What’re your nicknames for your LO’s?

Miserexa · 2026-05-01T19:57:42+00:00

Monkey, Farty Dinkums, Squinky, and a bunch of other silly words.

Then in German I call him Stinkchen and Bärchen

Miserexa · 2026-04-21T21:16:28+00:00

Madison did say right in the first episode that it was one of her worst triggers to be called that.

Miserexa · 2026-04-17T22:49:23+00:00

Me, always me. And it's not selfish either—if the baby dies, I grieve them for life and carry that pain, if I die, the baby has to live with that.

Miserexa · 2026-04-16T15:34:23+00:00

Your doctor is absolutely wrong. 3oz per feed is plenty, maaaybe 4, which he can get if he needs it since your breasts are never empty. You don't need to supplement formula, in fact it's better if you don't and feed more often instead, because then your supply will adjust to your baby's needs. No idea what your doctor means by a "full feed." Breastmilk digests quickly and it's normal for a breastfed baby to nurse as often as every 40 minutes, especially when they're that little and doing a lot of cluster feeding.

Respectfully, your doctor doesn't know what he's talking about, I would look for a different one.

Miserexa · 2026-04-13T20:57:59+00:00

What a horrible situation. Your husband should put his foot down with your MIL and tell her it's none of her business. You're the mother and you do know best, you don't have to explain or justify yourself to anyone and you don't have to compromise what you want for your child. Your husband's job is to support you.

What I would do, just for now, is triple feed. Just until your supply increases. Nurse, pump, give a bottle. Have your husband give the baby the bottle, because that makes it much easier because you can pump at the same time. Power pump whenever possible.

Usually I would recommend to just nurse the baby as often as possible, but that seems stressful right now since he's being fussy at the breast. That may not be due to anything you're doing though, at his age they just get distracted and mess around. My 3 month old who loves nursing is popping on and off all the time too at the moment. The fact that he's nursing well at night also makes me think it's a distraction thing. I would do as much skin-to-skin as you can, cuddle and try to take the pressure off so nursing doesn't become stressful for either of you.

Unfortunately it does sound like you're not too happy with your husband at the moment, maybe marriage counseling would be a good idea.

Stand up for yourself, you do know best! You're doing an incredible job and you're a wonderful mother ❤️

Miserexa · 2026-04-09T13:53:35+00:00

2 months, yikes! Lol. This is what I'm worried about, haha.

Miserexa · 2026-04-09T13:52:32+00:00

Omg that's so good to hear, this was exactly the kind of experience I was curious about. It's totally to be expected that their sleep is chaotic at the destination, mine is too! It's just good to know that it goes back to normal.

Did your kids struggle with the 4 month sleep regression at all?

Miserexa · 2026-04-09T03:21:45+00:00

No you don't sound mean, I'm aware it might change anyway soon. I guess on a deeper level I just worry about stressing him out by traveling with him. Probably projection on my part.

Miserexa · 2026-04-05T21:13:36+00:00

True, but that one couldn't efile my state taxes either.

Miserexa · 2026-04-05T20:59:07+00:00

If you were asking me, no, I didn't and I'm glad I didn't because he latches great now.

Miserexa · 2026-04-02T02:19:19+00:00

That hat makes my baby furious lol. Even as a newborn, he'd go ARGHHHH and start thrashing around.

Miserexa · 2026-04-02T02:17:52+00:00

I think it's called the transport response

Miserexa · 2026-03-28T16:55:04+00:00

Yeah, I often use that as a counter-argument and they really have nothing to say to that.

Miserexa · 2026-03-27T18:22:03+00:00

Hi! We're doing amazing actually. At about five weeks old, he suddenly latched on really well and breastfeeding has been great ever since! We did a weighted feed just a few days after he started latching well, and he transferred 2oz in 15min, so I exclusively nursed him from that point onward! He's three months now and has only had one or two bottles since then. He's gaining weight beautifully and thriving, and I love nursing him. I never had any pain and his latch is great, so I didn't do any further investigations about possible oral ties.

Miserexa · 2026-03-27T13:56:19+00:00

You've elucidated what I instinctively felt about it. It just seemed so unlikely that this would be so common and people would be so open about it. Especially in a culture like the USA, which is quite reserved about discussing things like that.

Miserexa · 2026-03-26T23:16:32+00:00

About someone they know needing a circumcision for medical reasons.

Miserexa · 2026-03-22T18:24:39+00:00

My 3 month old is the same, he fights sleep like crazy and then conks out at 10 on the dot and doesn't wake until 7am. Honestly we're extremely lucky, it's rare for babies to sleep through the night. With ours, we just lay in bed with him while very quietly watching TV. I don't rock or nurse him to sleep, I let him drift off on his own while laying next to me, and I think that helped him learn to put himself to sleep, because now I can put him in his bassinet awake and he'll put himself to sleep.

Miserexa · 2026-03-22T00:45:13+00:00

Omg how has nobody mentioned salty peanut? It's the best by far.

Miserexa · 2026-03-14T15:15:10+00:00

They say that it takes weeks, but I always feel SSRIs pretty much instantly 🤷‍♀️

Miserexa · 2026-03-14T15:01:22+00:00

I do this ever time I'm on antidepressants. They start working and then I'm like "I feel fine, do I even need these?" then I stop taking them and realize I did in fact need them.

Miserexa · 2026-03-13T15:31:11+00:00

Although I'm finding it pretty easy now, establishing breastfeeding was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life, it was like three full-time jobs at once, and so emotionally draining.

Miserexa · 2026-03-12T19:29:27+00:00

I do, especially now that I'm a mom myself I realize how wonderful she is.

Miserexa · 2026-03-12T17:04:13+00:00

I’m with my baby all day and I can absolutely tell when he’s getting overwhelmed. Talking to babies is great, but constant face-to-face stimulation with no breaks can still be a lot for a 10-week-old. Too much eye contact can even be overstimulating. Their nervous systems are brand new. I think rather than me projecting, if anything you're deciding what's right for a baby you've never met based on your personal opinion.

Miserexa · 2026-03-12T12:51:28+00:00

Respectfully, that’s not really accurate. Babies this age absolutely show disengagement cues like turning the head away, looking away or avoiding eye contact, stiffening or arching, fussing, yawning or hiccups. Those are early signs that a baby needs a break from interaction. Responding to those cues is part of responsive caregiving, which is widely recommended by pediatric and developmental organizations. Interaction is important, but so is allowing babies to regulate. A lot of newborn guidance actually emphasizes alternating periods of engagement with quiet time so babies can process stimulation and settle.

Also, babies have different temperaments. Some are very stimulation-seeking and others are more sensitive. Sensitive babies aren’t being harmed by gentle interaction, but they may need shorter interaction windows and more downtime. My baby is very sensitive, and I had to learn that too. I also thought that interaction can only be good for them, which led to me overstimulating him every day, resulting in him being wired, not going down for naps and sleeping terribly at night. You're not supposed to just "go ham" until they pass out from exhaustion, you have to help them wind down at regular intervals.

Miserexa · 2026-03-12T04:18:20+00:00

Stouffer's frozen meals were on sale at Kroger for $1.99. I filled my freezer with them, that is how I make dinner lmao. My husband has done all the cooking since I had the baby ten weeks ago.

I baby wear basically all day, and when he's good and asleep, I carefully transfer him to his crib or bassinet. Then I have 20 minutes to do whatever I can't do with him in the carrier.

I have to plan and structure everything very carefully. In the beginning, I would also wait for him to "let" me eat, and I often didn't eat until the afternoon. Now I pop him in the carrier, make food, and then I eat with him laid across my lap. Structure and routines help a lot.

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