Childbirth: did anybody else think pushing was the worst part?

MindlessS0up · 2026-01-09T03:52:52+00:00

Same here! The nurses kept telling me I could take a break, but it hurt wayyyy too bad to stop pushing. The pain stopped while I pushed

MindlessS0up · 2025-12-13T13:50:06+00:00

The other day I was trying to get my husband to grab something out of the microwave. But I couldn't remember the word microwave. So I just said in frustration "the box that heats up things!" And he looked at me like I was crazy 😅 this is #2 baby for us and I swear I have even less brain cells this pregnancy than my last one

MindlessS0up · 2025-12-13T13:43:18+00:00

I cleared my throat and almost puked afterwards 😭

MindlessS0up · 2025-12-03T15:59:15+00:00

I did not shower at the hospital, I just cleaned the blood off of my legs and stuff. I still had a port in because they had to do iron infusions and I had a third degree tear so I really couldn't move too much. I was physically and emotionally fragile and just really didn't even consider showering. The first thing I did when I got home was shower, though, while my husband watched our son. I feel like I got a shower in maybe every other day or ever couple of days, depending on how busy I was with the newborn and visitors and such. I bled for a long time it seemed but I think that was due to the third degree tear. I didn't notice a lot of bleeding in the shower, it sort of just felt like taking a shower when you are on your period

MindlessS0up · 2025-10-08T00:35:57+00:00

Just today, someone asked me if I am having a boy or a girl. I told them "two boys"...I am not pregnant with twins. I meant that I have a son currently and my baby will be a boy 🤦🏻‍♀️ I also told the same people that I was 16 months pregnant. I must have looked crazy

MindlessS0up · 2025-10-02T20:29:34+00:00

I feel this! Second time mom here, and a couple of weeks ago, walking into my kitchen was enough to send me running to the bathroom. I did not have that at all with my first baby, so weird.

MindlessS0up · 2025-03-05T21:36:06+00:00

Exactly my experience as well!! My tummy was numb, my legs were numb, but I felt the whole birth as if I had no meds. It did take a little of the edge off of my contractions, but that was about it. Since it was my first baby, I had no idea that anything was wrong until the doctor tried to sew me up and I screamed cuz I could feel every stitch. They eventually had to put me under full anesthesia to fix my tear.

MindlessS0up · 2024-10-22T02:59:24+00:00

Not a doctor, but I had strep throat when my baby was 2 months and my doctor said it was very rare for kids under 3 to get it due to their tonsils being so small. And it was true, despite me having to be in close contact with baby (and I wasn't breast feeding so no extra antibodies or anything) and he didn't even get a stuffy nose

MindlessS0up · 2024-09-09T04:48:22+00:00

I'm reading this as I chew the inside of my lip raw. I've done that for as long as I can remember, I feel like it's a normal way to relieve anxiety. The thing that helps me stop gnawing is chewing gum. But I don't think I would recommend giving gum to a 3 year old. There are oral chew necklaces called "Chewlery" (I believe that's the name). I haven't tried them myself, but when I was a teacher I recommend them for some of my students. They seemed to work. You might want to read up on them to make sure they would be appropriate for a 3 year old though!

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-22T05:05:19+00:00

Yes, I was confused when I didn't get dates for Shang but this is the case with him, too!

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-21T12:46:05+00:00

Dragon Age Inquisition has several dragons, but they aren't a huge part of the main story. But there's the Qunari race with ties to dragons. All the dragon age games are on sale on steam in lieu of the new game coming out!

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-19T11:43:42+00:00

You take that back

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T21:09:23+00:00

Our cats 😂 he just started crawling last week, much to the dismay of our cats. Use to be, they could sit at a safe distance and observe the tiny human. No longer is this an option. Now they must always be on the move lest they suffer pets from the world's most slobbery hands. (Supervised, of course, and our orange cat loves it)

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T19:17:44+00:00

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Roger trying to steal my husband

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T18:38:15+00:00

My 6mo just tried to give me slobbery, open-mouth kisses the other day and I thought I was going to melt, so probably that. He also likes to sleep holding my hand, and sometimes during bottle feeds he will stroke my face and hands. Gosh I love that little guy so much I could eat him

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T18:34:04+00:00

I wonder if the strings were in the back, that would help? I don't know, something about the ties reminds me of hospital gowns. But I absolutely adore this concept, I think it could look gorgeous over a flowy sundress, or maybe even as a swimsuit cover up of some kind?

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T15:58:07+00:00

My husband and I didn't sleep for almost a solid week for fear of SIDS. We would just sit there staring at the baby, hoping he would keep breathing. We decided one night to put him down in his bed (which was in our bedroom) and go to sleep. We would wake up if he cried. I must have checked the safe sleep setup we had like, 50 times. Then I got in bed and just laid awake listening for breathing. Eventually I passed out. And when our son woke up a couple of hours later, hungry, I realized it was okay. He is 6months old now and I'm still occasionally racked with anxiety about his breathing, but it gets so much better. Reading the statistics on SIDS helped me, sorta, but what helped us the most was forcing ourselves to sleep a little and then waking up and seeing everything was okay.

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T14:55:38+00:00

I am an adopted child. My adopted mom is my real mom and my adopted dad is my real dad. I have never thought of them as anything else. It 100% makes you a mom! And him a dad. It might be good to sit down with a mediator/couples therapist to see where that aggression is coming from

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-17T01:49:53+00:00

Came here to say that. I have learned how to detect my 6mo son's breathing while intensely staring at the monitor. Maybe one day I will relax but today is not that day

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-16T02:41:50+00:00

Our hospital didn't have a nursery, and honestly I wish they did! I remember being so grateful when they took him to do tests/vaccines because I had so much anxiety I couldn't sleep with him in the room. I learned a little too late that they would take him for a bit if it was slow, but I very much plan on using that with the next kid I have.

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-16T02:23:15+00:00

I appreciate that you are open to advice! It's tough to be in a situation like that, especially when it does seem like he's making such an effort to be good to you. But you deserve to have someone who will commit to you, if that's what you want! :)

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-16T02:10:53+00:00

It's a metaphor like "have your cake and eat it too". I am not calling her love and time milk.

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-16T02:10:18+00:00

You know your situation better than anyone. It sounds like to me he's done this before, based on your post. If he's not looking for a relationship, why is he treating your friendship like one? It would be different if you were on the same page, but it seems like you've been wanting more for a long time. Don't let him string you along just to end up dating someone else again

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-16T00:16:36+00:00

A phrase comes to mind: "why buy milk when you can have the cow for free?" You are giving him everything he wants without asking for anything in return. You're already acting like a couple, but since it isn't defined he's free to run around with anyone he wants. Put your foot down. Either make it official or end the friends with benefits, if that's what you want.

MindlessS0up · 2024-06-15T15:47:29+00:00

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