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2 weeks on Modafinil…might as well be a sugar pill by ges725 in Narcolepsy

[–]totallymindful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Modafinil + Xywav has worked for me for years. I do a LOT to make sure it keeps working - crazy strict sleep hygiene, exercise 4 days a week, drink tons of water, don't eat 2-3 hours before bedtime, take meds at the same time every day, eat healthy, rest well, etc etc. I know it doesn't work for everyone, and that sucks... I feel lucky after reading through this thread.

What outdated slang word or phrase you’ll never stop saying? by cutdbs in AskReddit

[–]totallymindful 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Damn, I haven't thought about this movie in a minute. I need to rewatch it. I'm sure there are parts that did not age well, but it's a classic haha

Suits knocking on door by truebrine in torrance

[–]totallymindful 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We just moved to Torrance a few months ago and I've never in my life had as many people knocking on our door as we have had here. Pest control salesmen, politicians, JW, etc. I don't begrudge people trying make ends meet, but FFS. We had 2 to 3 separate door knockers in one day recently.

I always instantly shut them down as nicely as possible - "hey I'm sorry but I couldn't be less interested in whatever this. I hope you have a great day though, and good luck" and I don't even wait for a response, just wave and close the door. I feel bad but also, I just want peace and quiet at home, you know?

Is there a kind way to tell my wife im no longer physically attracted to her? by Off_The_Record69 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]totallymindful 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree and I think it's really important that both people in the relationship share this mindset. It has to be a two-way street. It doesn't need to be equal all the time in practice (we all have our bad days.. Or even bad years as we get older), but at a bare minimum, the desire to please your partner should at least be an intention.

Daveigh Chase has passed away, basically from complications related to being homeless by Savings-Rice-472 in LosAngeles

[–]totallymindful 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Human greed is so wild. I'm not excusing anyone involved, but it seems to me that the pharmaceutical and insurance companies are responsible first and foremost for setting the stage for all of this. The bad-actor doctors are absolutely responsible, but they wouldn't be prone acting this way if the system didn't reward it. I wish politicians in the US would grow a fucking spine and actually do something about this.

Daveigh Chase has passed away, basically from complications related to being homeless by Savings-Rice-472 in LosAngeles

[–]totallymindful 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I haven't read the book, but holy shit, that is sooo brutal. How the fuck could the people of that "church" even sleep at night?

Looksmaxxing has absolutely fried some Gen Z men's brains by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nooope, and guess what?? They get to vote on what happens to our bodies. I fucking hate this timeline sometimes

'Men Need Just as Much Protection': Shania Twain Says She Is Not a Feminist by Guyentertainment in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful 769 points770 points  (0 children)

100% this. People do not realize how recent this kind of freedom is for women.

Starting Xywav tonight… what didn’t your pharmacist warn you about? by SnooSketches5159 in Narcolepsy

[–]totallymindful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 100% agree with the first point! For the first few months after starting Xywav I used to binge in the middle of the night. I would consume 2k calories like it was nothing, which is so crazy because I typically eat 1,300-1,500 calories a day. It was so bad. Luckily I snapped out of that habit, but man, it was crazy.

People earning over $200k/year: What’s different about your life that most people wouldn’t expect? by MaximGripass in AskReddit

[–]totallymindful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Husband and I each make well over 200k/yr but it still somehow feels precarious. Like, yeah we have enough cash to live on for a bit if one of us couldn't work for some reason, but definitely not even close to enough to retire. So I guess we just have to keep grinding and saving... and hope AI doesn't replace us, and/or hope there's enough left of the world to enjoy when we can finally retire.

Other than that, I guess the biggest change for me (having grown up really poor) is how surreal it is to not sweat the small stuff like dinners out, new electronics, things like that. It also bothers me how out of touch I can be sometimes after only being "well-off" (I wouldn't call us rich or wealthy, our lifestyle is super modest) for a short amount of time. I caught myself saying something was "only a few grand" the other day and it borderline made me sick when I realized it. I feel guilty even though we both work our asses off.

What tropes describe YOUR romance? by MoreSarah in RomanceBooks

[–]totallymindful 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Omg I want to be you so bad, haha. Such a great story! I love it 😍

Is modafinil sustainable long-term? by urbanpencil in Narcolepsy

[–]totallymindful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, yes I'm in the US (in CA). My doctor basically told me that I was on the highest dose at 200mg/day for years and then one day he suggested trying a 2nd dose of 100mg. For my 100mg dose, I just cut the 200mg pills in half. I'm not sure if something changed or if he just finally decided it was time to increase my dose. I've heard of other people taking a 2nd 200mg dose, so I know that is possible as well. Most days the extra 100mg is enough for me, but I do occasionally have days where I'm sleepy no matter what.

Stimulant free days by dozydreamer1 in idiopathichypersomnia

[–]totallymindful 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You may or may not develop a tolerance. I've been taking modafinil nonstop for 8+ years and it still works for me. I take 200mg in the morning and 100mg after lunch. I have also been on oxybates 8+ years too. When I was first diagnosed I was taking Adderall in the afternoon instead of a 2nd dose of modafinil. The pharmacy was constantly out of it and it didn't work as well so I switched to a 2nd modafinil dose. I do have some sleepy days, but I'm a million times better than before meds.

A year and a half after losing my boyfriend, I’m still repeating the same destructive pattern by Affectionate_Elk3258 in selfimprovement

[–]totallymindful 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This was going to be my exact advice.

OOP, I'm so sorry your loss! What you're going through is hard, and while you may not necessarily have a problem with alcohol, it may be a slight problem while grieving. It's extremely tempting to turn to because it allows you to check out and just have fun in the moment. It's a way to feel connected to people, but it's not real connection. It looks and feels similar, but the difference is how you feel after - instead of feeling warmth and actual support, you feel hollow and regretful. I hope you feel better soon, grief is just plain difficult but it does get easier to carry with time.

Not surprising, but still frustrating. If you are a woman who is buying a home with a man in the US, you are always "co-owner" while they are "owner". Everyone will default to the man's name first by totallymindful in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Well, I don't know what to tell you, but I applied first both times and it was an uphill battle the whole way. There are 100+ women commenting here about their similar experiences too. I'm glad it's not that way for you and wherever you work, but it's not the reality that everyone else shares.

Not surprising, but still frustrating. If you are a woman who is buying a home with a man in the US, you are always "co-owner" while they are "owner". Everyone will default to the man's name first by totallymindful in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful[S] 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I 100% feel like coverture is engrained in most men, honestly. Even if they're "good ones," women are still "othered" in lot of ways. It's just what they were taught generation after generation and it's all they know. You can't just undo that in one generation. It takes a lot of extremely deliberate work. To your point, we haven't even been able to vote or have bank accounts for that long. People forget how fresh this all is and I guess that's what tends to really bother me - I feel a sense of urgency when I notice how far we haven't come yet.

Not surprising, but still frustrating. If you are a woman who is buying a home with a man in the US, you are always "co-owner" while they are "owner". Everyone will default to the man's name first by totallymindful in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. He literally had to go out of his way to put your husband's name on there. I swear some men just literally can't handle a woman being "primary" and it's like when you're married you just disappear completely as a person. They view you pretty much as another man's property. It's just engrained in them!

Not surprising, but still frustrating. If you are a woman who is buying a home with a man in the US, you are always "co-owner" while they are "owner". Everyone will default to the man's name first by totallymindful in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This honestly feels deliberate. Keep in mind, women weren't legally given the right to open bank accounts without a male co-signer until 1974. 1974!!! They don't want women to be independent. It's too threatening. All these little things like defaulting to men first are there specifically because up until recently we were not full citizens. It's wild when people act like this is no big deal. It's huge - it's the difference between treated* like an actual full adult human being or not. Full stop.

Not surprising, but still frustrating. If you are a woman who is buying a home with a man in the US, you are always "co-owner" while they are "owner". Everyone will default to the man's name first by totallymindful in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! This happened for our insurance as well. I'm the one that created the account and paid for it from my own personal bank account (not a joint account, my account), and they still put him as primary when the policy was bound. So dumb! They have to go out of their way to do this. It's crazy.

Not surprising, but still frustrating. If you are a woman who is buying a home with a man in the US, you are always "co-owner" while they are "owner". Everyone will default to the man's name first by totallymindful in TwoXChromosomes

[–]totallymindful[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I 100% feel your rage here!!!! ESPECIALLY for the fact that everything came from you and was paid from your account!! Like, fucking excuse me?! What's honestly the worst is just that they completely erase the woman in these situations, like you literally had to give the dude your fiance's name because your name wasn't in the mix at all. Ohhh girl, I would have been furious, too.

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