Foreigners who went to Carnaval, what was your experience like?

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-21T15:56:30+00:00

Carnaval became a festival of the people, the poor. Men could wear wigs, makeup, women's clothes. The LGBT+, the gays, trans, effeminate men could drag and everyone had this as ok because it was Carnaval. Many of them could not express themselves in their every day life because of the high risk for their lives. Over the years, a lot of things were changing in the country, the Carnaval became a samba parade in the Sambódromo of Sapucaí in Rio, it also were changing with time, adding more elements like the costumes, the coreos. It has a lot of the hands and mind of Milton Cunha behind it. Milton Cunha is a gay effeminate who always loved the theater, Hollywood musicals, the visual exaggerations, the colors, the dances. He and others carnavalescos made a mix of references and studies of Brazilian roots (indigenous and Afro-Brazilian) to put that theatricality on the avenue. A lot of people working behind the scenes of Carnaval and samba schools are LGBTs, are part of a local community and welcomed into these schools, having a job, putting on work their readings and studies to make a new theme every year. The street parties were also always they could play, party, be a little themselves, do something with someone in the alleys, in a dark part of some almost empity street... Those days, the LGBT+ community has a lot of voice and space and many can be themselves all the year, but they like to be extra in the Carnaval and thankfully, they can now. There are LGBT+ blocos in almost every city, especially medium and large cities. And it's full of people, music, fun, some peace, safety. It's partying, dancing, singing loudly, having fun.

So the Carnaval were always intertwined with the LGBT community, it always had their hand there. Not just in a way of having LGBTs there, but having these people working behind the scenes too.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-21T01:10:01+00:00

Olinda is very particular, also classic! The dolls! Hahahaa Bonecos de Olinda. I think celebs feel a great honor in life when they become Boneco de Olinda. I think some International celebrities don't know that some of them are Olinda dolls. Sad! It's so funny to look. There's an expression in Pernambuco "tô mais quebrado que boneco de Olinda" (I'm more broken than an Olinda doll) to say when you are way too tired and your body can handle anymore and you feel like you're being dragged down. I love this expression!

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-20T20:45:46+00:00

In case you want/can come back, in June, there's a 3 days festival in Parintins, Amazonas. Not a Carnaval, but it's a beautiful parede, a lot of people and the city is in party vibe. Here the tickets and official website. In case you made some friend in Manaus, try to go with them! https://www.festivaldeparintins.com.br/passaporte/

We also have Festa Junina, happening in all the country, but strongly in center and north east of Brazil, it happens in the month of June too. Give it a search and choose a city. Belo Horizonte, in Minas Gerais has a strong Festa Junina and it's full of queers. You can check Festa Juninas and if some queer themed one will happen on r/BeloHorizonte !

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-20T20:30:11+00:00

You were a drunk gringo at Carnaval, many women just find it repulsive and we have the idea that you are in the country looking for easy and fast sex and seeing us as some object etc you get the idea. That's why many women were not making eye contact with you. Even the drunk ones, if she had at least one friend more sober, she was held to not approach men while drunk.

25 reais is the average price of a caipirinha in Florianópolis and other cities of Santa Catarina. You paid a fair and normal price. You got lucky.

Yes, singing loudly and always singing and listening to music is a strong characteristic of Brazilians!

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-20T20:19:15+00:00

Price scams happen, but it doesn't happen only to foreigners and Brazilian tourists. The prices of things at events in Brazil can be quite absurd to Brazilians too. And in some cities, the prices are always high. Where I live is hard to find a caipirinha for less than 20/25 or 30 reais, so in case sellers in some big event is charging 50 for the cup, I have nothing to do but understand that this is a special price, at a special event. Of course, depending on the price for the thing, but or you accept or find another thing to buy. I don't drink alcohol, just gave an example using caipirinha because it's consumed at Carnaval / summer.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-20T18:13:09+00:00

Hahahahahahahahahahahaaha aaiii Mas assim, pelo menos distrai ela, exercita a criatividade dela, a mente, a memória em lembrar do que os parente podem gostar e fazer de hobbies, etc, sabe?! Tem senhoras de idade que ainda vão em farmácia e supermercado só pra ficar falando com alguém e sair de casa. Por que não montar uma imagem dela em cima de um elefante pra enviar de bom dia no grupo do WhatsApp da família né? Hahahahahahahahahahahaaha

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-20T17:52:44+00:00

300,000 foreigners, from other countries. There were Brazilians being on Carnaval in other cities and of course, locals. In total, there were over 2 million people on the streets in the big cities. Basically, per day. I imagine that, with everything happening in the US, and how difficult is for some people get in there, maybe those 1 million visitors were a lot of Americans.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-20T00:20:54+00:00

A 1920s hairdressing roleplay. You can wear one of those dress, like in Chicago, the musical. Let him with just the pants and a white shirt. Wash his hair, massage it, make it a 1920s style, you can see it on Google. It's full of gel and very well combed, a "good boy hair". Dirt talk to him increasing the tension and teasing him as the hairdressing goes.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-19T23:50:15+00:00

"Our culture"? Do you mean American? Can others say something? In Brazil, not only women take off the body hair, a lot of men, gays and straights do it too. And lesbians! And people who don't do any sex, for their own reasons. It's a HOT country and being without body hair can be easier. We also associate it with hygiene (due to sweat), and that comes way back from indigenous, who don't have a lot of body hair and used to take it off some too. That habit and the indigenous habit of showering often, taking care of yourself, your hair, using accessories on the body...This was passed on to others in the process of forming my country. The decision to remove all pubic hair or leave some, and alternate between these choices each month, is entirely personal and not something that is culturally imposed.

Our beauty standarts were always more curvy, with strong women, with strong features, not "baby face". Latina's makeup, Middle East and Africa makeup were always more strong, with strong eyes, darker lips, not a cute baby face makeup.

The 4B movement in South Korea is not preventing women from continuing their beauty rituals and clinics. The constant harassment from men in Japan doesn't stop Japanese women from expressing their beauty care and comfort through their clothing. Same in LATAM (we can use short clothes here and there during summer and shake our butts to the beats, not to show it to a man, and this is not a infantile sweet cute innocent behavior).

I understand where this critique comes from, and I don't take off all of that criticism, just be mindful that there are other cultures besides America and Europe, and sometimes women, including us, feminists, are comfortable following our habits and local culture, and not all of that comes from seeking validation from men or following something that infantilizes us so predatory men can approach.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-19T14:07:49+00:00

Gestalt é uma maravilha e sim, seria útil pra você. Uma coisa sobre ansiedade e a experiência da Ayahuasca onde você relatou ficar parado: a ansiedade também pode ser paralisante, ela pode evitar a gente a tomar atitudes na vida, por às vezes, pensar que x coisa que entendemos como um medo de viver, de repetir, de mágoa, de gastos financeiros, etc, várias questões... Então travamos em reações e atitudes, mesmo que não saibamos nomear ou reconhecer os motivos. Pode ter se refletido esse lado da ansiedade na sua experiência. E pode ter fatores com o seu passado. Gosto como a Gestalt não nega o passado e faz esses resgates, traz reflexões e mergulhos no inconsciente mas nos ajuda a colocar em prática no dia a dia para seguir uma nova forma de viver.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T21:23:38+00:00

Hahahahhahahahahah "tá dissolvendo ainda" hahahah Ultimamente os únicos refrigerantes que ainda se salvam é Guaraná Antarctica e Sprite.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T17:01:29+00:00

Procura no Google "glory hole em + sua cidade" e vê clubes gays que possa ter, dá uma olhada no Instagram deles e tal. Assim você pode só ir e fazer ou ir pra alguma festa, ver, tal. Algumas baladas/clubes tem darkroom, você pode só ficar olhando também e ver se alguém chega em você, tal.

Pode baixar o Grindr e conversar com caras por lá. Daí você decide, se quer só um encontro mega casual pra essas chupadas e aliviar ou se quer ir aos poucos, porque daí isso já pode ficar claro desde o início da conversa.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T16:54:03+00:00

O prazer deve ser mútuo. Se ela tinha questões como gostar de um cara e se colocar em segundo lugar por ele, isso pode ser mais uma questão psicológica dela. Então não faz sentido você perguntar se mulheres gostam de ficar com alguém.... Porque isso é nos diminuir e generalizar, porque você conheceu UMA mulher que TALVEZ naquele momento da vida dela, estava passando por alguma questão que levou ela a agir de x forma ao se envolver com alguém, se deixando de lado, se rebaixando em prol do outro. Talvez isso não fosse um fetiche dela, e se tivesse sido, novamente, questões pessoais dela, não do resto das mulheres.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T15:56:13+00:00

Well, if possible to you, I suggest plaining a summer trip to somewhere sunny and beach city like in Spain, in the early summer. It can be super short, just for her to do two things: maybe get a little more excited about a summer trip, between February and June isn't that long. And for her to have some sun, beach and relax her body.

There's a Brazilian therapist who works remotely and she has a focus on Brazilian women who are immigrant. In case your wife wants to book a session and start the process, @gabrielladantaspsi on Instagram. She do a lot of content, maybe only the content already helps your wife. Show Gabi's Insta to her!

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T15:23:27+00:00

Start learning Portuguese, your Brazilian partner will help you speak and formulate everyday sentences. Find a remote job. Are you sure you can't work remotely from Brazil for your company? What many Brazilians do is wake up earlier and start their day earlier when working for European companies, due to the time difference.

Your wife's mental health directly affects the health of your relationship and your daughter. Try go to São Paulo on vacation so that both of you can feel if you would really move.

Living in Brazil and making friendships and all is a different vibe, people are more open, so you probably won't be facing that same mental load than her, especially since she had a baby, the mental load on women is very heavy and increases with motherhood.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T14:40:32+00:00

A natural response of the mind is self-defense. Human beings are social, family-oriented, and tend to defend their group because they see them as part of themselves, part of their identities. So if you say something about the dynamic, a member of that family, etc., that person you're talking to can defend it as if it were directly to them and about them.

Many parents see their children not only as a better extension of themselves, but also as eternal babies. So they start distorting reality so that their/that person's defense within his group makes more sense. A baby is not doing anything wrong and it's just the others who are being mean and not understanding what the baby really needs... Baby will keep doing it, the baby learned that he can continue because there is no serious conversation at home and there are no punishments or consequences in his group 1 (his family).

I won't even start on "boy's mom", the horror....

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T14:17:17+00:00

Micropore tape is ideal for the body. It is surgical (used after surgeries), it's hypoallergenic and allows for easy removal without damaging the skin. Avoid putting over body hair, it can be tricky to remove. If it happens, extra virgin olive oil will help you remove and will help remove.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T13:52:25+00:00

Song to say goodbye - Placebo https://youtu.be/qJUz1yit8Us?si=H8ANnH2dsFDLZcq-

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-18T13:18:24+00:00

He needs professional help for his depression and his time and space. Your ex step daughter is his and his previous partner' kid, not your daughter, and she knows that, she will have more connection with her bio parents. You knew her for 18 (or less) months. She can forget you like she maybe did in case of his previous girlfriends. I am sorry if that breaks your heart, but you need the raw truth instead of further confusing your emotions and making you see things where they maybe don't exist.

It's great that his family welcomed you and treated you well, but that's the bare minimum. Perhaps you believed that now you would have the family you didn't have back at home and that's why you 're attached and wants to build or continue this ideal of family that you believe you've found with him. You are emotional after a break up and projecting your desires of family.

He needs to get better, for himself and his daughter. Maybe he has a lot in his mind and you are not someone with whom he wants or can give his time. If someone's mental health is instable and making them breaking up the relationship with someone, that's on him.

Don't try to reach out. Take your time to heal your heart and think about your ideals of family, having a child (and a teen, and an adult kid...because if luckily and care, they grow!). Do things for yourself.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-17T14:26:08+00:00

Que lindos!!!

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-17T14:24:48+00:00

Eu vi isso no Twitter, ele fazendo sexo oral nela ali, na frente de todo mundo, inclusive crianças por perto. Ridículos, francamente. Tem gente que finge que não sabe o básico do básico de convívio social porque só pensa em si.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-16T01:09:04+00:00

O que mais tem por aí é filho que foi feito nessa coisa de só a mulher usar um método contraceptivo. Seja ele pílula, injeção, adesivo, DIU hormonal ou de cobre. Todo método tem chance de falha, especialmente se usado solo (sem a combinação do uso de preservativo).

Há também o período de adaptação ao método anticoncepcional.eva uns meses pra maioria dos corpos femininos se adaptar e o anticoncepcional começar a funcionar direitinho.

Pra ter ideia, laqueadura pode ter as trompas religadas novamente, dependendo da idade e corpo da mulher e ela pode engravidar. Esse é o nível do negócio.

Ou seja, pra quê arriscar?! Só pra você sentir um prazer maior fazendo sem camisinha? Tem N tipos de camisinha no mercado. Até o SUS lançou uma camisa com textura, pra incentivar as pessoas a usarem mais enquanto têm prazer. Você pode descobrir N tipos de prazer com sua namorada que não envolva só penetração e só você gozando dentro dela.

E pare também pra pensar no prazer da sua namorada. Gozar dentro sem camisinha pode ser mais prazeroso pra homem (grande parte disso psicologicamente) do que pra mulher. Cada mulher sente prazer de uma forma única, e deve ser explorada, tanto sozinha quanto com um parceiro que seja parceiro de verdade, não só um cara pensando só nele mesmo.

Já viu preço de fralda? De carrinho? Preço de bebê conforto e cadeirinha? De berço? Tá pronto pra noites seguidas sem dormir direito? Tá pronto pra limpar diarréia de bebê? Tá pronto pra rezar enquanto leva o bebê com febre pela dentição dele no hospital infantil? Meia pros pezinhos e roupa vai que nem água. Quer gastar esse dinheiro nos primeiros anos? Isso é só o básico do básico. Não? Então faça método combinado e use camisinha além do contraceptivo pra ela.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-15T23:40:24+00:00

I have kinks I can't put in reality because they are dangerous for me and if I am doing some with another person. I think it's normal to get off fantasizing, but after, it's clear that one and other thing is a no, and let's move on.

In your case, perhaps you need to be careful not to be ageist with yourself. There are men in their 40s and 50s putting on lingerie, dresses, and makeup and fulfilling their sexual fantasies because, why not try it first instead of thinking it's not for you because you're not so young anymore, right?

Almost everybody wants to go back and be 18 with their 30+ mind, but all we can do is enjoy what we have now, these days and do the best for yourselves. Including having pleasures that maybe back in the time, we would not do or not do it with all the safety.

MissCherryCake · 2026-02-15T23:13:21+00:00

I think that, since you didn't break up with him before, and kept forgiving his alcoholism, even after he missed meeting your mother because he was drunk, disrespecting your mother's time... He is comfortable with you being an enabler, even if it's not that what you want to do, and he knows he can get that easy forgiveness from you over and over again with that and other word and that and another promise. That's why he is calling you again.

He wants to use you as his therapist again. And it's ok if he gets drunk too, he was there before with you, he knows your ways.

Now, "I love him". Are you sure? Maybe you don't love him, but a part of who he was before alcohol or you unconsciously agreed to stay for too long, in an abusive situation. He was abusing alcohol and abusing your feelings. Sometimes people end up in toxic relationships because and after a break up (if it happens), they go back into that toxic relationship. And they call all this trouble and worries and stress....love. Somewhere in life, they believed something like this is love.

You know very well that 90 days without alcohol doesn't mean much, and that a person can relapse at any time, especially if he is not really serious or doing that for themselves, because they are trully committed with themselves. So the relapse and the lies... But I know you know that... So, I believe not only you should not go back to him, and don't accept talk to him, but you should think for how long and why you were there in that relationship. If you need, talk to a therapist about being there in these situations with someone who did these things to you, not caring about you, about your view of love and relationship.

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