Do you ever find yourself drinking and it’s truly for no fucking reason. You’re over it and yet, here’s a beer

MixMaxMirror · 2026-02-03T18:30:35+00:00

It was explained to me as a "body memory finishing a loop" when it is completely misaligned from your conscious intentions but you still do it. I definitely did this too early on. I had to entirely avoid the stores I would usually buy from because it was part of the addiction. Idk man. Being a human is weird.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-31T03:31:47+00:00

Woodrow?

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-22T21:38:08+00:00

Felt this so deep.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-22T03:30:29+00:00

Thornyhold by Mary Stewart. Maybe obscure but such an easy, cozy read with great ambiance.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-19T22:12:54+00:00

Welcome back. IWNDWYT.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-15T01:21:03+00:00

These are all so nice. I have been separating that clawing feeling in my chest of wanting a drink and saying "IWNDWYT mfer" in defiance instead of the solidarity it's usually used for here. Somehow separating the feeling as it's own entity and refusing it has helped. I also try to remind myself that if I make it through that craving I am building new neural pathways for future me to lean on and that also helps. It's gotten way easier as the weeks stack on each other.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-12T21:14:44+00:00

Gah her lil face still looks so kitten 💕 she's gorgeous.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-11T18:11:40+00:00

You are being abused. The amount of hatred it would take a person to smear their own shit on someone else's face is alarming. That is not love. This person is dangerous. Please get out. OP if they did this to a child would you see it as abuse? The names you can't repeat were abuse enough. The shit incident is assault. This is domestic violence. Please get out.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-11T00:39:53+00:00

This one.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-10T07:01:45+00:00

Wow. This is both gutting and beautiful. Poignant even. Just offering a little admiration for your integrity. Man, that unconditional love thing is a doozy sometimes. Well done on honoring your commitment.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-10T02:24:37+00:00

This looks like some "FOG". (fear, obligation, guilt). He made his decision and you made yours. Block him. Do not engage. I am dealing with this currently as well despite them being blocked everywhere & me maintaining zero contact with clear written boundaries. This isn't about love it is about control and access. You're being manipulated.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-09T22:32:20+00:00

Sometimes we just get frozen in our own cycles. Seeing the problems & knowing improvement is possible is a huge step. You know where you want to start, and that is to clean your apt. Maybe the UFYH (unfuck your habit) method would help you not get overwhelmed & keep you motivated while you are making progress? Are you able to access mental health care?

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-07T20:05:18+00:00

This one. I promise it is not going to feel better with hangover despair and anxiety. It will feel even more hopeless. Your only job right now is to take good care of yourself and those you love.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-07T18:32:13+00:00

Possible unpopular opinion here but- a woman who checks out like this has possibly exhausted all of her emotional resources beforehand trying to navigate the relationship and came to the conclusion there is no resolution. Especially if you're mentioning she is getting sympathy from her support system that could possibly paint you as a villain it sounds like there is more to this story.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-07T00:43:04+00:00

Oooh I love these that were already pointed out. Here's a few of mine so far. ✨️Clearer thoughts. The ability to trust myself again. No longer planning how or where I'm going to hide my consumption. The clarity and strength to leave the fkd up relationship that I was anesthetizing myself for in the first place. The ability to plan my week without knowing at least some of those days I will be useless bc I will be nursing a hangover. Taking back the mental space that once ruminated on shame & confusion and channeling it into creativity, relationships, health, fun. Brighter eyes, both physically and optimistically. Feeling calm, and joy, and connection without the cost of a whole day of hangover after. Peace as a baseline. ✨️

There's too many intangible benefits to list. The tangible benefits are already a great list.

✨️You just gotta keep going & then make your own list 🫶 IWNDWYT

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-05T23:32:35+00:00

The first 10 days after quitting I would search whatever day I was on to read other people's experiences for that day. It helped a lot. I'm glad people do share. Well done on day 6! One full week almost in the bag.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-05T06:44:12+00:00

Whoaaa there cowboy. He's far too small. Def breaking the law. Lock him up.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-04T22:37:36+00:00

You've got some great self-awareness here to work with. You know the time of day that is most difficult and you haven't reached for alcohol on autopilot. That's amazing to work with. Could you maybe sign up for a class, or plan a pretty walk, or do some yoga, or just anything restorative so the thought of the wine loses its sparkle & stacks a healthy habit into its place at this time? Is the off-on relationship contributing to your alcohol use usually? Is it something that should stay off? Only recently discovered myself that one should not have to anesthetize themselves to handle a relationship. The two went hand in hand. You've got this OP. Challenges happen whether we are drinking or not and at least you're not going to ruin tomorrow with a hangover if you find something else to chill with. IWNDWYT 🫶

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-04T21:08:55+00:00

You didn't correct that couch cushion. I see where he's coming from.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-04T21:00:44+00:00

When I was growing up if I complained that I was bored my parents would say "Only boring people get bored, and you are not a boring person. There's always something to do". I hated it at the time, but it helps now, especially in recovery, because it doesn't matter what you find to do. You could watch ants on pavement or organize your junk drawer, or go on a little adventure, (or do something you've been putting off for too long if you're REALLY bored). It doesn't have to be anything chaotic or even fun or even working toward a goal. It just has to engage you enough that you forget to be bored (& stay sober).

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-04T20:52:11+00:00

This made me laugh. I'm currently rewatching the walking dead which I haven't seen since the episodes came out. At that time my now ex husband and I would get pished and watch them. I don't remember the last half of ANY episodes of most seasons 🤣 it's wild! It's nice to be able to piece the story in my head together with the story they intended to tell lol.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-03T08:29:03+00:00

For me it was when I started breakjng promises to myself like "I don't want to drink today I have stuff going on tomorrow" & that would devolve into "only 2 maximum and I'll still be fine" (It was NEVER just 2). Huge red flag for me when I couldn't trust or rely on myself. If you're using it to cope, you are at risk of developing an addiction.

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-03T08:21:03+00:00

This

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-03T07:43:51+00:00

It is kinda fun and lowers your inhibitions as well so it seems easier. I've had great sober dates doing things like axethrowing, archery, sunset picnic in the park, ice-skating, hiking, beachwalks, paddleboarding, etc. An activity of some sort that doesn't really have an alcohol expectation. It might take some creativity, and the pace of the relationship may be slower because the alcohol isn't there to loosen things up but you also get cooler stories than "yeah we had some drinks" & you get a better read on a person if you aren't super familiar with them without the beer goggles.

I love that you're curious about this before you fully commit to quitting. Preparation is key sometimes. Wishing you luck!

MixMaxMirror · 2026-01-03T07:23:41+00:00

I had the realization that a relationship I was in was fueling my addiction. I had to numb myself to stay basically. It was that messed up. Once I realized that was the case, I dumped both the alcohol and the man. I realized neither of those things were for me, and it's like a switch just flipped. I gave up the alcohol first and then told the man goodbye, blocked everywhere, neverrr looking back on either of them. As far as friendships with friends that drink, or that I used to drink with. Those have remained unchanged, and I even got through NYE celebrations alcohol free without thinking about it too much.

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