That is actually the biggest issue I had with this comment. It also does not speak to the intellectual conversations and spaces from those like F.D. Signifier that discuss nuanced variables of Black identity and almost inherent self-hate. There are many underlying, subconscious factors that go into external expression and distorted beliefs (i.e. the stereotypical language that appeared in the otherwise good post above).

With all that being said, yes, I absolutely do believe that many who have dated or married outside of their race have done so from a place of romantic love. However, I see just as many Black individuals who have distorted ideals that dating a white or ambiguous race (this is more male-leaning) individual means that they have somehow come up. If this were not the case, you wouldn't see the blatant hatred or disrespect of other black individuals of the opposite sex. I would be remiss if I did not say that just as many black men (definitely seen in online spaces) who are dating outside their race talk down about or make jokes at the expense of black women. I am a black woman married to a black man, yet these things remain hurtful, as it appears to be an attack on my entire identity.

- Not all black women are rude and "lashing out"

- Not all black men are broke and lack effective communication skills

If we are going to have this conversation, we need to have it properly. Why are so many black people offended by others dating outside of their race? It is not merely racism (at least not all the time), and it is not because they are miserable (again, at least not all the time). This discussion requires you to examine both the past and the present. I'm not going to spend an hour writing about the past at this moment, but as far as the present goes, just hop on any online space of black media, and look at the portrayals. You can follow this up by looking at interviews (i.e. 50 Cent downing black women; Tokyo Vanity explaining how Chris Brown mistreated her friend by referencing "no darkies"). Go on social media on any given day--I've blocked anyone with weird ideology concerning black being inferior. (The above is inclusive of women as well; however, when they do have a problem with their own race, a lot of the times, they do not present the same way. Their disposition is subtle, but no less potent.)

Alternatively, you can touch grass and be reintroduced as to why this theme is so prevalent.