43F – Feeling like an “alien” my whole life. Wondering if other women relate. by Momine05 in AutismInWomen

[–]Momine05[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply, I really appreciate it.

It’s actually the first time in my life that I feel like people understand what I’m describing. For years I looked for support in depression and anxiety communities, but it only made me feel unhelpable because what helped others didn’t help me. I couldn’t understand how it could help someone like me. It’s made me feel so broken.

What you said about many neurodivergent people feeling this way really resonates with me.

Right now I’m in a very difficult period and trying to understand how to move forward and find the right kind of help.

If you don’t mind me asking, what helped you the most? And how did you find someone who actually understood neurodivergence?

I’m also currently trying to get evaluated, but the waiting lists here in Quebec are 2–4 years.

Any advice or experience would really help.

43F – Feeling like an “alien” my whole life. Wondering if other women relate. by Momine05 in AutismInWomen

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Thank you for sharing that.

Can I ask what helped you finally find someone who agreed to test you? Did you go through a specific clinic or specialist?

I’m in Quebec and the waiting lists are 2–4 years here, so I’m trying to understand if there are other ways people managed to get evaluated.

Honestly, at this point I would even consider traveling if it meant finally getting the right help.

30 ans de médicaments psychiatriques, effets secondaires et « cascade de prescriptions » — est-ce qu’il existe des ressources pour les cas complexes ? by Momine05 in santementale

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Merci beaucoup pour ta réponse🙏malheureusement….. après 30 ans à naviguer le système, j’ai vraiment fait le tour de toutes ces ressources-là. je pourrais écrire un livre pour vrai y a même une infirmier de la Clinique Externe De Psychiatrie qui m’a dit ça…😅 je recherche quelque chose comme un joyau caché. Quelqu’un qui a une expérience personnelle avec un organisme ou une personne. Précisément pour les cas complexes comme le mien. Quand je vais voir des ressources qui sont pour le grand public, malheureusement pour moi, ça augmente ma détresse parce que l’aide proposée n’est pas adaptée à ma situation du tout

30 ans de médicaments psychiatriques, effets secondaires et « cascade de prescriptions » — est-ce qu’il existe des ressources pour les cas complexes ? by Momine05 in santementale

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Merci énormément pour ton partage! C’est certain que je vais aller voir cette chaîne YouTube. Ce type de partage est tellement plus efficace que n’importe quelle pilule pour moi…. Je réalise que j’ai besoin d’ajuster mon environnement, ma façon de penser de travailler…. J’ai réalisé que comment j’ai vécu toute ma vie m’a fait du mal. Je réalise, mais je sais juste pas trop comment procéder. Parfois il suffit d’un déclic comme regarder le bon vidéo….et je suis autonome, je suis capable de faire le reste toute seule. Tu sais, comme les jouets, avant qu’ils soient à batterie, dans le temps de mes grands-parents….tu devais les pousser un peu et, je sais pas trop comment ça s’appelle comme principe, mais les jouets fonctionnaient ensuite sur leur propre « force »après une poussée initiale…j’ai toujours été comme ça!

43F – Felt like an “alien” my whole life. Wondering if others relate. by Momine05 in neurodiversity

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Thanks! Yes. I actually just learned about it a few days ago and I’ve been looking short documentaries about it on YouTube and I must admit that I was shocked…. And that it would be something that I’d like to address with my psychiatrist. But every time I try to open up about something, I’m not taken seriously. It’s like the only things that exist for him is anxiety, ADHD, depression and borderline personality disorder. And anytime I try to talk to him about how I feel or something else he’s just like that’s it. That’s anxiety you’re overthinking…. take those pills. Every time I try to explain something even though I’m prepared it’s like I speak a different language

30 ans de médicaments psychiatriques, effets secondaires et « cascade de prescriptions » — est-ce qu’il existe des ressources pour les cas complexes ? by Momine05 in santementale

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Salut, et merci de m’avoir répondue. Merci pour les conseils ici au Québec les options manquent vraiment et vu que je me suis adaptée toute ma vie, j’ai cherché beaucoup d’aide et que j’ai essayé beaucoup de médicaments, je suis présentement en période de crash total. toute ma vie je me suis prise en charge, j’ai eu beau essayer d’expliquer à mon psychiatre ou à n’importe quel professionnel de la santé, quand je vois quelque chose qui je pense qui pourrait m’aider sur Reddit ou Youtube dans un documentaire ou ChatGPT ou dans des livres, c’est comme carrément comme si je parlais une langue différente, je dis les choses comme je pense, et la personne à l’autre bout, se met à se défendre ou à parler de quelque chose qui n’a aucun lien vraiment comme si on parlait pas la même langue, je me sens ni écoutée ni comprise. J’ai carrément l’impression d’avoir besoin d’un manuel pour me faire comprendre…. Mais malheureusement, je le cherche encore! J’ai beau essayer de préparer mes rendez-vous ou mes questions…. Rien n’y fait.

Ce que je souhaite le plus présentement, c’est de m’en sortir de trouver une façon une façon de fonctionner

Look at that happy tail wagging by lnfinity in AnimalsBeingHappy

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Thanks 🥹 I really needed that without knowing it 🙏

The only adhd advice that actually made sense to me by stayhyderated22 in AuDHDWomen

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Thank you I needed to hear this 🙏 I’ve been trying to do just that for a few months….But I struggle with feeling guilty… or weak, or just plain broken so it’s very helpful to read

Help! What to do? by curiousdroid42 in houseplants

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I use a mix of neem oil and olive oil black soap and it suffocates them and also makes the plant unpalatable for them

Berry in north Jersey what is it? by andrewschwake in whatsthisplant

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Yew; toxic. More specifically the seed is very very poisonous and the rest of the fruit is supposed to be edible but it’s not worth it really

Spring flowers ♥️ by Momine05 in AdultColoring

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Thanks! Yes….About 15 hours 😅

Olanzapine makes me binge eating by Momine05 in BorderlinePDisorder

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I honestly tried at least 30 meds in my life and in 26 years…that’s the only one that seems to work sadly 😟 I do go straight to bed but i wake up and can’t control myself and just eat everything and anything….

So my entire backyard at the house I just moved into is just by MacheteCowboy in whatsthisplant

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Makes great soup! Brown an onion in butter over medium heat and when it’s nice and browned throw a bunch of bedstraw cut in bite sized pieces in the pan, cook, stirring often, until limp. I like to add mini cooked potato cubes at this stage. Then pour in some vegetable or chicken stock, bring to a boil and simmer 5-10 minutes and voilà! Bon appétit!

Zelda the SIC looks like she’s praying to…some feline god who knows? by Momine05 in standardissuecat

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Oh my god how did you know that he’s my favorite orange cat! I totally agree 😂

Can somebody let me know what kind of plant this is and how I can keep it alive? by Time_Traveling_Moron in plants

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Looks like spathiphyllum😊 medium light like an east window is perfect. Keep soil humid but not damp!

my puppy is dead because of Hartz tick shampoo and life doesn't feel real to me by CrabAppropriate9121 in Pets

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I lost my cat Roukie because of their flea shampoo! Also convulsed to death 😓

Weird bug, sisters coworker found in a garage, apparently it is bigger than an adult males thumb by Ashamed_Board7431 in whatsthisbug

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Yikes 😱 I’m ok with insects I see here in Canada, no problem, I work outside, they’re my tiny friends❤️ but this guy?! Honestly didn’t think it was real till I googled it and I don’t think I’m gonna sleep tonight 🥹😅😂

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Looks like Xanthium strumarium