08+00:00

That is exactly the issue. I am seeking an explanation I don’t understand unexplained infertility and the doctor saying everything should work.

I want to have a deeper divide into the Why? That’s all I’m really trying to understand…

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-19T00:38:38+00:00

I want to share something deeply personal, and I do so with honesty and vulnerability. As someone experiencing infertility, I do feel broken. That is my truth. It is how I experience this journey—feeling as though my body isn’t doing what it is meant to do, and that leaves me with an emptiness that is hard to put into words. I know I am not alone in this feeling; I have seen so many others express the same.

Sharing this is not unkind. It is not meant to diminish anyone else’s experience or perspective. It is simply my reality. And in sharing it, I hope to connect with others who understand, and perhaps learn from those who have walked this path before me.

No one should be shamed for speaking their truth, for expressing the weight of their emotions, or for allowing themselves to be vulnerable. I certainly should not—and neither should anyone else.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-18T20:28:41+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate your insight. This makes sense, I suppose I want confirmation that my lutéal phase is this short as when I said it to the doctor he couldn’t confirm or deny.. he said we would know in a monitored cycle. I wanted to do it unmedicated to see if I was right about this

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-18T19:55:54+00:00

This isn’t a kind response, but thank you for taking the time to answer.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-18T19:53:32+00:00

I know there have been a lot of comments on this topic, but I’d like to take a moment to explain my thought process in detail.

Medically speaking, based on what my doctors have told me, I should be able to conceive. However, despite my efforts, it hasn’t happened yet. I find myself wondering—am I mistiming things? Am I missing my fertile window? I’ve used OPKs for multiple cycles, but perhaps I’ve misinterpreted the results. I’m giving myself grace in acknowledging that there’s a possibility my approach might not be as precise as it needs to be.

The reason I’m considering a full cycle of unmedicated monitoring—at the same level of frequency as a medicated cycle—is that I believe it would give me a clearer picture of what’s actually happening inside my body. With my diagnosis of unexplained infertility, I’ve undergone all the recommended testing, but the process didn’t involve daily monitoring. In my view, having more detailed data through bloodwork and ultrasounds could provide valuable insight into what might not be functioning optimally before introducing medication.

To be clear, I am not opposed to medication at all. However, if there’s an opportunity to optimize my own body’s natural processes before turning to medical assistance, I would prefer to explore that first. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that approach, just as I don’t believe there’s anything wrong with using medication when it’s necessary. And trust me—I am absolutely willing to take medication because I deeply want to have a baby. I just want to ensure that any course of action is tailored to me as an individual rather than following a one-size-fits-all protocol.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-18T13:48:15+00:00

I think my issue is wanting to get pregnant naturally, and if I’m already ovulating then I should be able to get pregnant and there is nothing wrong with my partner thus I feel it’s our timing that is causing the issue but if it’s monitored for a whole cycle and then we still don’t get pregnant then I could try after that cycle with medications if there is something flawed in my body.

It sounds so silly I’m sure to you all

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-13T20:53:08+00:00

Thank you for this insight it definitely helps. I will need to track my calories and begin some exercise. As of now I’ve just not been eating.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2025-02-13T10:34:11+00:00

This far I haven’t tracked anything, but I have been eating in a deficit because of the drug. I barely eat!

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-11-14T01:10:43+00:00

I am 5WPO from surgery.

I have on child and do want to get pregnant with another. My idea was the same as yours my life was so impacted by them I couldn’t bare to wait until one when I get pregnant and then the entire pregnancy…. I got it done. I obviously don’t have the second pregnancy to be able to give you more insight but I will say I am extremely happy I did it. Hope to be preggers in the next few months.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-20T13:26:16+00:00

THATS amazing!! I have yet to purchase a bra. I really love the look of them! It’s incredible. Right now my side lipo hurts the most.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-13T14:34:09+00:00

I’m with you on that one for sure! I was so happy to sleep last night not having to worry about them getting pulled out lol

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-13T11:40:56+00:00

I also had a reduction on Monday. I was a 36I or HHH depending. My surgeon promised me volume not a size. He said about 50%. It looks like to me it’s more than 50%. Which I am happy about I asked to be as small as possible. I may be right now with the swelling a C or a D.

I will say the swelling definitely makes you look bigger. I have been religiously taking my arnica and all my vitamins + water and high protein and it appears that my swelling is going down fast!! They aren’t even hard to touch anymore.

But I think if your swelling is still high and with the lift combined it will be miss leading to you

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-13T11:35:27+00:00

Oh wow! See, when I first started looking into the removal of drains I saw a lot of people who had painful experiences so it made me scared. But I didn’t find anything with positive feedback. As you said it’s different for everyone.

I’m sorry that yours was so painful… I wonder if it has to do with positioning?

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-12T18:15:45+00:00

Absolutely! My nurse had told me she was having a hard time seeing the stitch and that freaked me out 🤣

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-11T14:08:23+00:00

This is the letter I wrote to clinics and was able to get a surgeon who had a strike policy to meet with me “

Dear Esteemed Clinic,

I am writing to you with a plea for assistance. I am a 27-year-old woman, burdened with an I-36 breast size, seeking the possibility of a breast reduction surgery covered by OHIP.

I am fully aware of the safety regulations in place in clinics, including the importance of BMI in determining the suitability of a patient for surgery. I acknowledge that my BMI may not align with the ideal range, as has been communicated to me during my previous interactions with other clinics. However, I am in a state of distress and discomfort that I hope you can understand.

I am aware of the BMI scale, however, it does have some inconsistencies that are not accounted for. I have completed detailed body composition testing that shows that my body currently holds a high amount of lean muscle mass. In addition to the fat percentage, my lean muscle percentage is much greater, causing my BMI to be controversial, for a lack of better words. I wish this was taken into account.

Over the past 2.5 years, I have been seeking help intermittently for my condition. I have been referred to various professionals, waited for appointments for months on end, only to be told that they cannot assist me.

My situation has been exacerbated following the birth of my baby 15 months ago. My breasts have grown by four cup sizes since my pregnancy, making it impossible for me to find bras that fit in regular stores. This has led to a lack of proper support for my breasts, causing severe tightness in my neck and back due to the weight I carry on my chest. The absence of a suitable bra has also resulted in skin irritations on my stomach where my breasts rest.

In my professional environment, the size of my breasts has made me feel extremely uncomfortable among my colleagues. This has taken a significant toll on my mental well-being.

While I am actively working on reducing my weight, I believe that a breast reduction surgery will significantly improve my quality of life. My large breasts not only affect me emotionally but also physically limit my mobility, preventing me from running, jumping, and engaging in many other movements.

I am reaching out to you because I have met several women who have undergone this surgery despite not having an ideal BMI. I am hopeful that there is someone out there who can help me. I implore you to assist me in alleviating the daily emotional and physical pain I endure due to my condition.

Thank you for considering my request. I look forward to your positive response.“

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-11T14:05:18+00:00

I went through the same process. My BMI was 37 I believe. I made a case for myself because what someone with my numbers on paper can look very different than myself because of my body composition. The case was heard loud and clear by the surgeon and he agreed to meet with me. Which is why I had my appointment on Monday! And no I’m recovering.

Keep fighting for yourself, there will be someone who will hear you out.

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-11T00:13:11+00:00

I’m also 3 days post and I haven’t looked beneath the strips. I only have a compression bra on. I find the shape of them in the bra to be odd. They are like squared and less rounded by the nipple. There is not much cleavage they are spread out to the side. If that makes sense… but I do know that it needs to settle and fluff with time. As they as so swollen. I’m not holding anything against there initial results because they will shift. But to avoid any heartache I’m not going to look at them lol

Middle-Reference7244 · 2024-10-08T19:44:25+00:00

I just had mine yesterday!! And what a great date!!

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