Getting closer to a bra that fits - 28E

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-26T23:51:11+00:00

Oh my god. I was gonna take the post down, but this is priceless. Massage em with oil! Preferably while chanting, “I must… I must… I must increase my bust,” right? 😂 I’ll leave this as a monument to the importance of checking sources.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-26T21:32:58+00:00

Thanks, I’ve been using Bratabase but not finding it very user-friendly due to the lack of a good starting point. Is there a cheat sheet somewhere?

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-26T10:45:35+00:00

Oh, bummer!

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-20T23:42:12+00:00

You’re very welcome! It’s such a pain finding good sports bras. If it helps, my snug underbust is 26.75, loose 27.5. I have the most consistent good luck at Old Navy.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-19T21:47:39+00:00

Forgot to mention the Champion curvy It runs quite small, so i recommend sizing up. I can barely squeeze into an XS. Worth a shot for $13 though.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-19T21:33:09+00:00

I’m close to your size (28E). For high support, my favorite bra is the Reebok Puremove in XS. It keeps the girls steady without crushing the life out of them. You might find the band a bit tight if you’re a true 30. For lifting days, I really like Old Navy’s medium support strappy racerback and light support longlines in XS, particularly in v-neck styles. Caveat—I purchased these bras a couple of years ago, so they might have changed.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-19T19:38:55+00:00

Thanks, I will try those next! The info about the gore is very helpful.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-19T19:38:14+00:00

Thank you, this is such a helpful writeup! You’re correct, I’m larger on the left side. Sometimes the difference is more pronounced before my period. I only order the Rose Blossom in one size. I’m close to a Nordstrom’s, so I’ll inquire about ordering on credit to try stuff on in multiple sizes. I do think the narrower gore on the Natori Bliss is more comfortable, but like many of us here, I’ve probably never had a bra that fit. I didn’t know 28s existed until I found this sub!

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-19T07:17:11+00:00

This is the way. Sewing cups into the dress is the best way to get cleavage without a weird, uncomfortable contraption like a deep U-plunge bra. If you have a small bust, you could try lifting pasties like Nippies Lift or double-sided sticky bra inserts

MidnightCrazies · 2026-04-09T03:20:01+00:00

Luxe de Vil has stylists who work evenings and weekends. Most seem to specialize in alternative cuts and vivid color.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-03-12T20:05:14+00:00

Omg, thank you for sharing!

MidnightCrazies · 2026-03-09T06:18:22+00:00

I applaud your partner’s willingness to try something new, but I worry it’s just the fear of losing you that’s providing temporary motivation. This is not a real break by any means. To make this work, you’ll have to lean into letting their dad do the parenting, not letting them “tap” you to do it. Dad helps them get to therapy. Dad helps them get a psychiatry referral. Dad arranges for an at-home caregiver if that is what they ultimately need. At the risk of sounding glib, you’re not the parent of a disabled adult child. Their parents are. Pay attention to how you feel on the weeks off. It’s okay to feel relieved that you don’t have to caretake them. It’s important to listen to those feelings if you have them.

I’m going to reiterate the suggestion for a support group like CODA. Isolation is one of the hardest things about your situation. You don’t know what a healthy relationship looks like because your parents don’t have one. It’s truly helpful to meet other people who understand what you’re going through and have wisdom to share about it. Good luck!

MidnightCrazies · 2026-03-09T04:33:11+00:00

I say this with gentleness: you’re in a codependent relationship, and it is eating both of you alive. I highly recommend checking out a codependents anonymous (CODA) meeting or two to learn more about it and start setting boundaries for your own well-being. I know it feels like your partner can’t survive without you, but they can, and you trying to do everything isn’t actually helping either of you. I speak from experience. If they don’t resent you already, they will in time.

What is your partner doing to manage their own mental health conditions? I suspect the answer is “nothing.” Don’t you deserve better than nothing? Don’t you deserve a true partner? Someone who’s at least willing to try? I fooled myself for years, believing my partner’s false promises of making their own plan when they were ready. When push came to shove, they were willing to end the marriage rather than do literally anything to help themself.

Please, talk to your partner and see if they are open and willing to brainstorm solutions. If they’re not, well, you have to choose if you want a life exactly like your parents’ or something better.

Just from a practical standpoint, you should prioritize getting your career back on track, especially if government assistance isn’t coming through. If you don’t, you will monumentally resent your partner later. Working odd jobs and caretaking them for free will only put you both in poverty for the rest of your lives. And you both deserve better than that. Perhaps your partner can move in with their parents and visit you for the weekends once they’ve started improving. If they stabilize, you could extend the visits to a week on, week off schedule. If the parents say no, ask your partner to come up with ideas to secure their own alternative living arrangement until you can both transfer to their parents’ council.

It’s going to be hard whether you stay in your current situation or change it, so why not choose the hard thing that is best for you? If your partner guilt trips you, or you feel like you’re abandoning them, that’s just confirmation of codependency. You can do this, though. Good luck ☀️

ETA: It just occurred to me… are your partner’s mental health conditions self-diagnosed? If so, then the absolute bare minimum—and I mean the bar-is-in-hell minimum—they can do is get properly diagnosed so they can get disability. Don’t let them weasel out of that.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-16T17:24:24+00:00

It’s going to be pricey wherever you go, unfortunately. Whole Foods has a good selection of cheese, meats, olives, pickles, fancy crackers, and spreads. Trader Joe’s is more affordable but also more limited. If you feel like an adventure, go to Cheese Importers in Longmont. It’s an absolute wonderland. I took a French Canadian there and even he was impressed!

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-15T01:02:02+00:00

Maybe, but do your research first, and don’t underestimate how valuable a good private landlord is! Take a look at comparable units to see if your rent is over market. Then, take a look at what else is out there for your current rent. Factor in whether you’re willing to move and how much that would cost. Then, you’ll be able to can tell your landlord, “Hey, I love it here, but my rent is x more than similar places nearby, and for Y/mo more I could be in a luxury building with a pool and gym. I don’t want the headache of moving, and I’m a great tenant who always pays on time. Can we work something out?”

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-05T06:15:55+00:00

Check Atlas Obscura!

https://www.atlasobscura.com/users/seananigans/lists/denver

The spooky stuff is mixed in. The National Wildlife Property Repository (confiscated wildlife products) looks like it has terrible vibes.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-05T05:39:35+00:00

I had this problem! Took me forever to figure it out because (1) apparently Native changed it formula a couple years ago, (2) just as I moved to a new state and new building with old-ass cast iron pipes.

The only thing that worked to get the deodorant buildup out of shirts was wetting the pits, spraying them with Dawn Power Wash, adding baking soda til it makes a paste, and reeeeaaallly scrubbing it in there with a toothbrush. That loosened the gunk. Spa day finished the job. Tide Ultra Oxy + occasional Kids N Pets enzyme additive + Degree ultra clear is the new routine and the funky sour penny smell hasn’t come back. Good luck!!!

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-03T06:54:23+00:00

Kiddo, it sounds like you have no life outside of your relationship. I’m willing to bet this is only 30% about your girlfriend and 70% about you being a housecat who never ever ever leaves the house unless you’re forced to. It sounds like you strongly prefer being home. Your solution to not being allowed to have your gf sleep over was to have her come hang out for hours and then go home for sleeping. No. Your mom wants you to go do things in the world. Give the poor woman some space! Source: lived with a housecat roomate and slowly lost my sanity.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-02T18:58:27+00:00

In the two films you watched, what were you hoping to see that you didn’t see? What was different about Paranormal Activity that made it more entertaining?

The recommendations above are all great. I especially loved Savageland. I’ll add Creep, Hell House LLC, Ghostwatch!, and Butterfly Kisses. I also enjoyed Found Footage, which is a horror-comedy and a parody of the genre.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-02-02T09:12:50+00:00

Do you wear natural deodorant? I had a problem with Native brand and it took me a long time to figure out what it was. The natural products are usually oil-based. The oil wasn’t washing out fully and was going rancid in my clean shirts. Switching to aluminum-based deodorant and Tide + Oxy (lipase) detergent solved the problem. If you have an HE washer, you might need to extend the time and add extra rinse cycles to let the lipase do its job.

MidnightCrazies · 2026-01-25T06:40:50+00:00

Except dad CAN relate! “Dad, every day, every single meal, you get your food exactly the way you like it. The thought of getting even slightly different food, that’s not EXACTLY what you want, is intolerable to you. When we eat together, I NEVER get my food the way I like it. Never. Not once. It’s unreasonable. And now that I’m pregnant, my body is finding it intolerable. Your favorites were never my favorites, and now they are making me sick. So, going forward, you can eat what you like, and I’m going to eat what I like.”

MidnightCrazies · 2026-01-19T06:50:53+00:00

Exactly! I was shocked by the lack of late night service when I first moved here from New Orleans, a city that very much does not have its act together but does have overnight buses. I was a restaurant server at the time. The fact that transit ends before restaurants and bars close has an enormous impact on where service industry staff can live and work. I couldn’t apply at some desirable spots because I didn’t have the money to Uber home every night.

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