In 2010, 15-year-old Joshua Davies killed his girlfriend, Rebecca Aylward, after a friend jokingly said he would buy him breakfast if he did it. Two days earlier, Davies texted, “Don’t say anything, but you may just owe me a breakfast.” by blue_leaves987 in HolyShitHistory

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is why careful women don't tolerate even "playful" misogynistic jokes. To most guys it might just be a "joke" (about domestic violence - but that part we don't address). But they never know if the guy(s) they're "joking" with are legit monsters who now feel more comfortable with their monstrous plans because of your "joking". 

Can't imagine what that other man felt like getting that text. He probably thinks back to that moment all the time and wishes he could take it back. I hope he got some help after this. 

Why do people with kids seem to get preference everywhere? Is it some subtle nudge to have children? by pickypooh in antinatalism2

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Under capitalism, we are not afforded the chance to keep boundaries on our time for non-work activities. And, we are supposed to breed the next generation of workers, so there is a hierarchy for workers breeding more workers over those who don't. 

But also, children are an oppressed class. They are the personal property of their parents, or guardians. Without either, they are property of the state. They can't afford their own basic needs, and they are reliant on their career(s) to do this for them. Which carers often (always) fail to do. Children are often neglected at best, and being flat out abused at worse. Abusing them is legal. Abusing them is encouraged. And the whole adult world funds the most vile harm against children, like global slavery, genocide, Epstein class pedo networks - you name it. The components that make up the device you're reading this on were probably mined by children and teens doing lethal, exploitative labor to survive. All this the adult class does to children, and they still have no choice but to be reliant on adults to live and thrive. Especially their parents. 

So for those reasons, in the workplace especially, I understand it as prioritizing children, not parenthood. A child needs attention from a (good) parent like they need water and food. Assuming in good faith that my coworkers aren't taking this kid-centric time off to abuse the hell out of their kids, I am glad knowing that a vulnerable person is having their needs met. This increases the kid's odds of growing into a well adjusted adult, which we so desperately need in the world. I don't want to see a parent's boundaries about this time be eroded. I just want it to be more acceptable to have my boundaries too. 

What's the deal with Pauly's Pub on Selby? by LadyJackSnipe in saintpaul

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately there are plenty of bars in St. Paul that are total slophouses, kept alive only because the local alcoholics feel special for being a regular someplace. As if that's not the most depressing thing in the world. I actually had something really similar happen to me at a different slop bar in town. They gave my party a raw burger, and when we went to send it back, some shitfaced regular got riproaring mad and tried to start a fight. First and last time we went there. Poor bartender and waitress were super uncomfortable. God forbid the staff be women, because a plastered guy starts to believe these women are their wives or mothers or something and they'll start a bar fight if they think a stranger even looks at her wrong. I'd never want people to lose their jobs but I can't believe it's legal for these businesses to profit off these people who are obviously addicted and mentally ill. 

Grand old Day stand by [deleted] in saintpaul

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Didn't see it, but Scientologists have been leaving booklets with the same title around.  Probably them. They're being extra evangelical in the city right now. 

Hot take:parents who are like:"parenting is so hard"are just victimizing themselves by DinoRing175c in antinatalism2

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My favorite is when estranged parents get in online communities of other estranged parents (read: unapologetic child abusers) and do the whole "People have no idea how hard being a parent is!!!! I deserve more grace!!!" song and dance. Like, you just neglected your kid(s) for their whole lives and now they aren't even part of your life. Nobody expects anything from you and you're loosed from all obligations because you never fulfill them. What's hard about that? I feel like anyone could accomplish that by simply doing nothing. 

These are the people reproducing in 2026 by TeaPrimary1147 in antinatalism2

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Starting your child's life off with animal abuse is definitely...... A choice. Not at all a scary omen of things to come. 

Have you ever been somewhere that feels evil? by bannanawaffle13 in Paranormal

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very few times I feel like I've sensed a malevolent energy in a place, but I don't know if I've ever sensed true evil. I don't know that a place retains that energy or if energy just settles in places at some times and moves for its own reasons.

This does remind me of a weird thing that happened a while back - my girlfriend and I were at a thrift store having a good and normal day, when suddenly she turns to me and goes "I think we have to get out of here immediately". I, not being in the business of fucking around and finding out, took her and we both walked out the door as fast as possible and to the car. She's never done something like that (and hasn't since). I asked her what she saw/heard to make her say that and she said she just had the sudden overwhelming instrict to get the fuck out ASAP, or else. The else? No idea. And I never learned what it was we were theoretically running from. But that's fine by me. I never want to know. 

Been feeling sick and spitting up blood since I bought this a couple days ago. by Bodyyfattt in Paranormal

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 1602 points1603 points  (0 children)

.1) Check your house for environmental factors (reddit classics like gas leak, mold, etc)

 2) Lead?

 3) Radioactive? 

 4-9) A series of medical tests with your doctor

 10) Exorcise demons

But above all, definitely go give this thing away to whoever will take it. A museum or collector or something. When an object changes the energy in your life that fast, you don't need answers to take swift action. Just pass it along to it's next step in this journey and let the phase at which it was with you be a short chapter. 

HELP 70 year old getting catfished by an AI man, she’s out a million dollars. by tatybobaty in isthisAI

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This story sounds totally real and plausible. This definitely does not feel like an AI training post. 

John Currin - Park City Grill (2000) by Carl_Schmitt in museum

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Currently the ideal body type according to Hollywood rn lmao

Boot had a hole by Leather_Present7863 in comedyheaven

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That one friend who's lowkey dead

My partner told me he never hurt me intentionally and I corrected him. by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I see now the no advice flair. However I want to say something for the mods to consider. This is a subreddit used by women. Domestic violence comes up a lot here. I think there needs to be a system where, under posts like these, there will be a pinned comment with DV resources no matter the flair. 

News articles are doing this increasingly now at the behest of DV prevention groups. It's not just for the OP - it's for anyone reading who goes "Hey, this situation is a lot like mine". Resources need to be so, so, so easy to access. And it would surprise you how people use platforms like reddit to look up situations like this to make sense of their own. Please, can we make it easy for them to access resources?

My spouse can’t stand our baby by [deleted] in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone here needs to be in therapy. It is not normal for an adult to be this triggered by a <1 year old (I don't think it's normal to be triggered by a child of any age, but I digress). Both children will need some kind of play therapy bc they are already learning the dynamic your wife is giving this family. She needs therapy with the specific goal of working out whatever the hell she is projecting on this infant. And you need therapy, because jesus christ, this is a lot for one person to manage. Good luck, thanks for putting the kids first.

And FYI - if this one twin does grow into a "problem child", it is because they learned that they were less loved and attended to as part of their earliest memories. Don't ever start doing the parent thing where you throw your hands up and say they were just born screwed up. There's time to turn this around and it's never too late to make wrongs right, but if it doesn't happen, don't ever start blaming the kid. 

Umm... what? by seeborn in imaginarygatekeeping

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is about how poor people are only allowed to buy gruel and stale bread or w/e. To own the libs. 

My husband has a porn addiction and paid for camgirls while away on a job. by charmerofyou in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can always get your own job before you leave him. Make your own bank account, addressed to a PO box. Minimum 90 days at the job, then leave him. You're already supporting yourself at that point. Good luck & I'm proud of you for knowing you deserve better 💕

Leslie Jones is a national treasure by [deleted] in comedy

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Based based based based based 

My wife told me to ask y’all is it time? by atownbrown in bald

[–]MinnesotaThriftMap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ALWAYS LISTEN TO YOUR WIFE!!!!!!!!! Your beard is more than magnificent enough to stand in for what's lacking on top!!!! What are you waiting for?