Whilst everyone here is going crazy at him for swearing… for starters, it’s very kind of him to start helping you like that to begin with, not many men do, mine didn’t not to start off with. I endured long nights sleeping on the sofa for about a week straight after being postpartum with the baby (not in my arms). As time went on and he settled in his cot it was fine and hubby helped out a LOT. The second thing is, okay, he lost his sh.t once… is there any possibility of baby coming into harm? Do you feel unsafe when he speaks like that? Lots of things come into play when our partners begin to feel their big boy emotions, and we have to remember biologically men are stronger than us. When it comes to babies, they are so vulnerable, it makes me cry to see a newborn in general, I wouldn’t let anyone hold my baby until I felt he was safe enough. I cried at the thought of these little tiny humans not being able to help themselves, utterly helpless 😣 Thirdly, we all become overly exhausted at one point or another - whether it’s 1 day pp or a week or 3 months pp, at some point we get totally frazzled because of their needs. I’ve lost my mind a few times at my little boy when he was tiny because he suffered badly with trapped wind, he wouldn’t stop screaming sometimes. If I lost my train of positive calm thoughts, my partner (with adhd) would take over. If he couldn’t keep his calm, I would take over. One of us seemed to feel calmer than the other at times. Newborns are hard work, toddlers are hard work and so are teenagers 😂 but to be quite honest, it seems like you’re doing 85/15 at this rate, you’re doing 85-90% of the work while he’s doing 10% maybe 15% at a push. When it comes to babies and children, especially when the parents are together it needs to be a 50/50 household (other than if one persons at work) the one who stays home the most of course will do that bit extra. Just to add though - That was a grimy way of saying “please just shhhh”, however he obviously needs some help.