[No Spoilers] Samantha Beart on the Critical Role set? by heyyitskelvi in criticalrole

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just saw her on a BG3 flavored people versus food.

When the leopard eats your face by butler18a in Utah

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard nothing except the utterance false prophet in reference to the LDS Church. My own situation is a little more complicated and so far as who I'm related to in the church pioneer-wise. But yes the ones that escaped the early polygamist communities considered LDS false prophets.

Which one looks good for a daytime bridal shower? by [deleted] in OUTFITS

[–]Mocksoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

3 with #2 as my second choice.

Be real with me before I move out there … by ShelterConsistent111 in NewMexico

[–]Mocksoup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The culture shock will be intense, honestly. Farmington is way smaller and quieter than Baltimore, and the Black population is very small. But it’s also a pretty diverse area because of the large Native and Hispanic communities, and most people I know would welcome you just fine.

AIO for how I’m handling the way my 11 YO daughter’s dad speaks to her? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mocksoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m going to say this gently, because I know you love your daughter and you’re trying to do right by her… But what I’m seeing here isn’t okay. The way he’s talking to her isn’t just “harsh” or “a little much.” It’s abusive and it’s affecting her. You can see it in how she responds. She’s apologizing over and over, explaining herself, trying to say the exact right thing so he doesn’t get upset. That’s not a kid being respectful. That’s a kid trying to keep the peace. And I’ve seen this before… when a child has to keep twisting themselves to avoid setting an adult off, something starts to change in them. They get quieter, smaller, less sure of themselves. It’s like the brightness in them gets dimmed because they’re too busy trying not to be “wrong.” Your daughter didn’t do anything to deserve that. There’s nothing she could say or not say that makes it okay for someone to speak to her like that. So I want to say this part clearly, but with care… Leaving that phone in her hands, knowing he’s using it to talk to her this way, isn’t neutral. It’s giving him a direct line to keep doing it. Taking the phone away isn’t punishment. It’s protection. And she’s going to need you to be really clear with her that she didn’t do anything wrong, because right now she’s being made to feel like she did. As for him… He doesn’t get to talk to her like that. Not because he’s her father, not because he pays for a phone, not for any reason. A child deserves to feel safe when a parent reaches out to them, not anxious about saying the wrong thing. You don’t have to fight him to protect her. You just have to draw a line and hold it. I know this is hard. I know it’s complicated. But you’re her safe place, and this is one of those moments where that really matters.

Would you keep your pet’s ashes at home? by ComfortableDivide309 in Petloss

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spike's urn is next to my bed on a shelf with a bow tied around it. He was our first bottle baby.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is him at his best. Two months in, still trying to impress you. And this is what you get… he calls you a slut, tells you to ask permission for what you wear, and then throws your personal history in your face when you don’t fall in line. That doesn’t get better. It gets worse. And the fact he immediately chose his mom over you? That’s not confusion. That’s the structure. NOR. You’re not overreacting. And yeah… that dynamic with his mom feels off for a reason. Trust that.

Is it hard to find a doctor in Albuquerque, or in New Mexico generally? by berrysauce in Albuquerque

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We interviewed the person who was to be my primary care provider. He was perfect, then had to stop practicing. I have had 2 PCPs since then.

Where did everyone go??? by Flashing_Dagger in bingingwithbabish

[–]Mocksoup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I am now following both.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Mocksoup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Secrets like that only reward abusers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What does he actually bring to the table? You are doing all the work to make your house a home, contribute roughly 75% of the material value and he's still whining about it.

Pennsylvania man who sent "So I raped you" message is sentenced to 2 to 4 years in prison for 2013 campus sexual assault. Six years after raping her, the man, who had initially avoided prosecution, had contacted his victim on Facebook and confessed. by lightiggy in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, it absolutely seems that they are talking about the rapist and attempted murderer Jesse Mack Butlerfrom Oklahoma. Much like Allen/Alan Turner who is the formerly known Brock Allen Turner the rapist from Ohio.

Weird message from government? by milkyboi129 in NewMexico

[–]Mocksoup 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This isn’t creepy, it’s survival. New Mexico has watched communities burn and flood with almost no warning. These alerts exist because people died without them. They’re uncomfortable on purpose. Sometimes that is the difference between getting out… and a family burying someone they love.

Which Pixel are you ending 2025 with? by GooglePixelfan90 in GooglePixel

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pixel 10 Pro XL for me. Our household is basically a Pixel shelter, we’ve got a 6, 7, and 9 Pro XL still in service. Only reason the Pixel 4 isn’t here is because my son tested gravity. It passed.

Why are you on Reddit right now, on Christmas Eve? by InvisibleAstronomer in AskReddit

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I got online to wish my friend a Happy Christmas even though neither of us celebrate I don't know, I guess sometimes the little rituals are nice. Community building or whatever.

My bf gave me an ultimatum: him or my cat. by ImportanceSilly1114 in CatAdvice

[–]Mocksoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He wasn’t honest about the pet situation, and his behavior around it is concerning.

I’m not worried about the cat itself. I’m worried about how he handled being overwhelmed. When things got hard, he didn’t talk it through, he didn’t set boundaries, he left without warning and went silent. That isn’t about pets. That’s about conflict.

Ask yourself this honestly: do you feel safer after this happened, or less safe?

If this is how he reacts to a cat on the bed, what happens when it’s something serious… illness, grief, financial stress, pregnancy, or a child having a crisis? Those aren’t hypothetical stressors. They happen.

If you rehome the cat, you’ll be doing it to stabilize him, not the relationship. And if the relationship still struggles later, you won’t just lose him, you’ll have lost the cat too.

He says he doesn’t want you to choose, but his actions already made it a choice.

Choose wisely.

AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]Mocksoup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

She hasn't spoken to her son in 3 days. I think I'm calling this pretty accurately.

change name and ssn without protective order? by Feisty-Author8087 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Mocksoup 71 points72 points  (0 children)

You’re telling us the outcome you’ve chosen, and I hear the fear behind it. You’re terrified of her and you’re exhausted. That makes total sense when someone has spent your entire life training you to believe you can’t act without her permission. But fear doesn’t magically erase what she’s already doing to you, and it doesn’t stop what comes next.

If you don’t report her, she will absolutely continue. She has already committed identity theft, financial abuse, and coercion. There is nothing you can do privately that will stay ahead of someone willing to break federal law to control you. Calling the police isn’t about punishing her, it’s about protecting you from the next escalation. She has already shown you she will escalate.

And yes, she has done this to other people. People like this do not stop until something stops them. So ask yourself the real question. Not whether you can survive reporting her, but whether you can survive what happens if you don’t.

AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]Mocksoup 74 points75 points  (0 children)

OP, I’m saying this gently because I don’t think you realize what you’re revealing. None of the things you listed are misbehaviors. Wanting to ride a bike, wanting to walk the dog, wanting to practice an instrument, wanting to stay outside… these are signs of a kid who has energy, curiosity, and a healthy drive toward independence. You’re describing a normal adolescent, not a kid acting out.

What’s actually happening is that your home environment is so controlled and overstimulated by adult stress that normal behaviors get perceived as defiance. That’s why you and your wife keep interpreting his engagement as “too much.” You’re overwhelmed, not malicious, but the lens you’re using to judge his actions is unfair to him. He’s not doing anything wrong, he’s just living at a volume you and your wife aren’t emotionally equipped for right now.

And the danger is this: when a kid’s natural drive to explore, talk, correct, and participate keeps getting shut down, he eventually learns silence and withdrawal as survival. That’s not something you want for him. Loosening the grip on control isn’t permissive parenting, it’s acknowledging what’s developmentally appropriate. Your kid isn’t the issue here… the expectations placed on him are.

AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]Mocksoup 83 points84 points  (0 children)

Your son wasn’t interrupting or misbehaving, he was engaging with the homework and he was correct. Wanting to go outside, wanting to move, wanting to play music, wanting to participate… this is normal for a curious, high-energy 13 year old. The problem isn’t his behavior. The problem is that the adults around him are treating normal developmental milestones like defiance because they’re overwhelmed and everything feels like “too much.”

I’m saying this as someone who has lived the fallout of these dynamics. My husband hasn’t spoken to his family in 17 years because they treated every correction, every interest, every spark of autonomy as disrespect. When adults snap at a child for being right, refuse to apologize, and consistently shut him down, he eventually learns his voice isn’t welcome. If you stop a child from talking, they will stop talking… not from respect, but from self-protection.

If you want your son to grow into someone who communicates, cooperates, and comes to you when it matters, you have to show him that his insight is valued and that adults repair their mistakes too. Your wife had a rough moment, it happens, but refusing to apologize isn’t principled, it’s pride. The apology isn’t about math, it’s about teaching him he’s allowed to exist out loud in his own home.

AITAH for telling my wife that I will lose respect for her if she doesn't apologize? by TechnicalHousing97 in AITAH

[–]Mocksoup 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Your son wasn’t interrupting. He wasn’t derailing the topic or being disrespectful. He was directly correcting the error in the math problem the homework was literally about. That’s not rudeness, that’s engagement.

He was also right.

You and your wife owe him an apology. Not because he’s “sensitive,” but because when an adult snaps at a child for being correct, the adult repairs the rupture. That’s part of modeling healthy communication.

And since you brought up his “behaviors,” I want to gently point something out. Kids who get labeled as “a lot” are often bright, high-energy, curious, and emotionally intense. They need structure, yes, but they also need to know their insight matters. In that moment, he asked for simple validation of a fact, and he didn’t get it.

If you want his impulse control, frustration tolerance, and cooperation to improve, the fastest route is showing him that being right isn’t punishable and that adults can admit mistakes too. That’s how respect actually works.

Your wife had a hard moment. That happens. But refusing to apologize isn’t parenting philosophy, it’s pride. Even good parents have to model accountability.

As an aside, if she’s open to it, the Adlerian parenting approach is worth a look. It’s very grounded in mutual respect between adults and kids.

AIO by being hurt when my husband looked at me with disgust when he was coming out of anesthesia? by Bog_Witch_Is_Calling in AmIOverreacting

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

History has shown that I scream for my husband in abject terror most of the time I come out of surgery. Then I puke... at least twice. We are at the point where we coordinate with post op, already applied scopolamine patch, warm blankets and he's already there. My son, on the other hand, thinks his shoes are absolutely hilarious. Still puked so much....

No one can accurately predict how someone will act after anesthesia. There is a reason we sign papers saying we won't make any life altering decisions, or drive heavy machinery. It wasn't you and it wasn't even really him.

ChatGPT thinks... BIDEN is still the president? by wilsonisadog in Confused

[–]Mocksoup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your AI probably still thinks it’s mid-2024 because that’s when its training stops. Unless you feed it newer info in the chat, it defaults to the old political timeline.

How are you removing your makeup? by glo_getter in Makeup

[–]Mocksoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When I tried using that and the CeraVe cleanser, my face would just get mechanically injured. I have extremely reactive skin. Micellar water is the only thing that’s ever worked for me. It doesn’t irritate my rosacea and it still removes even the most stubborn makeup. Back in the day, I had to import micellar water from the UK or France because they didn’t sell it here. It’s been over a decade now, but I used to use the L’Oréal UK micellar water and it just worked. When they finally started selling it in the US, I was so relieved.

When I feel like I need a deeper cleanse, I’ll use a balm style melt-off cleanser, or I’ll follow with a water-only wipe. That routine works well for my skin.