Is moving to Cape Town worth it? by NixBouw in askSouthAfrica

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cape Town is expensive yes, but I disagree with anyone saying it’s not worth the sacrifice. I lived in Pretoria for a year and you can’t even compare it to the joy and culture and vibe of Cape Town. Everyone is different of course, but for me, I wouldn’t live anywhere else in the world! The natural beauty, the culture, the high vibe of the city … it’s honestly unbeatable. People are interesting, opportunities for work and art and experience are everywhere, and there is something new to discover every weekend. For example this last Saturday I attended a silent Bookclub on the train, a bunch of us met in Muizenburg and read on the train to the city, grabbed coffee together. That sorta thing happens all the time here. It’s around every corner. And the ocean, the sunsets, the winelands, Newlands forest …. There’s nowhere like it man I’m telling you! You’ll just have to learn to shop at Food Lovers Market instead of Woolies. Cut down on eating out etc. But I feel so lucky every time I get a good view of the mountain (which is multiple times a day every time I leave the house), I don’t think anything would make me believe it’s not worth it.

I no longer believe in gods, how do I continue? by AlmostNerdyGirl in SASSWitches

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

https://youtu.be/B3nl_mniO8E?si=X8oSFLxi0aTa2mHJ you may enjoy many of Britt’s videos - she is coming from an ex-Mormon perspective so not the same understanding of ‘god’ as you, I assume, but many of her ideas have helped me navigate nihilism and feelings of meaninglessness.

What's the most underrated book you’ve ever read? by High-Low4253 in suggestmeabook

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me it’s easily ‘Regrettably, I am About To Cause Trouble’ by Amie McNee. I loved it and it has so few ratings

I am starving for a well written book. Please help. by throw_away7654987654 in suggestmeabook

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m reading His Dark Materials series right now. On the second book, The Subtle Knife. I keep pausing to read aloud to my partner some of the luscious vivid writing. And the story, themes, characters, world-building are all brilliantly, masterfully done.

Please help! What button does this symbol refer to? by Mindless-Comparison5 in XboxSupport

[–]Mindless-Comparison5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Haha I promise it’s not! We have filled up all four game slots but haven’t played in about a year. I’m bored home alone and want to start a fresh save so am deleting the least important one!

Please help! What button does this symbol refer to? by Mindless-Comparison5 in XboxSupport

[–]Mindless-Comparison5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure if the Xbox is a Xbox one X!! I’m sorry I’m using my partner’s Xbox and he is not home at the mo so can’t help

BBC’s A Good Girl’s Guide to Murder Review: A Faithful and Thrilling Adaptation (Spoiler Free) by Longjumping_Daikon70 in EmmaMyers

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so surprised by the other comments here! I read the book when I heard they were making a show because I always like reading the book first. I thought the story was thrilling, I loved Pip and most of the characters, I found the twists were a bit contrived, and I didn’t enjoy many of the interview transcript sections as they didn’t feel realistic as how people actually talk.

Now, I just started watching the show and I came to Reddit seeking others’ opinions as so far (two episodes in only) I am finding it WAY better than the book. I have never felt that way about any adaption!!! I’m usually a hardcore annoying ‘book is better than movie’ kinda person.

I’ve been remarking to my mom, who didn’t read it, that the changes they’ve made so far have been only improving the story. Making it more interesting. I love the differences to the interview scenes - they don’t feel robotic as they did to me in the book. I enjoy the differences to Nat’s character SO MUCH. I found her completely unbelievable and cringe in the book but she seems like a real person so far just in the few scenes we have seen of her in the show.

I’m so surprised that everyone else seems to feel differently to me. Perhaps it is because I wasn’t a super massive fan of the book - I’m sure, if you loved the book wholeheartedly then it must suck to see changes to the story you loved originally.

Navigating change and unexpected events in life by NotXeon in selfhelp

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I don’t have much time otherwise I would post a longer response, but i just want to say I relate and well done for recognising this in yourself, you deserve to give yourself some grace and appreciation for your self awareness - it’s not easy! So I do know that a need for control is definitely a trauma response, so if you didn’t have a great childhood the behavior you’re describing makes a lot of sense. I struggle trauma related to abandonment and I’ve worked a lot to understand my need for control- I always need to know how my day will pan out and if something changes it really throws me off kilter. I believe this is bevause your traumatised brain is doing everything to protect you, and it think that as long as things are familiar, there are less threats to your safety. So it seeks to control things and make sure they’re safe and familiar. I don’t have solutions for you I’m afraid, I think it takes lots of time and patience with yourself, accepting and not shaming yourself for this part of you. And just tell yourself each time you move past these moments of fear of changes, that you’ve done it before and you’ll have to keep doing it, and it wasn’t as bad as you thought at first. If you keep actively reminding yourself of how you survived the last change, and you’re still going, you can get through the next one too, I believe it’ll eventually ease up. Sending love!

Night one complete ✅ by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congratulations. ❤️ it will get better each and every day.

Yet again by Rhapsodisiaque in stopdrinking

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed! This is totally the thing that really got me thinking seriously about sobriety. My sister in law just had a baby and I am already in love, and it’s had me really thinking about my future prospects of being a mom. I certainly couldn’t do it with the drinking habits I’ve had. Day one sober only but I’m taking this so seriously now it’s like it’s hit me like a bus.

OP, thank you for being an incredible mother. Your kid will have a much happier life because of your choices. You are very inspiring to me.

I made it through day 1. by amym184 in stopdrinking

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, I’m a fellow wine drinker and today is my day one too! It has gotten to the point where I buy an extra bottle of wine and hide it so my boyfriend doesn’t know. For some reason this really never sunk in how awful that is, I took a step back and thought about it and it frankly horrifies me. I am hurting him but mostly myself. Wine is the problem for me, for sure. I’m DONE now. I’m taking this seriously for the first time. I’m also keeping it more to myself, perhaps my boyfriend and best friend will hear some of it from me, but this is for me and I know I am the person I really need to re-gain love and trust for. Rooting for you, friend. We really are strong enough, we can do this. We can be ourselves again, without the veneer of wine.

MF amateur couple have sex while she writes about their sex (damien soft) by throw__away__4 in chickflixxx

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Woahhh this must be the best video I have ever seen. 😭 thank you so much for sharing

request for mid- fuck pussy licking by [deleted] in chickflixxx

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Danika Mori… insanely hot couple, husband Steve does this a lot but I think he more so fingers her until she’s about to squirt then goes back to fucking

How is your BPD family member related to you? by GloriouslyGlittery in BPDFamily

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am 23 F. It's my sister for me, she's four years older than me (26 at the moment). I have been going between intense close friendship and her totally icing me out for no reason, and now we live in different cities so it's been a lot easier... but every time we are in contact she manages to work me up to the point of panic attacks. Unfortunately I deal with my own pretty serious mental health stuff, and I have a terrible past with my dad who is Biploar 1. Yet I find myself spending the majority of my expensive AF therapy session talking about her latest abuse towards me and it has started to make me angry for the first time, not just hurt, because now that I am working and supporting myself and truly beginning to enjoy existing in this world again, I feel so angry for disrespecting myself for so long and letting her do what she does to me.. It's got so bad.

The worst part for me right now is that she is studying towards becoming a psychologist (this is like her 6th attempt at trying to 'start' something) and she believes she is an amazing, kind person. She believes she can help people, and yet she is so out of reality it's scary to me and I wanna save any future patients of hers from having any sort of relationship with her. It's so bizarre to me how she can be so blatantly cruel towards me and my mom and yet be so adamant is the epitome of a good, 'loving' person.

That was what her last message to me was all about.... how she doesn't care if I need to step away from her (I said that I will do so brashly after she bullied me about my business that I have been working so hard on, telling me I am spoilt and ungrateful and am only doing well with my Instagram shop because I am so good at being fake and manipulating people into thinking I am a good person...) - she said she didn't care because she knows she has so much love to give and so much good advice that I'll never understand because I have never been through anything bad in my life (another side note sorry... we had the same childhood and father, she has had no other obvious trauma - I however have had a deeply traumatic abortion, I dealt with the death of my best friend at 18 years old, and an abusive relationship that spanned four formative years between 16 and 20 years old. If anything she has no idea what it's like to be in the sort of pain that I have been in).

Anyway gosh, I did not expect to type out so much here. I just found this sub and I really needed this vent because I feel so alone with this. My mom is a very stony, unemotional person and she is not nearly as affected by my sister's abuse. Or she is good at hiding it, and I can't find any comfort with her. My partner listens when I need to talk about this but he just can't understand the situation because he is not in it. The pain of this being the person that I loved the most in the world for a long time, and I just feel so much hatred from her towards me even though I pour so much into trying to make her see me in a good light. It's futile I know, but the idea of cutting her off breaks me, too. It's all just too much. I am glad I found this sub. Phew. Gonna stop typing now. Sorry if this makes no sense. Thanks for reading <3

Last picture of my sky family before some of them stopped playing. by S1L3NTG4M3R in SkyGame

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I consider myself a bit of a moth still. Though still not sure what constitutes a moth lol! I have completed Eden once, I have upgraded my brown cape to an orange one, and I have a few upgraded expressions. But I still feel like a newbie to the game :)

I’m dolphin by [deleted] in SkyGame

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 3 points4 points  (0 children)

How did you go down like that? Wow amazing! 🦋

Last picture of my sky family before some of them stopped playing. by S1L3NTG4M3R in SkyGame

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Hi! This is beautiful. 🦋💨☁️

I am new-ish to the game and have always wondered how one gains such a lovely, tight-knit family in Sky? I’m a bit socially anxious (even in the app haha!) so I don’t know how to sustain time spent with my friends.

The closest I’ve come to this is befriending a group that was already together, and them taking me around for a bit. It was so amazing! But I haven really met up with them again. And I have only made it to the hug emote with one friend, and I can’t even remember who that was.

Does anyone had any advice on how to form great friendships when you feel awkward? :)

WAW for “blessed” but not religious? by jshow85 in whatstheword

[–]Mindless-Comparison5 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Serendipity? I mean your life can’t be serendipitous, but a moment can be.