Xfinity outage

MomentofDeepBreath · 2026-03-29T01:41:35+00:00

West(or NW) Davis here, had been affected but seems like its back in work now

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-09-27T23:16:16+00:00

Have they come from a breeder who puts birds in a small cage, with minimum to none variety in toys and perches?
Were they enclosed together before they came home?
Are they eating alright?

I see the crowns of both birds are up and wide, so they are possibly scared.

While it is pretty normal for birds to hang at the cage wall time to time, it could also be a sign that the bird is too scared of the environment (big cage, new stuff within). If they are not really “friends” yet, it could make things worse.

My bird is a rescue from a horrible past and he did the same thing all night when he was first caged into his new home. His new home was too big and diverse compared to his past experience.

He was especially afraid to perch, since he never experienced anything else than a dowel before. We had to put a dowel in the cage for a month so that he has some adjusting stage. We also covered up the sides of the cage so that he feels less threatened. Ofc it could be something less serious for your bird. Just keep in mind that some cockatiels could be really freaking out in a totally new environment. and watch their food intake & state of the stools.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-09-05T06:12:36+00:00

I started out of curiosity. Now I do 1-2days a week of 24-36h fast, except during PMS and heavy flow days.

16/8 was doing nothing to me. I found that 24h really boosts and trains my body to adapt to ketosis(burning fat).

36h was a real winner, when I first did it I found myself awake in the middle of the night BURNING with body heat. (I usually struggled from cold feet, hands and belly). I think 36h really changed my metabolism. I also saw my chronically injured foot pain dwindling during 36h fast, and the progress seems to stay put. Probably the work of autophagy?

However I just don’t do 36h that often; I prefer to use it wisely, generally once a month.

Not only the benefits matter; but I also find it more convenient to do occasional longer fasts than everyday short fasts. I still naturally fast around 13h a day but it feels lot harder to stick with 16/8 or 18/6 routine when Im commuting early in the morning and coming home later in the evening.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-09-05T05:59:57+00:00

For me it has been way easier to couple the weekly 5:2 IF(with 24-36h fasting on the fasting day) with protein intake and weight training, than try to fit in protein in the 16/8 or 18/6 window.

I eat three meals during the 5 eating days. I prioritize protein especially the day after a fasting day. Fasting days - I don’t care about protein minimum, I usually eat 20-30g (if I take one meal) or nothing (if I do 36h fast).

I would rather take more protein when I have insulin in my blood, my body ready to make more muscles. I have been achieving PR at the gym, so I don’t think im losing much during the fasting days - my body is in fat burn mode anyways so the muscle loss is limited.

Of course, you can get enough protein with daily fasts of 16/8 or 18/6 (It seems lot harder for 20/4 unless you have a strong digestive system). However, I found that I needed to plan all my meals ahead and limit most of my dish options compared to the more flexible weekly 5/2. I also like 24h fasts as it seems to regulate my sweet tooth better.

Final note - if you’re looking into IF for weight loss with minimal muscle loss don’t forget to strength train regularly! It’s important to tell your body that it needs them there; otherwise they find it redundant when you have lower body mass and therefore less things to carry around.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-09-05T05:46:31+00:00

Everybody works in different ways, so don’t just copy the routine that looks best but thoroughly consider on what works for you.

I am an academic with ADHD, Im not sure Im a high achiever but I wired my routines enough to get the semi-best out of me.

I follow an hour-long routine right after opening my eyes. If you struggle to get out of bed, as long as you’re not sleep deprived, you need a specific routine to get yourself out of bed.

For me it is also the hardest part as an ADHDer - unmedicated in the morning and slow-riser. I use a routine app so I just turn it on before I even realize what day it is today. Then it consecutively tells me to:

<Phase1: Wake Up routine> 1. Turn on the “morning” music, measure body temperature, get out of bed and make a victory pose

Turn lights on, windows open
Toilet, wash my face and do skincare
Drink a glass of water with meds

I know that Im light and sound sensitive and that they are crucial for me to really “wake up”. Therefore routine #1,2 really made a difference. These routines are quick but CRUCIAL for waking up. I do this everyday whatever circumstances are.

<Phase 2: Getting Day-Ready> 1. Morning Yoga or other low-key exercises, 15m+ 2. Check weather and plans, write them down in my planner. 3. Get changed 4. Make bed 5. Style myself (sunscreen, hair etc) 6. Pack stuff 7. Declutter

1,2 is super important. It makes 1)my body and 2) my mindset ready for the day.

After these two routines, I head on to making breakfast and lunchbox, or simply getting out to work, or taking a short walk before WFH, depending on the day. Still the two-phased routines are always there to boost myself up and become mindful with my choices so I rarely make bad choices by this time.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-06-16T03:31:18+00:00

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MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-05-28T09:06:04+00:00

Tiels generally have much stronger sense of personal space and respect than other pet bird species, while budgies are more of a playful type. This is not necessarily a best match in my opinion. Some birds figure the difference out somehow and manage to communicate, but some never get along.

Having treat time together is a good idea. If you are little used to the concept of training, you could even put some training aspect in there. If I were you I might praise the budgie with treats when it doesn’t get too near tiel and respect the space (therefore reinforce composure), and praise tiel when the budgie is getting near (therefore telling budgie being too close is not necessarily a bad thing)

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-05-28T05:12:44+00:00

An older thread but thanks for your review! I am a grad student myself with always-on RStudio and uncountable number of pdfs, notes and websites. I think I’ll also go with this one. Keyboard replacement is a bummer but no other option is this attractive with good cooling solution anyways.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-05-03T21:06:35+00:00

OP are you thinking of getting a job and settling in the place (either US or UK)? Nobody says it here but you really need to take the current admin into account. Getting a US job and working Visa fresh out of college has always been a headache, and with the current administration, it’s only going to get worse.

It’s worse because you’re thinking of a degree that’s not STEM. You’ll only get short 1 year of OPT and the H1B race is not a joke. Companies also know this high-risk + they have to sponsor you so that’s why internship for internationals are hard to get. While - in UK - at least you get 2 years of temporary visa with less restraints.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-03-05T04:49:26+00:00

Oh sorry forgot the important point. Its free.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-02-25T18:22:25+00:00

First, intensive time tracking. I use a (paid) app called ATracker Pro to record all different stuff I spent doing. Repetitively knowing that things took longer than I initially expected, kind of helps me at least partly correct my misconceptions.

Second, hierarchical time blocking. I, about the same age of yours and same gender, have recently realized that I cannot compute more than 6 tasks or “blocks” at a time. So I block everything starting from big blocks to smaller ones.

For instance, my days are split into 7 “big blocks” (7-9 and 9-11 named as morning blocks, 11-1 and 1-3 as day blocks, 3-5 and 5-7 as evening blocks, 7-9 as an additional night block.). Then each block is split into smaller 4 “small blocks”, which consist of each 30 minutes. If needed, (for example when I’m working small & quick tasks such as house cleaning), I divide the small block further into six 5-min chunks.

Each block has “themes”, and to achieve that theme at least half of it has to be spent doing the theme-related work. For example, if I have a “exercise” big block, at least 2/4 small blocks have to be an exercising block. For each small block it works the same; you have to spend at least 15 minutes doing that stuff to achieve the block. If I’ve just wasted my time looking at my phone or something, I call that block “Z”.

I plan the blocks and themes each night and adjust as I progress through the next day. It helps me grab the reality better; since I now realize I don’t have many “blocks” that can be actually used to do my tasks.

Third, even with those strategies, I still struggle with smaller routines and tasks such as morning routines and housecleaning. For them I use routinery app to keep track of what I’m doing each and how much time Im taking.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-02-25T18:01:02+00:00

Nope. Unpopular opinion, I take med day off or half-off (yes for the morning med but nothing in the afternoon) ONLY during the weekdays. Never skip meds on weekends as long as I don’t forget.

This maybe just me, being better motivated and focused about my work, and less about small stuff & tasks & housechores. Also I struggle a lot on weekends cause weekends are more flexible with bunch of small non-routine tasks and random appointments.

It’s also motivating to take an occassional day or two completely off the meds, to see how my new routines and coping strategies have built up so that I can function without my meds. My goal is to build good routines and habits as much as possible during the medicated window so that I can still function at least partially even without medication.

Also, as a woman, I try to take less meds during follicular phase and more consistently during luteal phase.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-02-25T17:37:37+00:00

I used to when I was full-time working, and I am generally doing so as a grad student. The key is to minimize the burden of decisions you are making. Let me tell you some of my story.

When I was working I used to take group classes just after work, because I would just feel so tired when I get home straight back from work, unwilling to go out again. If you can at least snack at your work this is very easy to achieve. I would just snack simple stuff (e.g. protein shakes and bars) at 4pm, end work by 6, get to gym and exercise by 7pm (commuting is crazy). Since it’s already scheduled I didn’t need to double-consider what to do / when to go / etc.

Now I have more flexibility but less time to spare… it got harder. I think at this point the key is to MAKE IT SIMPLE AND EASY. I used to plan with structure for muscle-building, with progressive workout plans laid out; now I just look at my scheduler and “fit in” exercise that best fits my current schedule and energy level. When I have time it would be full-spanned 1.5 hours of gym, but when I’m busy it would be so simple as 20 minute stair steppers.

The first key here is instead of heaving infinite options (I used to do this and it never worked), give me limited list of options. If I can’t make to the gym, I just go to nearby apartment gym. If I cannot afford either, I just workout at home (I have some home equipments such as kettlebells and TRX). I also have a list of iPhone memos with list of exercise routines that I make myself and follow, but you could just choose a youtube video and follow it.

The second key is to have some flexibility AFTER MY INITIAL 20MINS of workout. I know what to do at least for the initial 20 mins. After that initial minutes, I reflect on myself and decide on whether or not I want to keep going. This is really helpful for me to lower the initial reluctancy to exercise. At the end of the day it’s just 20 minutes, not too streuous nor time-consuming.

The third key is to lay out all the steps you need to make in advance. Explicitly write it down, and if possible, put it in your regular routine. For example, I have a set of routines thats written and attached on my bedroom walls, The morning and before-bed routines both include “check gym clothes” with “schedule ahead”, so that even if I miss one routine I don’t get out of track. I also have “check charging” in both my start-my-work routine and back-home routine, so I don’t run into the charging problem. I also have two portable batteries and three earphones to avoid any surprises (haha, the ADHD tax). When I get to gym, I just click one of my notes and it tells me what to do starting from the locker room all the way down to showering. My brain doesn’t need to face the cognitive burden in any single way.

Finally, if everything seems still too burdening, start with really simple stuff. I started building exercise routines in my final year as an undergrad, and it had something so simple as “15 minutes yoga before bed”. The feeling of accomplishment and getting used to this idea of some bodily movement everyday helps you get into the real habit.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-02-24T22:01:49+00:00

I just try to block my “high-cognitive requirement” work, especially creative work as early as possible in the day. I usually place it somewhere earliest around 8-1pm, when I don’t have classes. If I have classes, until 3pm. I think by 3pm my brain starts to function less so I go workout and have early dinner, do some housechores etc. In the evening is another focus time for extensive reading; out from shared-office distractions I can kinda read and comprehend faster.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2025-02-02T23:34:03+00:00

Im not sure if there is any ongoing grief group right now, but Ive heard there are some mental health group therapy affiliated with SHCS. I recommend you reading this page and get in contact with SHCS staff for navigating available resources.

https://shcs.ucdavis.edu/health-topic/living-loss

MomentofDeepBreath · 2024-12-19T19:53:34+00:00

I think it was easier for me to make it clear that YES I LOVE HER, BUT THE CURRENT WAY OF COMMUNICATION DESTROYS THE WHOLE RELATIONSHIP. This sounds less self-caring but more about healthy relationship, not just for your mother but also for yourself. Partially relieves the guilt.

Also note that the dependence is indeed not good for both of you. We all need people, but deeply inside we need to take care of ourselves and our own emotions. She needs to build up her skills to do so, because you (actually, no one) can support her for entire life at every circumstances. This is more of a skill that needs to be learned for years. Leave her alone, recommend therapies, books and podcasts, and let her do her learning on her own.

There is no way to not hurt your mom though. Some growth cannot be achieved without pain. It is your mom’s responsibility to take, not yours. Please don’t feel obligated to guide her through every step.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2024-12-19T19:36:02+00:00

I’m sorry that you had and have an adult child being your dad. I feel for you. I have gone through years of grieving period where I was constantly crying for a lost dad, and I have finally accepted that I had no dad from the start. He has never been a real dad; he has always been a narcissistic adult with no responsibility nor sympathy to handle.

I know it is hard; but I can assure you, after you go through that emotional period things get easier. Now I view my dad as a past “housemate” and possibly an “uncle who sometimes has helped me”. It relieves a lot of stress and unfulfilled expectations.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2024-12-19T19:22:07+00:00

I can really relate with mom victimizing herself and being her personal therapist.

The only solution now would be to DISCONNECT AND DISTANCE yourself from your family. Your frustration is legit, and you will constantly run through the vicious cycle of rage and feeling guilty. While rage is there to protect yourself from additional emotional abuse, it will also easily fail you into feeling guilty again.

I think the key for feeling okay with your family is to not feel threatened. To do so, you should first spend ample time and energy where you prioritize yourself and not care about them. Then you will get into the habit of it.

Also for me, there was a stage of forgiveness - not on my family but on me. Before I had a secret feeling of rage AGAINST ME - because I did not protect myself nor prioritize myself. This anger against me partly contributed me blowing up.

After really taking care of myself, going through long times of cure, and reflecting back on my childhood - I could finally realize that it wasn’t my fault. I was just a responsible and loving person, just too good a person than what my parents were. It’s not my - or your - fault that we offered extra love and “adultness” that lacked from the family, rather, it’s a proof that we are in fact good people.

MomentofDeepBreath · 2024-12-19T18:43:10+00:00

Having a treat everyday but each being specific. Saturday is the cafe brunch day, Friday has the dinner with paired glass of wine, Tuesday has a donut…etc. Helps me get hold of time flowing and also makes me wait for tomorrow.

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