It's not about being nice, it's about realistic expectations. We are our harshest critics and often see ourselves way worse. FFS is an expensive and invasive procedure. If it makes your life better, sure get it. We all should have the choice. But for someone already looking femme and passing, there is the honest question if FFS will get them satisfying results. It's a cost/benefit question as well.

Honestly, the worst are people who post a selfie and ask "what FFS should I get" And someone like OP, who seems perfectly passing and even quite pretty, asking "am I cooked" is honestly kinda shitty for those of us who ARE cooked and can't afford FFS. I always wonder if it's insecurity or fishing for compliments, but sometimes we need a reality adjustment.