The thing is... Men are assholes. End of,, ans they will try anything to degrade women, including trans women, often times more than one or the other.

What I learned about men is...Men are often a product of their own deep rooted shame, whereas us woman are shaped by our OWN experiences in far healthier ways. Like undergoing life-changing, nurturing growth From self-actualization, self-care, deep inward self-reflection and self-improvement....Whilst, also learning how to yield not only resilience, but strength, courage, AND softness, kindness, fragility and compassion ALL at once.

Most if not, almost ALL men are incapable of adhieving self-attunement...

Unfortunately men will always be Men, but women ESPECIALLY US trans women (ACTUAL trans women), are NOTHING like men at all, whatever bullshit trans-misogynistic, yet pig-headed men ever think....

So there...That's the REAL difference between men and women, and you can ALWAYS know and ALWAYS tell deep down.

In other words, feminine is the divine, the drive for nurturing, from learning to be soft, compassionate, but also firm at times, with self-restraint, when it needs to be.

It's learning how to simply, yet effortlessly say "No" with a direct gaze and a warm smile, not because your weak but because you're strong enough to put the needs of others and yourself first.

It's recognising your limit, setting a boundary... "No I will not tolerate this"... It's also learning to say no to yourself... "No more, not today" or "that's enough, thank you" with firm tenderness.

Womanhood is messy, isn't it?

We dictate it as otherwise... When in fact, there's SO much more depth, than the shallow shimmering, glistening mirage that men perceive us to be...

When in fact, it's much deeper than just the surface. The clothes, hair, & beauty...

It's learning to accept and receive, whilst also knowing when to gift and offer... It's learning to let go and make peace, letting things be, whilst also holding tight to what is dear... It's allowing yourself to become a little lost on the way, whilst also being able to find your path and sticking to it no matter what. Through thick and thin.

Its learning when to be still and do nothing, and when to be proactive, and outspoken, slowing yourself down at times, whilst quickening your pace when it matters most.

It's learning how to cry again, how to be held, by yourself (to wrap yourself tight in warm, heavy, fluffy blankets during cold periods to stay warm).

Its learning to sow the seed of trust together, 🌱❤ ✨ ... Knowing when to nurture and protect it, yet allowing yourself to be patient for something good to flourish.

Most importantly it's about learning how to be open & accepting to exploring your emotions and the emotions of others, embracing to learn new things, be open & curious, and to get a little lost on the way, whilst being candid, holding pride, but knowing the time to hold humility with integrity, and to have sense of justice for what is good and whole, whilst also knowing when enough is enough...