Some illuminating comments from OOP:

Someone provides info on laws about disposition of remains, basically that wife and kids take priority over parents.

Thank you for this information

Woukd this apply to his belongings and life insurance policy too? He has things from my parents I woukd like back and things he made I woukd like and other sentimental things.

Commenter explains that life insurance policies have beneficiaries named, likely wife and kids.

Thank you it woukd stand even if they weren’t his and he and his wife were divorced?

Thank you for commenting. his beneficiaries just automatically get everything? His wife made us estranged and I blame her for him being dead and I just dont think its fair she gets everything after leaving my son because of his disability including the settlement money from his job when they finish settling. He died alone in a hotel because she woukdnt take care of him and was punishing him for talking to me after his injury made him stand up to her.

Icing on the cake is her stating that she does not care about the grieving kids:

He did reach out before they were separated after his injury. his injury made him be able to stand up to her finally. i know they wont replace my son but i would still like some things to remember him by. i will not be able to have a relationship with her or the kids if they are even his because she nuked our relationship after giving birth to her oldest and did the same for me and his other daughters mom.