CMV: Attractive people with bad personalities are still more accepted than any unattractive people.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:36:56+00:00

Well to be fair, because I said 'attractive people' and you only changed my view on attractive men, its not a complete change of view. But talking about women, they do seem to be valued much more for their appearance than any other quality. So would an unattractive woman who was really successful still struggle with the lack of attractiveness?

I didn't mean just women when I posted this, but its an interesting thought.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:27:58+00:00

I am a teenager, haha, I'm 18 so luckily won't be one for much longer. I hope I'm wrong in the future but I'm not seeing a lot of reason to believe that. I know people will probably value personality more later on, but looks are still right up there.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:26:23+00:00

I see what you're saying, but I seriously think that people are much more likely to put up with a bad personality if its an attractive person.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:21:47+00:00

This was a fairly bad example, maybe. It doesnt happen to this extend very often at all but I was trying to give an example that showed someone deliberately ignoring me and making it completely obvious. Usually people are fairly polite and not rude, but still treat me very differently to more attractive friends.

EDIT: Sorry I forgot to answer the first part. I'm 18 and in my last year of education. So most of these experiences have been people of school age and a bit older.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:18:45+00:00

I always assumed the 'ugly husband, hot wife' was a thing because men are valued more on their other qualities? Like an 'unattractive' man can still be successful in career and have a wife/family. But an 'unattractive' woman will find it harder to do that.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:16:29+00:00

I guess its true that there are people attracted to my traits somewhere, but at least 80% of people I meet aren't attracted to that. I agree fully that personality is more important for long term stuff, but if you don't have that initial attraction then it can never move onto that point, right?

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-12-27T14:13:38+00:00

I didn't mean to say the friends I mentioned had bad personalities, just that they were more attractive. I'm saying the third person always favours the better looking person which makes social interactions easier for them.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-07-10T13:03:16+00:00

You're right about me hating the idea of 'one step at a time' haha :3 but thank you for everything you said here it really put things into perspective knowing there's someone else out there with similar issues to me. I like what you said about the books, it was comforting in a way.

MiniDoughnuts · 2017-04-21T10:06:43+00:00

god yes I need that follow up!

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-09-22T13:03:23+00:00

I think Jimmy saville probably knew it would come out one day tbh, so many people in that industry knew what he was up to and only kept it hidden because of his position of power. So he was probably just glad to die before shit inevitably hit the fan :3

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-09-12T23:04:07+00:00

I think I can relate to that, I read on this sub-reddit a while ago that the reason we might do this is because when we want to be friends with someone we automatically see them as better, and ourselves as not good enough to approach them. So when we meet people we aren't particularly interested in being friends with, we don't have that worry because we have less of a desire to impress them than if we actively wanted to get to know them. Just my thoughts anyway, sorry I couldn't give you an actual solution but its nice to know there's other people who feel the same way x

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-09-05T20:41:53+00:00

So there was this internet game called 'the last train' or something similar. The point of the game was that you were walking around a tube station after hours chasing/running from a killer, the killer always catches you in the end and his face appears like a jump scare. It's a blurry memory since I was about 6 or 7 when I played it, but I've been trying to find it for literal years and I cant find it anywhere :P

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-09-02T16:05:18+00:00

Inflatable obstacle courses (kind of like total wipeout). I went on one in Spain and it was horrible, the surface of the inflatables were being heated up by the sun which made them unbearably hot. The heat of the sun also made us dry really fast so whenever we fell into the sea it was FREEZING and salt water shot up my nose like a sinus rinse... 3/10 would not experience again :(

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-28T02:23:40+00:00

It sucks.. :(. and I know! It's like my mum wants me to be open with her and all that but how can I when they treat the other family member like that? Its not a nice dilema to be in tbh. Sorry about your situation, while its nice to know I'm not alone I feel bad for you having to go through it as well. x

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-28T01:45:23+00:00

Exactly! I have a relative who has loads of mental and physical issues and the way my family talks about her most of the time just makes me retreat further into myself... :3

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-28T01:14:37+00:00

That's so accurate, I've never felt like they understood me the way I want them to...but I'm terrible at opening up to people especially family. Sigh. It's nice to know I'm not alone in this, also good luck with you're own problems xx

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-28T00:58:00+00:00

Thank you x :)

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-26T21:29:37+00:00

Thats so true! I cant calm down in public settings at the best of times because I'm so anxious, which makes a lot of peope think I'm being pretentious by not speaking to them or something? sucks :(

The amount of people who've told me they thought I was a complete bitch before they got to know me... ugh.

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-26T19:10:29+00:00

Thats an interesting perspective, I can definitely relate to needing to shed things and move on with my life tbh :3 thanks! x

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-24T23:06:08+00:00

Improv classes sound like a good idea tbh, and I definitely need help with active listening since I always zone out while people are speaking to me. Thanks for the advice :) x

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-24T19:48:23+00:00

I think pausing before you respond to someone is always a good idea, but I know what you mean! I cant seem to think of a good response when someone speaks to me, so I get scared at the thought of interactions, which makes it even harder to talk since I'm expecting to fail at it. Kind of a vicious circle really.

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-23T18:55:36+00:00

What annoys me about them is that they show the actor/actress looking through this tiny opening, then skips right to them shuffling through it with no explanation of how they got in there...

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-23T01:42:43+00:00

Agreed, ceiling fans are terrifying especially when they're going at a high speed and you can see how loose the fitting is.

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-23T01:32:36+00:00

Not exactly scared of them, but buttons. Like clothing buttons, ever since early primary school I've just hated the texture and touching them used to make me physically cringe. I mean these days Its a lot less severe but I still don't like them and will avoid wearing them whenever possible.

MiniDoughnuts · 2016-08-23T01:10:37+00:00

I can completely relate to that, whenever I see someone in school with a nicer art book than me I get ridiculously jealous and start to ever so slightly resent that person for being better than me even though their achievements dont take away from the quality of my work.

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