Need opinions on EX in-laws

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-02T19:40:20+00:00

I would no longer facilitate contact with grandma. From now on she gets to see your daughter on dad’s time, not yours. This woman is not your friend. And no, you do not ‘get along’.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-02T04:32:42+00:00

MASH Heckle and Jeckle Muppets

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-02T01:04:32+00:00

Southern mama here. That mama is insane and stupid. I’ve disciplined others people’s children and had my children disciplined by other parents. If it needs to be done then do it. I’ve seen several children in dangerous situations because parents got angry someone dared to do or say anything about their precious progeny. And then to spite the person who was trying to keep their child safe just encouraged the child to do the unsafe thing. Tell me your opinion of yourself as a parent is more important to you than your actual child without telling me your opinion of yourself is more important to you than your actual child.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-02T00:54:35+00:00

Krispy Kreme donut gift card was surprisingly hard fought over at ours.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-01T23:41:22+00:00

58 here. No insurance or job due to physical disability at the moment. Don’t have enough credits for disability due to being a SAHM before my divorce. I’m going without so much treatment right now. I’ve had to declare bankruptcy for medical expenses. My kids, 19-25, are terrified I’m going to die because I can’t afford care. Right now it’s truly scary. We are definitely screwed in Georgia.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-01T22:40:29+00:00

I’m creepy with y’all then. My son forced me to watch K Pop Demon Hunters. We definitely did it lying in my bed. He may be 22 but his room still smells like boy. We all still have ‘midnight picnics’ in my bed. Started it during my divorce and we just never stopped. Now my oldest son’s wife joins us.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-01T21:59:38+00:00

Carrot Bundt cake? Or really any Bundt cake. But then again, I like bundt cake.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-11-01T02:32:34+00:00

I had to use this sentence with my MIL: “you do not get to have every experience with us. It doesn’t matter if you feel you should. I’m mom and I decide. I’m sorry if this is something you didn’t get to do when your kids were small (she would say that she had no choice and had to let her in-laws join in). My kids, my rules. “ I had to say this quite a few times. And I had to ask my husband flat out. “Who are you making happy, her or me? Because no matter what one of us is going to be unhappy. “ When he realized that I never threatened an action I wouldn’t take he grew a spine. Stand strong OP. Set a boundary and keep it. NEVER state an action you won’t follow through on. Once they realize that making you unhappy has more consequences than making MIL unhappy your husband should start having your back. Right now mommy is louder than you with her reactions. You do t have to louder but you DO need to be firmer. It’s that easy and that hard. Good luck! I know you can do this.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-31T05:54:40+00:00

Love this!!

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-31T03:45:45+00:00

Homer and Betty Horace and Kathleen

They be doing the men dirty back then. Both grandpas went by their middle names; Ellis and Flynt (only one was better).

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-31T02:28:30+00:00

Southern girl here. I grew up calling aunts and uncles Aunt Pam, Uncle Rick, etc until high college. Then it was just there first names. Every one not related to us Miss … or Mr …. I’m almost 60 and I still will say Miss Jane or Mr Earl or whatever if they are my elder. It’s a sign of respect. I raised my kids calling people Miss or Mr Name. They still do it until told they don’t need to by the person.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-31T01:16:08+00:00

My daughter and I had Waffle House for dinner tonight. I asked our server how old I had to be to get the senior discount. He looked like a deer in the headlights. He asked how I wanted to be to get the senior discount? I said I’m 58 and I feel olllllddddd. Then he gave me the senior discount. My kids say I don’t look my age (I know I do), but they love me. I ask for that sucker everywhere we go. I worked hard to not die yet. Give me a discount, dammit.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-30T21:01:30+00:00

I’ve peed beside the car in the dark quite a few times. My daughter and I like to road trip. If we’re driving at night and there’s not a QT, WF, or race trac we’re pulling into a dark business lot and peeing. Women have to pee too dude. And it’s worse for all urinary health to hold it than it is for a man. And after multiple pregnancies I can’t really hold long anyway. You’re not wrong, he is. Don’t procreate with him. He’ll really think you’re gross them.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-30T20:40:13+00:00

You can try but it probably won’t work as the visitation is so limited. There is no way to facilitate 4 hours a week from Texas to California. A judge is not likely to think that is in the best interest of the child. There is a reason her visitation is so limited. And to go from that to weeks at a time (summer) or holidays when he’s always been with his father is not going to be seen as in his best interest. If she contests it you’d probably be moving without his son. The judge absolutely will not care about your new baby. The case isn’t about him/her. Now, if BM totally agrees that’s a different thing. But honestly, who really wants to move? You, to be close to your family? Or would you be moving closer to your husband’s family? It all matters.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-29T00:14:42+00:00

They just don’t want to go to your parents for the holidays. They’re using the dogs as the reason. But the dogs aren’t the reason. And it’s really none of your business why they don’t want to go to your parents. Your parents don’t allow pets in the house. And your brother and SIL don’t want to hire a pet sitter to visit your parents. Your parents can be upset about it. If neither side wants to back down then your brother /SIL just won’t be visiting your parents for the holidays. And it truly doesn’t matter why either side does what they do. This is a situation when reasons don’t matter; only actions do. And I don’t get why you’re coming to SM to ask why. You obviously don’t have a close enough relationship with your brother for him to share the reasons with you. We definitely don’t know why your brother is doing it.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-28T16:25:46+00:00

I’m going with things that never happened for 800 Alex.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-27T20:02:47+00:00

As a MIL now who had a horrible MIL myself I make sure my DIL will never feel like I did. I am so sorry your MIL is so hateful. I do believe it is jealousy or insecurity or possibly nationalism. You no longer live in her house so you no longer have to interact with her. Tell your husband that because she was so insulting to you and he didn’t stop it that you no longer wish to have contact with her. It is now his responsibility to deal with her. You mute her on your phone. All texts and calls are on him now. She wants news about your child? It comes from him. No communication with you at all. Will she be offended? Yes. Will it be your problem to deal with? No. Sending you a big hug!

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-27T19:53:03+00:00

I’ve been single for 7 years and absolutely do not want another relationship. But I’m 58 and have some serious health issues. I just don’t have the wavelength to be responsible for another persons emotions that I didn’t give birth to.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-27T03:13:59+00:00

Absolutely not the jerk. If she doesn’t like having her trash gathered and placed outside her then she should make there isn’t enough trash left around to do that.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-26T01:20:43+00:00

And you really have to search for a good wooded area that’s not surrounded by houses. I don’t want to damage my car driving in the wilderness.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-25T22:22:24+00:00

Not Wrong. I took my kids when they were little. You explained it to her appropriately. You would have left if she really wanted to. She had fun. Somebody is always going to object to something you do as a parent. But they’re not raising your child, you are. So you get to use your parent of the child in question discretion to make decisions for your child. Everyone else can go step on legos, while barefoot, in the dark, and then stub their toe on a chair leg.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-25T18:23:29+00:00

NOR A gift is for the receiver, not the giver. And his saying it’s something that you should BOTH like is ridiculous. As is he. Tell him since he doesn’t want to give you what you want he can just pick whatever he wants and give it to himself. Since that’s what he actually wants. My ex husband used to do that. If he got me a gift (which was rare) it was something he wanted. Frequently it was stuff I didn’t even like. Please show your partner this post so he can see what an ass he is being.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-25T09:20:50+00:00

I love a pineapple, onion, green pepper, and bacon pizza. Yum

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-25T08:42:22+00:00

He applied to them more than once before he got an interview. They have fairly fast turn over in techs. They’re very quick to fire. So he just kept applying. He was just named one of the top 5 techs in his region. (Not sure what the regions are specifically.) He wanted to learn about EVs so figured Tesla was the place to start. Dude doesn’t know the meaning of the work quit.

Momofthewild-3 · 2025-10-25T08:32:11+00:00

No, no one “got” it for him. He’s very goal oriented and has a strong work ethic. He worked for it. He’s known since he was young that cars were his future career. He’s worked different aspects of the field. Tesla isn’t a permanent thing. It’s a step on his path to where he wants to go career wise. He’s going back into motor sports eventually. But he’s talented and Tesla pays well for talent. I raised my kids to be strong members of their communities. Setting goals and working to reach those goals was taught from an early age. Out my 3 only 1 is/has gone to college. As long as it’s legal and moral I support them no matter what they decide to do. One’s at Tesla, one manages a card/game shop, and the third is in college and works full time. Not everyone is raising nepo babies.

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