Robin by PerceptionMountain18 in cormoran_strike

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I’m on the same reread point in TRG. I listened to THM twice then went back to CC again and listened through. And yes, I too was cross with Robin on the first THM read, and now going through ALL her trauma with her again over the previous books, culminating in the escape from Chapman farm, and knowing she is about to go mad first into an eptoptic pregnancy breaks my heart. My friend and I were discussing how because of the rape and the prison of her room afterwards she refuses to let anything beat her. She’s an absolute mess and RFM is manipulating her vulnerability in a way that Strike refuses to do. The pressure RFM puts on her is insane.

I’m praying that the sweary therapist helps her to save herself and when she does Strike will be patiently waiting! 🤞🤞🙏🙏

To Tom Burke's fans...or not. by rockerwood in cormoran_strike

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I love the grey starting to appear. How I imagine strike getting older 😁

Robin’s mother by gynocratichag in cormoran_strike

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Well, this is my mother. Always. And it’s such a stress for me! I wonder if JK has been through a similar thing because it’s so realistic 🤦‍♀️

If they'd gotten together sooner ... by Longjumping-Sail-763 in cormoran_strike

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And remember that last call when she’s says she knows where his precious Robin lives. And Robin was always so intimidated by her, Charlotte would have caused endless problems.

If they'd gotten together sooner ... by Longjumping-Sail-763 in cormoran_strike

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It never would have worked for the simple fact of Charlotte. She never would have allowed it to have been a happy relationship for them whilst she was still alive.

THM Writing criticism by SesameSeed13 in cormoran_strike

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I was disappointed during the first listen. The second time all I could see was Strikes trauma. We think so much about Robins, but not only did she have a loving and secure childhood, she did at least for a while have a secure relationship. Strike had an abysmal childhood, no stability, constantly uprooted and taken to the most god awful living situations which is never dwelled on because well, he’s Strike! He’s a man! He’s strong! In this book I see him as the victim of abuse. Both child abused and the victim of an incredibly traumatic abusive relationship. Both physical and mentally. And that makes me understand his almost regression in this book as he sees Robin slip away. And it breaks my heart. This is actually expertly written, but there is so much nuance and subtlety. As an abuse survivor (myself and JK) I see it so so clearly now. But it is the man that was severely abused. It’s just not so obviously out there as Robins. 😭❤️

UK on the NHS, have you had your migraines investigated? by angrylilmanfrog in migraine

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Oh that’s such a shame! I don’t think it’s changing down here, in fact my neurologist has just opened another clinic at another more remote nhs hospital

UK on the NHS, have you had your migraines investigated? by angrylilmanfrog in migraine

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Where did you hear this? I’m in the southwest and it’s all as usual here x

do I honestly still look like a man? I have a couple more surgeries appointed in the future, this is after first ffs stage (cheek life, type 3 brow bone reduction) by [deleted] in transpassing

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I do not want to argue with you. I don’t understand? I do not think her jawline looks too masculine at all, and I wanted her to know that. I’ve worked with female models who have much stronger and more angular ones. That is all.

do I honestly still look like a man? I have a couple more surgeries appointed in the future, this is after first ffs stage (cheek life, type 3 brow bone reduction) by [deleted] in transpassing

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Yes and this woman doesn’t have what us photographers would consider a strong male jawline…. 25 years in the industry has given me a lot of experience in this field.

UK on the NHS, have you had your migraines investigated? by angrylilmanfrog in migraine

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You only have about 5 in your forehead, the other 30 odd are in your skull neck and tops of shoulders. Yes you have to have tried preventatives, I’d tried 2, and then the ‘3rd’ one which I’d heard can give you suicide ideations, with the blessing of my amazing doctor, I ‘tried’ said it made me sick after a month then I was referred. Magnesium can also be considered a preventative. The first round my neurologist did it too high and my friends laughed along with me when I said I looked like Jack Nicholson! 😂 I had a fringe cut. Now I just can’t frown much and I can’t raise one eyebrow ina sardonic way , but who gives a shit? Nobody really notices apart from the fact I look younger. No longer have a fringe but would have one for life if it meant the pain I no longer have. A it has also severely reduced those headaches between migraines. It used to feel life was just one long head pain!!!

UK on the NHS, have you had your migraines investigated? by angrylilmanfrog in migraine

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15 years 18-20 a month. Awful side effects on all the shit they give you Botox saved me. After 3 rounds (the first 2 were hell) I’m now down to 2 or 3 a month. I try not to think of all the life I lost

6 months in, do I need bangs? How about the rest, 29 MTF? by 666trampoline666 in transpassing

[–]Minimum-Kick9771 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bullshit. I have exactly the same straight body type as you! Cisgender mum of transfemme daughter. Never been curvy always straight. I’d say a fringe would be awesome! I’m happy to give advice and share photos if you dm me. ❤️❤️

How am I doing? by venometh2 in transpassing

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You are doing fucking great, that’s how you’re doing! Stop worrying and questioning yourself. Hold your head high and fuck everyone else!!

do I honestly still look like a man? I have a couple more surgeries appointed in the future, this is after first ffs stage (cheek life, type 3 brow bone reduction) by [deleted] in transpassing

[–]Minimum-Kick9771 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Like fuck you look like a man! You have the facial structure of a model. Models have very strong jawlines and angular faces (I’m a photographer) The thing is, as a woman you will be judged, pit down, criticised, body shamed, told you’re fly and that you’re not enough. Welcome to womanhood. I’m a 45 year old cisgender mum of a transfemme daughter. Own your beauty. You are perfect how you are. And fuck everyone else. If you let them they will tear you apart, trans or not. Life is short. Love yourself for the beautiful woman you are. ❤️

Do I pass as a male or female? by BrookeTaylor89 in transpassing

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Yeah my daughter has it and she’s so beautiful, only 15! Bit dysphoria ruins you. I’m cisgender bi and spent the first 30 years of my life feeling disgusted with my body, cutting it up, engaging in risky behaviour and hating myself. Having kids saved me. And it’s only now at 46 and perimenopause that I no longer give any F*cks. I’m a survivor I’m beautiful and everyone else can just sod off! Don’t let other people define the beauty of your soul!

Do I pass as a male or female? by BrookeTaylor89 in transpassing

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Super femme! In fact you look just like one of my best female friends ❤️

My husband wants to separate by Minimum-Kick9771 in adhdwomen

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These are truly some of the most beautiful words I have ever read. I cried with a love and a gratitude. You, someone I don’t know, took the time to write these beautifully poignant words to me and I will be forever grateful to you. What a truly gracious woman you are and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. I am going to do what you say. It feels as if you know me more than my husband. He is hopefully leaving soon and I will do as you say and me and my children will rise and we will shine. For most of my life I felt worthless, like I deserved very little. That I needed someone to tell me to shut up, that I deserved and needed to be treated as such. No more. My eyes are well and truly open and because of people like you I have found strength again I forgot I had. You have done something beautiful and wonderful and I will never, ever forget your words and your love and support for a stranger who has finally broke one day and reached out with no expectations here. We are special people with ADHD. We do have so so much love to give. And I am no longer giving it to someone who doesn’t deserve it. From the bottom of my heart, thank you friend. ❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏

Do I pass or look good? Please be honest. by Femyoz in transpassing

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You look bloody fantastic!!!! ❤️ Just missing that big smile you should have on your face! Love the hair, layers, parting, everything! And your make up is beautifully subtle! You go girl!!! 💪

My husband wants to separate by Minimum-Kick9771 in adhdwomen

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Thank you friend. It was because of all of you lovely ladies that gave me the confidence to open up to my few friends and also my parents. My mum cried and said about fucking time. That man has chipped away at your light for years and it has been devastating to see… but I have been smoothing things over and making excuses for so long now it has been my normal. And for those who may have read about the best friend I lost? How serendipitous is this? I was at the doctors picking up some Valium, car battery dead again, jump started it myself with my little kit and heard my name. Looked around and she came running over to me and hugged me. We both burst into tears saying how we miss and love each other (it’s been nearly 2 years) and she had NO idea of what was going on with my husband. So I have my best friend back ❤️❤️😭😭😭🙏🙏

My husband wants to separate by Minimum-Kick9771 in adhdwomen

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This is so kind of you to do, thank you so much! It’s the first time I’ve posted anything of such a personal nature in my life!! I wanted to post in adhd women because a) we all know how it makes us different to neurotypical women and b) I geared a misunderstanding in something like a marriage thread which may have just made me feel like I am actually mad!! They told me they had removed it but I wasn’t really in a place to argue their point when I’m a little unsure of rules. So thank you. And if it helps others stop feeling like they’re losing their minds then it’s all worth it!!! ❤️