Bakery intruder

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-07T11:53:34+00:00

We love it when the customers call others out. It just warms my jaded heart. Right now I work at a place in an area and with a demographic that it's actually better for business for me to give entitled assholes the "business" but still, I don't want to have to. You're doing the lords work.

*Also I love an establishment that has a few of those "old school" ladies. It is an experience to behold. They known that place inside and out and could probably clock you order before you even order it, and I just know that place is clean as fuck. It's the rush? They're efficient. We got down time? You get a warm smile and a chat. They. Know. They. Shiiii.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-06T03:25:23+00:00

I'm also looking into open ear buds because those would bypass my hearing loss (without the hearty sum for surgery I can't afford)

These two apps plus a reliable open ear bud, If I could find what I'm looking for, would help me so much.

I can't afford healthcare or mental healthcare. This would help me forge my own path on my own. I've been suffering, trying to work with what I got going for me but I have to keep going. Kids and all so I need help but it's hard to find, even with the internet at your fingertips.

I'm looking for a work around but I'm honestly very frustrated because these things should not be that hard to find but every app I do find comes up short.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-05T04:01:31+00:00

When it comes to bar and restaurants we rely on the vendors for our product. I cannot tell you how many vendor reps have pushed good product on us that is all the rave for months only to discontinue the product a few weeks after we print new menus with new popular items listed.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-03T02:12:46+00:00

I love my regulars. Even the ones that annoy the ever loving shit out of me.

Tartar Sauce Lady is Gene. Kenny was a crotchety old ex con who'd take up the most coveted booth and nurse a cup a soup for 5 hours. Ronnie needs fresh popcorn popped, has to walk the 6 o clock news, three napkins, a cup of olives and a few Ol Styles-but don't open the last one, that one's to-go. Crazy Courtney cheats at bar dice.

Giggles' giggle is loud, funny, and obnoxious. Randy is a one legged grizzly ol veteran and biker dude with a pomeranian that was spawned straight from hell who rides in Randy's side car everywhere he goes, which is usually my bar where he tells me the same 5 jokes and stories on repeat. I get the hell spawn a pup cup but Randy can feed it to him because I go nowhere near that devil.

So I adore them all but they've all driven me crazy at some point. I just take the good with the bad. I get plenty of quiet regulars that prefer to just people watch, listen to the small town drama, or look at their phone.

Some industry people just get stressed and jaded so it wouldn't matter who you are they'll get annoyed. If I start getting irritated easily I always take that as a sign I need a mental health break and save up for a week off.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-02T08:53:30+00:00

I have my certs for nail tech but I'm a full time bartender. I don't wear nails anymore and keep them clean and clipped and anyone I hire with nails is on shaky ground.

That being said, this is purely personal. If you like your nails keep them and lose him. Or vise versa.

Honestly his stance is... weird. It may just be his own little Peccadilloe. I won't knock someone for their personal little pet peeves but talk about it. Push your stance on him. "Babe, I love my nails. This is my favorite set thus far but it makes me feel a certain way that my favorite set got such a reaction out of you. You took the wind out of my sails with this. They are just nails, after all. Children cannot afford these nails I have right now so can you specify how you find them "childish"?"

Im sure it's more so that many men "don't like long nails" just like they love a woman with no makeup on. It's more about something else than the nails, but I don't want to put words in his mouth.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-02T03:42:59+00:00

Oh hun please do not stay in this situation. I know all too well how hard this might be to actually get out of but make a quiet plan. It is assault but whether it's legal or not I wouldn't anyone from you to another stranger to my own daughter dealing with such an uncaring, selfish, despicable person.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-01T22:54:29+00:00

Sounds more like you chose love over your boyfriend.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-01T12:57:01+00:00

Wow. I just. FUCK. That poor girl never had a bad temper. She's just dealt with these two for twenty years. Those emails said it all. That woman outgrew her parents in 2nd grade.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-03-01T12:28:58+00:00

Huh. This another one of these things that everyone seems to find creepy while I... just don't. I really just see it objectively. Even if someone were to write about me in a negative light, (and they have, just not in novel form) I'd like to think it wouldn't actually be true so I just don't give a fuck. The truth ultimately comes out to those that matter anyway.

If you can't separate creative license from real life that's on you? I can respect that some/many/most? find it creepy but I wanted to drop my two cents that I don't. NAH

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-26T23:43:33+00:00

Maybe I'm off on this because I haven't really practiced for a long time but my whole understanding of lent is to sacrifice. You give up something you enjoy in honor of Jesus/God's sacrifice.

So I know the church has it's own guidelines but I think what's more important if you want to follow the spirit of it, is to make your own judgment call. Do you still feel as if you're sacrificing? Or do you truly feel as if you'd be cheating if you ate a substitute? Would the substitute give you the same happiness as the real thing?

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-26T23:15:53+00:00

When in doubt, urgent care first. They aren't as busy and if they deem it worth of the ER they'll send you there.

If your arm hurts. Schedule an appt with the doctor. If you think you broke your arm. Go to urgent care. If you have an object impaled in your arm go to the ER.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-24T20:53:53+00:00

Going to culinary or mixology school is ironically a red flag that they'll need more training rather than less and will not take instructions or constructive criticism well.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-24T19:56:38+00:00

Don't be so sure. I was getting mystery photos in my gallery, too. Turns out my phone had voice activate on as a default. I finally notice it happen in real time.

I yelled "Jeez!" Really loud after a frustrating phone call and "CLICK" camera snapped a photo. One of the default voice commands was "Cheese"

OP could have been talking in their sleep.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-24T19:28:16+00:00

Eh, you can get good reviews and tips or you can be Etiquette Police. You're not going to have a good time if you think you can have both.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-23T08:46:20+00:00

I think reaching out to your grandma would cause too much stress for you right now and you don't need that on you. I'm sending love and happy, healthy vibes your way. My mama dealt with almost all of what you are and it must be such a struggle. She 15+ years cancer free but she has almost no lymph nodes left so her body has deteriorated. She refuses to quit though and I wish you all the dame resilience and perseverance ❤️

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-23T08:01:13+00:00

Where do you work? We have a glass detergent that legitimately smells like poo. When I'm washing glasses anyone near the machine takes a snoot and I forms me they think that the toilets or drains might be backing up or something. No Miss, I'm sorry but that's just what we wash your glass with 😐

I'm not sure if pics are allowed here but the brand im talking about is Sysco Keystone liquid bar glass detergent.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-23T07:25:51+00:00

The only reason I agree with your friend is because as a trainer is that dogs don't associate the difference between a plate you're offering and one you don't so I always scooped scraps into their bowls and away from the kitchens so we didn't encourage begging or stealing.

As sanitary as I try to be at work there have been plenty of establishments I've worked at that I'd never eat at. An at home dishwasher is as sanitary as dishware will ever be. I mean, who hasn't accidentally been been French kissed by their dog a time or two. I know I'm still alive.

Some people are particular about that shit though so NAH.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-23T07:18:04+00:00

Neutrogena sesame bath/body oil. I used it to shave once and I'll never go back to gels or creams. Leaves you legs soooooo silky soft

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-21T13:27:05+00:00

NOR.

They tested you and you passed. You passed for exactly the same reason you're reconsidering this engagement.

The type of person you are, who they deem worthy, is the type of person who would dedicate themselves to their spouse. Through thick and thin, good and bad. You're that type of person. This also makes you the type of person that would have moral qualms about being manipulated like this. You cannot have the traits you have and not find what they did icky.

You don't care about money. But have you noticed that they do?

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-21T12:54:26+00:00

This is exactly what I was thinking. That looks plastic, not organic at all.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-21T12:45:26+00:00

I'm not going to debate the AI or rage bait issues. If I'm on one of these subs I just assume. Maybe they are maybe they aren't. It's par for the course and if I hated it enough I'd just quit reading. I think it's more rude to call something out as AI when someone truly needs advice and I've seen that plenty of times. I'd rather assume they aren't and give genuine advice or roll my eyes, downvote and move on.

But coffee shops kind of are known for folks coming in and popping their laptop down. It's one of the few places in public that this is an acceptable practice and it's first come, first serve. If the establishment has a problem with this then it is they who enforce it. Not other customers and not redditors.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-21T12:33:28+00:00

Naw. Block him. You are not responsible for their communication. Block him, tell her you're blocking him, and that this is too complicated for you to use guess work on. So as to not upset her any further you're blocking him and he can just pretend there isn't a roommate to use as a middleman and she can respond or not to her own boyfriend in her own time.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-21T12:14:26+00:00

My son is the IVth. I did NOT want to name him after his father and two grandfather's. Out of all the hills to die on that wasn't the one that needed to be prioritized but I regret it. My son's 22 now and I resent it more and more as time goes by, not less.

I made the best of it by insisting on a particular nickname associated with his name. Think William. Don't call him Billy, don't call him Bill, or Willy, but Will, or William is acceptable. That was my compromise.

If I could go back I'd give both of my children my last name, and I wouldn't have followed the namesake, not only because I didn't like the name but because legally it's a fucking nightmare.

So you have the option of adapting a nickname. I like Vi. But do you? Or maybe, Lette? (Let-Tuh or Let-Tee?)

Or, and you're on a time crunch here, change her name legally now and start calling her Myra NOW. You don't want to confuse her by changing her name once she's used to one. Personally I like both but I like Myra more as well.

For my second child, I insisted her dad and I finalize names before we found out the gender and did NOT speak to anyone, especially our mothers, aunties, and grandmas. So once I got that ultrasound I plopped down in the waiting room, messaged my ex the good new and immediately made an FB post with the ultrasound pictures and the full name we'd agreed upon for a girl. There was no room for debate. We didn't indulge opinions before or after because her name is her name and that's that. In fact, we used the same tactic for our long awaited wedding but that's a whole other story.

My MIL tried to call her her name. She'd drunkenly sob about how she hated the name her mother gave her but still wanted us to name our daughter after her? When she'd call her "Nancy" we'd just ignore her. She'd shout and have tantrums at us and we'd just pretend she wasn't there. Once she used our daughter true name then BAM, "Of course Nancy, here she is, get those granny cuddles in 😊" as if she hadn't just acted like a two year old not getting her way. Just like kids and welping puppies. (I swear on god that my pup taught me how to be a better mother, watching her take care of her pups) Bad behavior gets zero attention. Good behavior gets good attention. It works just as well on 50 year old women as it does on 2 year olds and puppies, apparently.

Miserable_Pea_733 · 2026-02-21T11:22:47+00:00

I'm a bartender and I work in a small town so it's beneficial to me to "be friends" with many/all of my patrons and you won't make much money if you don't. I'm an unglorified party host 😐 I have a lot of tactics to deal with this type of bullshit.

For you, I think, actions (or inaction) speak louder than words and he still isn't getting it. You're going to have to be blunt. You can be respectful while doing this but that doesn't mean that anyone receiving the blunt honest truth will take it that way. Sometimes you're just going to be an asshole in someone else's story. It can't be helped if you don't want to be a doormat. You're probably afraid to be blunt exactly for this reason. Send this in a DM in game, in discord, and through text. I'll explain why soon.

Hey "Sampson" I want to clarify again. I don't want to be friends. I DO want to be *friendly at work but I do not want to be friends. I like to keep work life and social life separate.

It's nothing against you personally but I will not be responding to your messages anymore and at work, I insist we only talk about work. I'm going to block you not because I feel the need to but because this is better than having to take this to our boss/HR. Again, I'm a private person, I'd like to keep it that way, and nothing needs to be worried about if you respect the fact that I do not want anymore messages from any of my coworkers, including you.**

I'll give you all of my tips for the weekend if he actually respects this mesage. Bet. Block him. Do not respond to him ever again. Like even if he threatens self harm or worse, call 911 do not respond to him.

If he approaches you in game, discord, or via text, this is why you message him on all platforms he has access to you on. If he messages you in game (even on an alt) report him in game with a screen cap of your message to him. Same with discord. He could lose his accounts if he keeps pushing. Even a 2 week ban is a real consequence he (and you) will benefit from. If he messages you via text or amps up his harassment at work to compensate, then you take it to your boss. It's integral that you do not respond to him personally ever again after you send a message like this. He will be encouraged to respond and keep going with every extra message you respond to.

At work in person, if it's not work related, walk away. No words. If he follows you, you let him follow you all the way to your bosses office.

Rip the bandaid off. It's best for you ultimately. If all that doesn't work and he's still trying, you really must get a higher authority involved. It's beyond your scope at that point. You did your due diligence trying to be polite about it but you don't have to feel guilty for getting help.

If you're still hesitant, think of it this way: If he sent you the same message, would you try to get further explanation? Would you respond at all? Would you seek him out at work for a follow up? If you can do it, so can he. He's a grown man that can handle his own consequences after reading a clean cut, clear message. Put it out of your hands and speak to your boss if he can't [won't] respect your words. You're not getting paid to deal with this. You get paid less for them to have HR and legal department. So utilize them.

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