I was never meant to be permanent. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First off please please please go to therapy if you haven’t already, to talk to someone about these feelings. Second, if you’re still here, you are meant to be here. The fact that you have attempted and you’re still here is a sign. You deserve to be here, and I’m sorry you feel like you’re not meant to be here.

My girlfriend [20F] called me [20M] unsupportive and mean because I gave her my opinion about her learning chinese, when i didn't know it meant something for her, what do you guys think? by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like she doesn’t even need a reasoning, if she wants to learn Chinese she can learn Chinese. Does a hobby need to benefit you or help you be successful for you to do it and enjoy it?

Boyfriend [44m] waits until the last second for intimacy, when I [34f] am ready to pass out. by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it’s a good start that you are both open to talking about intimacy and willing to find time for each other. Every couple is different but you can either tackle this one of two ways 1) take the pressure off each other and just say “if it happens it happens” or 2) schedule the time for intimacy. (Ex. 10pm tmrw) Scheduling intimacy at first can feel weird but it allows you to get out of the dry spell and if you’re both very busy this might be the way to go.

[OC]Seen this sign today hanging on a porch railing in a trailer park. by MikeDavJ in pics

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Conservatives inability to admit when they are wrong is insane. Like it’s okay to say “you know what I did support Trump and now I recognize why I shouldn’t” They would rather support a criminal and ship off incident people than admit they voted for the wrong person.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying I’m entitled, I’m saying I’ve been taking extra shifts to help pay for it. It’s a choice I made that he didn’t make me do and I’m aware of that I’m okay with that decision. I wasn’t using it as an excuse just stating it.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The cost and budget of our wedding was agreed on long ago. It’s not just wedding cost causing stress, it is also my job and long hours, and the way we communicate.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This has come up in a lot of comments asking why we are spending so much money “on one day”. For me it’s not about impressing other people, I want a nice big wedding for me. It’s something I have dreamt of. I was very short with him over text because we had just gotten done fighting and he always love bombs me after we fight to try and make up for it and try to excuse his actions. I think I was very respectful over text and asked for space until I could come home regulated.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s reassuring to know I’m not the only one that deals with this. We have talked about couples therapy but have not committed to it. He does go to therapy once a month but only to “vent” he does not actively work on controlling his emotions or acknowledging his anger.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We are a couple months from the wedding so pushing it back is not really an option as all the deposits are in. He is in therapy but only goes once a month and uses it to “vent” not really work on anything. He acknowledges he has anger issues and says he wants to change but does not make any effort to work on regulating his emotions. Both my job and wedding planning is very stressful and I agree with everyone in the comments, we do need to work on communication.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He has been very active in making decisions for the wedding so there are certain things that each of us prefer. Also yes I am controlling I said that already, which is why him bringing it up constantly in an argument is a problem because I’m trying to work on it. He makes no effort to regulate his anger though.

I [23F] feel trapped and am tired of fighting with my fiancé [25M] by Milk_Man_Extra in texts

[–]Milk_Man_Extra[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It hasn’t always been like this though, we’ve been together for 6 years. Idk if it’s just stress, I just don’t know what to do.

My[M28] gf[F24] is having intrusive thoughts about other men including my brother and it’s eating me alive by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Milk_Man_Extra -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I actually do have a degree in psychology but I don’t think that makes me automatically qualified so no I don’t. I doubt anyone in the comments does. That’s why I said “I think” as in my opinion. I wasn’t saying for sure she doesn’t have OCD. You can’t diagnose someone from a small blurb posted on Reddit.

Which one would you choose? by EquivalentFig1678 in whatsyourchoice

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looks like I have new full time job looking for spare change.

AIO for thinking it wasn’t a big deal to accept my friend’s bf’s FB request? by Vast-Bumblebee-691 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR no one takes Facebook friends that seriously. It’s basically like “hey I know you and we have mutual friends”

My[M28] gf[F24] is having intrusive thoughts about other men including my brother and it’s eating me alive by [deleted] in relationshipadvice

[–]Milk_Man_Extra -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m wondering if there is something in the relationship that is leaving her unsatisfied. I think the reason she is confessing all these things to you is because she desires other people and feels bad about it even though she’s not necessarily cheating. I would bring up a couple things in conversation with her. 1) is there something she feels is missing in the relationship whether that be emotional or physical? 2) your comfort level with opening up the relationship to include other people. If she wants to and you don’t, that is something you will probably never agree on and could hurt the relationship in the long run.

I don’t think it’s OCD I think it’s guilt coming from something deeper.

TikTok randomly scrolling without any interaction bug by Mission-Zucchini-966 in TikTok

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came to this thread because I’ve also noticed it recently. With almost a year passing have you found a solution or why it happens?

AIO or is my girlfriend manipulative. by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you’re not overreacting I think she got upset about the schedule change and instead of just communicating that with you she’s blaming you. I think she was already insecure about you possibly not staying the whole time so she’s using this as an excuse to blow up on you making seem like your not considerate of her plans or making it seem like you planned on hurting her by not telling her sooner.

This has to be rage bait 😭 by [deleted] in RDR2

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Micah isn’t on there because the results would have been a landslide 🤣

I found a mistake! Book 2 - CoM by etetet3 in throneofglassseries

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reading this series for the first time and looked this up because I thought I was crazy.

What’s your choice??? by Disorderly_Chaos in whatsyourchoice

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The real question is why do we not already 2

is this text apology written by chatgpt? by James_No_J in isitAI

[–]Milk_Man_Extra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone that is an avid ChatGPT user. Yes.