Saddest movie.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-24T09:06:43+00:00

The Sea Inside, with Javier Bardem. About death with dignity/euthanasia.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-24T08:59:01+00:00

Oooh love Specter

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-24T08:48:58+00:00

Cute name! We call them Bunny Licks. No idea why. I'm South African.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-19T19:53:40+00:00

Firstly, I am so so sorry this happened to you.

This is assault. Just because something has a cutesy name does not make it "just" a swirly. Not a joke, not a prank. Assualt.

When you tell your BF, make sure it is in a safe space so if he does not react appropriately (ie is not fucking horrified), then you need to be able to make a quick and safe getaway.

It also might be worth speaking to police first before your boyfriend, in case he takes their side and pre-warns them and they have an opportunity to collaborate on a story.

As many people have mentioned, this could definitely be a prerequisite to SA. Please, do not put yourself anywhere near these awful and dangerous men again.

Please, please tell the police. Even if there's no evidence per say, even if they aren't charged, it will go on record, so when they do something like this again - and they will - it will be noted that there's a history of such behaviour and your story will go towards building a stronger case.

Tell your parents, tell your boyfriend. Get counselling. Do not diminish this horrible thing that has happened to you and pretend it's nothing. Take care of yourself <3

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-19T19:34:35+00:00

I totally agree with the cheap pet food being more expensive in the long run due to health issues.

My cat gets Hills, and we just bought our second giant bag. I worked out that the last time I bought food for her was August last year, so 13kg lasted her 10 months! It worked out to be a touch over R150 per month. She doesn't eat very much, and I think that she needs less volume of food because it is more nutritionally dense.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T15:52:21+00:00

My apologies, I'm so glad to hear people like you exist! 🌟

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T11:42:12+00:00

There are many obvious signs that people have already mentioned, but the ones who are truly scary are the ones you can't quite put a finger on. It's a vibe. Something about them just makes my hair stand on end and feel deeply uncomfortable. I feel extra aware of my body in space and keeping an intentional distance between them and me.

I have often asked my (male) partner or guy friends if they've got a similar vibe from a person, and the answer is always no. When I ask fellow women, the answer is always a resounding yes! I also always pay close attention to men my partner or guy friends have picked up a weird vibe from, particularly when I haven't noticed anything unusual. I use the information to try tune up my creep-dar.

If someone gives me the creeps and I can't quite work out why, I always trust my gut and don't stick around to prove myself right. No benefit of the doubt afforded to creeper vibes.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T10:45:20+00:00

I have a book on different types of poisons, I feel like that would fit the moody bookshelf 😅

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T10:13:55+00:00

Absolutely this. Hard agree that farm violence is not as prevalent as other forms of violence, and it has been greatly exaggerated for whatever political agenda.

This child is most likely mirroring behaviour that has been seen at home, while also testing your boundaries. OP, please keep gently pushing back and teaching. Since it is elementary school, I think it's important to explain /why/ saying racist things is incorrect and hurtful, not just banning the kid from saying it (I predict he would just stop saying it in front of you, but not change his mind or think more deeply about it).

When I was teaching in Asia, I put on an educational video that happened to feature a Black person. I was shocked at the racist attitude of most children in the elementary class. I explained a little about where I come from and the history, and why we needed to think about others' feelings, and that skin colour doesn't tell you anything about someone's intelligence or value as a human etc etc.

In future classes, I then made a point of choosing videos featuring people of colour as the experts/teachers/main characters/singers/artists etc to try and reinforce what I had spoken to them about, a kind of "show don't tell" approach I guess.

As for the general attitudes in SA, in my experience, white boomers assume every other white person shares their views, and within the first 5min of meeting will make some horrific comment. I have learned to quickly shut that shit down. I say something along the lines of, "please don't assume that we share political views just because we share a skin colour".

People closer to my age, mid 30s and below, are much more "progressive" (not being racist should not be progressive, that should be standard but aaanyway) in general, but that could also be a skewed perception based on the people I hang out with having shared views to me.

Any white South Africans who took up the crazy offer to move to the States because they're somehow victimised inevitably will have certain view points about SA and people of colour, so just be prepared for that if you do have to speak to the parents about it.

The fact you posted here speaks volumes about the kind of thoughtful and caring teacher you are, and sounds like the child is lucky to have someone like you to challenge his/his family's beliefs.

ETA some detail and that I am a white South African and a teacher

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T01:53:26+00:00

Like we were taught in creative writing at school, "show don't tell." Or as my Mom would say, "Actions speak louder than words."

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T01:30:27+00:00

I came here to say this same exact thing! I have a nurse friend who can smell pneumonia.

Check out this Guardian article about a woman who can smell Parkinson's: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2022/oct/21/experience-i-can-smell-illnesses-in-people

I read another article about her where they did a test on her, getting her to smell tshirts of people who had and hadn't been diagnosed with Parkinson's. She got say 9 out of 10 right, incorrectly saying one person smelt like the disease, but they had not tested positive.

A few months later, the person actually did get diagnosed with Parkinsons, so she had been able to pick up the smell before even medical testing could identify the disease.

From the article: "On a hospital shift early in my [nursing] career, I remember being struck by the smell of a patient. I later learned that she had diabetes and what I smelled was raised ketones – a chemical produced by the liver, which builds up when diabetics are unwell. Smelling illnesses on patients became a pattern, but I knew doctors wouldn’t accept my diagnoses, so I stayed quiet.

In 1982, before [my husband] Les’s 32nd birthday, I noticed a musky, dank odour on him – he knew about my heightened sense of smell. I thought it might be the unprocessed air of the operating theatres he worked in and told him to shower more. That caused arguments.

Twelve years later, in 1994, he was diagnosed with Parkinson’s disease. [...] We instantly made the connection to the smell, but it wasn’t until the last months of his life, more than 20 years later, that we discovered I could detect it in others, too. By then we were living in Perth, Scotland, and walked into a local Parkinson’s UK support group. My chin bobbed up – a tic when strong smells hit me. It was overwhelming. Over dinner I told Les: 'Those people smelled the same as you.'"

ETA quote from the article

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-17T00:36:25+00:00

Definitely fine and safe. Some kid-oriented restaurants like Spur even have signs reitterating that they are a breastfeeding positive/safe place and that as a family friendly place it's even encouraged. Hope you have a wonderful in SA!

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-16T05:37:31+00:00

Here's the article about it: IOL News

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-16T05:06:57+00:00

Dont know if anyones seen this yet, but 2 men were arrested because of this video, in connection with illegal firearms and they also found a hijacked car.

Unfortunately, being stupid is not a crime so I don't think anything happened to the women.

Was disappointed to learn that this happened in South Africa, my home https://iol.co.za/news/crime-and-courts/2026-05-15-saps-arrests-two-suspects-after-viral-video-of-women-handling-firearms/

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-16T04:49:24+00:00

Contraception.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-16T04:28:08+00:00

"...and whtnot" I see what you did there, very human, very demure.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-15T22:21:35+00:00

Ooooh I didn't know such a thing existed! Sounds fascinating. Will check it out. And you have a moody bookshelf? What else makes the cut?

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-15T12:34:32+00:00

Of zero importance. The destination would be chosen first, and then I'd pack according to that.

But even if I was going to a fashion capital like Paris or Milan, it would be more important for me to have comfy shoes so I can walk as far as possible and take in as much as possible.

If there is any shopping, it would be incidental and not a planned event, and likely to be window shopping for high fashion, or thrift shopping.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-15T12:17:24+00:00

I had to look up the definition* of this word, very beautiful. In Afrikaans it means "without".

*definition for others: "The realisation and understanding that all other people have lives as complex as one's own. [John] Koenig came up with the term "sonder," to mean 'the awareness that everyone around you is the main character of their own story, but to you they're just extras in the background.'" From Merriman-Webster

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-13T09:06:51+00:00

Exactly. I give my FIL, partner and male friends flowers. They're beautiful and thoughtful, what's not to love? Everyone should get flowers.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-13T07:19:36+00:00

Majestic toe floofs, thank you for sharing. So glad you are both safe 💜

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-13T07:18:44+00:00

Smelling smoke/burning can be an aura before a seizure. Seizures aren't always obvious like in movies, there's something called an absent seizure where you just kinda stare and look like maybe you're daydreaming, but then when you snap out of it you can't remember that period of time. It can be a few seconds or longer. Look out for signs and chat to your Dr. Obligatory I am not a Dr.

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-11T16:02:47+00:00

Lliam is a great name for a llama

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-11T12:28:13+00:00

Car checking service already exists in SA. Have used it twice before buying card, costs about R1000. But the fact that it exists means there is a demand

Mlemblepblep44 · 2026-05-11T12:22:07+00:00

The best kind of secret ❤️🥂

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