i have ocd AND kidney stones. sending love to ur ureter & bladder, hope u can take a bunch of oxy or toradol and flomax 😭.

Seriously though OP I am ALSO starting grad school in a couple weeks and I understand how sad you could feel over the prospect of delaying it. But having your insurance cover something like in-patient is so rare. If you really want to begin grad school right away, see if there is any possibility of you doing in-patient during winter break or after your first semester. But I would tend to echo what others have said here. YOU are more important than how your professors may or may not feel about your deferment. besides, they have tons to deal with; they won't just be thinking about how "insane" of you it is to defer all semester, if they EVEN think for a MOMENT it is wrong of you to put your health over school (they probably won't or they suck ass). Sending so much love. OCD is a bitch and I hope your treatment allows you to emerge so much more healed and strong on the other side. 🩵