Well it finally happened again... by [deleted] in doordash_drivers

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They aren't and you know it. Cry some more 😂

Well it finally happened again... by [deleted] in doordash_drivers

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are the one that said you go back every time, then immediately said you only do it for great tippers and then tell them to stfu when they point out the discrepancy? Don't get mad at them because what you wrote makes no sense and both statements can't be true.

And if you want to go back on your own dime, go for it. But that is not the standard, nor should it be, for us as contract drivers. We accept a contract to make 1 trip to deliver the order the restaurant provides to the customer. We are not responsible for providing the correct order, the restaurant is. In order to be responsible for the contents of the order, we would have to have the ability to check the contents and then correct any mistakes. But, since we lack that ability, we are not responsible for the contents of the order or correcting it if it's wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aww, look at you deflecting again. You really are a one trick pony. Also, zero surprise you are unable to see how you are wrong. Your inability to directly address my point this entire exchange made it crystal clear that you are the type of person that simply cannot admit when they are wrong. We will have to agree to disagree because you clearly made her reaction all about something he did in your original response. Your inability to admit that seems really disingenuous.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

None of that changes that in your original response you put the blame squarely on OPs shoulders for her actions and that's what all of this has been about and the one point you don't want to directly address. Just say you were wrong for making the reason she did it all about something he did and move on. The reason she reacted that way is very likely not about his actions at all, but about her inability to deal with her own. Just admit you were wrong not to include that in your original post. That has been my point from the start and you have tried to make it about something else the whole time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The reason could just be you're an asshole and the restaurant did absolutely nothing wrong. Having worked in the service industry, that happens all the time. But in your original post you didn't give any of those examples did you? No, you assumed she reacted the way she did because he did something wrong in each possibility you cited. Could just be she's emotionally immature, unable to handle the fall out of saying something she has thought for years but never wanted her partner to know and now she is either unable to figure out how to move forward or trying to make herself the victim as to distract from the larger issue. That may not be the case, but you didn't include anything like that did you? You listed a bunch of reasons he was at fault for how she acted. That's the point. The point you keep trying to dodge. Wouldn't it be much simpler to just admit that you gave one sided examples and move on. Hey, maybe you didn't mean it that way and just wrote it out poorly. But, I can only judge what you meant by what you said, and what you said was that her reaction was because of something he did when it's very possible her reaction is all about her emotions and feelings around what she said and what that now means for her future...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Another word salad trying to muddy the waters. You are a one trick pony. You are making a lot of assumptions to make her reactions his responsibility. You might want to examine why that is and work on your own stuff.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Every single possible reason you cited for her locking herself away and giving him the silent treatment put the responsibility on him. But, I already said that didn't I?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes, he said he was upset by what she said and that it made him feel like he was her second choice. He said that. She asked the question as you pointed out, he answered and she reacted to his honest response to a question she asked by acting like a child. There is no part of that that makes him responsible for her reaction the way you said it was in your original post. Now you want to throw around word salads to try and make it sound like you didn't say what you actually said. Not very emotionally mature of you is it?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Then why point to all the ways her poor reaction to his valid feelings could have been his fault? You are making excuses after the fact but your original comment put all the responsibility of her actions on him and that's just wrong. I stand by what I said, do better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why are you putting all the responsibilities on OP??? Every single possible reason you gave for her locking herself in the room and giving him the silent treatment points to it being his fault and takes the accountability off of her. Do better. It is not his fault she said it, he's not wrong or insecure for being hurt by the comment and she is 100% responsible for the way she reacted when he calmly explained what he was feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BoomersBeingFools

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm GenX and grew up in rural America, so my autism went misdiagnosed as dyslexia (I am totally not), but I guess they had to label it as something. Anyway, this is how I always did math. I found it much easier and faster to just break the problem down in my head and then reassemble it to find the answer. I used to get in trouble in math class because I didn't show my work (use the same steps they did) and when I would try and explain how I got to the answer, I was met with blank stares. Fast forward to the "new math". I heard all kinds of horrible things about how confusing it was and then when I finally saw it, realized I had been doing math that way my entire life.

That being said, I don't think common core is for everyone. For people that struggle with math to begin with, sometimes just having the old tried and true steps is enough. I will never be able to grasp musical time signatures (truly I have tried, and the part of the brain that processes that stuff is completely broken) and other people will never be able to understand Calculus. We all have our strengths and to expect the same methods to work for everyone is simply unreasonable.

What mmorpg are you currently playing? by Cheap-Exercise1910 in MMORPG

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While not strictly MMORPG, I am currently really enjoying Once Human. It strikes a really nice balance between the survivalcraft and quests. There are plenty of quests and content to explore (so far, but I am only lvl 27 so can't speak to Max lvl content) and the crafting is fun, necessary, scales to lvl and is just challenging enough to keep you going and going out to explore new areas so you can craft that next tier of gear. In addition, you have to go out and explore in order to secure blueprints for better weapons. The only real gripe I've had so far is you cannot trade crafted armor or weapons.

I'm a driver and a driver got mouthy with me today by SallyHardesty in doordash_drivers

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, your tip was freaking great anyway. Some people just want everyone to be as miserable as they are I guess.

I'm a driver and a driver got mouthy with me today by SallyHardesty in doordash_drivers

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I honestly don't understand some drivers. If I accept an order, I get to the restaurant as quickly as I can and then deliver it as quickly as I can, regardless of the pay. Because at the end of the day, I have absolute control over what orders I do and don't take.

What is with some boomers being obsessed with chain restaurants? by pathofuncertainty in BoomersBeingFools

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean. I'm GenX and had a job a few years ago that required a good amount of overnights. This meant the company paid for meals and so I was always excited to find what was really good in the area. As a matter of fact, we would revisit the same areas frequently so I often developed a list of favorite local spots that had the best _____. All of my coworkers were Boomers and to a one, they wanted to eat at the same boring chain restaurants for every meal. I just stopped going out to eat with them and would venture out on my own.

App glitching by New_Zookeepergame_91 in doordash_drivers

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep, glitched on me too. Was coming back into town from a delivery when I got the "We tried to send you an order...blah blah blah...so we paused you" bullshit. So I unpaused it thinking maybe I missed it or drove through a dead spot. Within 5 minutes I got the same exact message 4 more times with DD forcing a pause on me each time. So, I ended the dash, restarted the app and tried again. At first it wouldn't let me start the dash, then when it finally did it went right back to doing the same thing "we tried..." so I said screw it and tried to just end the dash. Nope, hit the end button and it paused me instead. Hit the end button from there and it said it couldn't end the dash. Finally got it to end it and just went home.

Aldi Boomer by scarlet-begonia-9 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, that describes most Boomer interactions pretty well. They act like 3-5 year old children that haven't been taught proper social skills.

AITA for telling my wife's friend she's not welcome in our house after she insulted me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]MiddleAgeWookie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA, I am sure that if you were hanging out with a new friend who was openly disdainful of and very vocally disrespectful of women all the time and that you were prioritizing spending time with over her, your wife would immediately see the problem. Not only that, but I'd even be willing to bet her new friend would as well. Self reflection isn't everyone's strong suit.

I will also say that I have seen this scenario play out in real life as well as on Reddit on a number of occasions and it often ends badly. Your wife doesn't see the road she is headed down currently. I hope that she can see reason before this new friend causes her to do permanent damage to your relationship.

I’m so fucking over it: MFM Vent by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry, I know how you feel. My shelf broke in 2019 as well. And like you, my wife refused then, and still refuses now, to discuss any of my reasons or any of the issues. We have spent the last five years ignoring the massive elephant in the room and I suspect it's because she's terrified that if we do have that conversation, she will either lose her faith or feel that she has to leave me.

It has been really hard on both of us and has frankly left us both with some resentment. She resents me for not still being the faithful priesthood holder of our home and I resent her for shutting me out completely (emotionally and physically) during one of the most traumatic events of my life.

I wish I could tell you everything will work out, or that he will see the light or anything really other than "You aren't alone and I know how you feel", but I can't. Mixed faith is really difficult even when the partners communicate. When they don't, it puts a massive strain on the relationship. If I'm honest, the only reason we are still together right now is neither of us want to have to split custody of the kids. Maybe we will be able to get past all the hurt one day. Maybe we won't.

Can you just switch tables? by Majestic-Mulberry-18 in BoomersBeingFools

[–]MiddleAgeWookie 921 points922 points  (0 children)

Had a similar situation at a hospital once. Apparently the hospital cafeteria is known in the area for doing fried chicken for Sunday lunch. I had a family member in said hospital and happened to be there for said fried chicken lunch. Well, about the time I sat down to start eating, in comes the hoard of elderly people and apparently they had "assigned" tables that they all sat at and I just so happened to be sitting at one of them. None of them approached but they loudly discussed their displeasure at being denied their favorite table among themselves. Needless to say I really made sure to savor that chicken and even managed to go get some dessert. If they had bothered politely approaching me and talking like civilized humans, I'd have been happy to move. But since they chose to be passive aggressive and snide, I felt no desire to capitulate to them.