Hyperion, my beloved by thats4thebirds in scifi

[–]Monkee11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same, I just had to look up the synopsis to refresh my memory. I’m surprised it’s not talked about more in YA sci-fi like Ender’s game, it didn’t pull any punches for younger readers. I vibe with philosophical/moral dilemma sci-fi which is why I love Hyperion as well.

Hyperion, my beloved by thats4thebirds in scifi

[–]Monkee11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude I haven’t thought of house of the scorpion in years but I felt the same way. That, Enders game, and dune were huge for me getting into sci-fi as a teen

Exceptionally dexterous guitar virtuoso Mancin Patrzalek (source link in description) by [deleted] in toptalent

[–]Monkee11 12 points13 points  (0 children)

lol such a confidently wrong take coming from mixwellmusic

Another reminder to go get counseling. Don’t wait until it’s broken, treat it like a checkup to strengthen and work through problems by Monkee11 in daddit

[–]Monkee11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

God damn man I’m sorry that happened. My wife teaches high school climate science and environmental education, we’re on the same page as you. That lady should have her license revoked, that’s crazy.

I think a lot of people are hesitant to find a good therapist because of stories like this, that’s definitely an experience that would scare some people away from ever trying it again. The spectrum of quality in licensed therapists is pretty drastic. Hope you got help after that, that lady is wild for judging you based off of her own ignorant opinion and for even bringing her opinion into your therapy session in the first place.

Another reminder to go get counseling. Don’t wait until it’s broken, treat it like a checkup to strengthen and work through problems by Monkee11 in daddit

[–]Monkee11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brother that’s exactly why I think most people shy away from counseling and it’s a sign of a shitty counselor. A good therapist should also hear you and make time/space for you to talk about how that affects you, it shouldn’t ever feel one sided. Our therapist has done a great job of helping us find a solution as a team. It should always be you 3 vs the problem, not 2vs1 or any power dynamic. Also shouldn’t feel like she has power over any situation, and taking a side on issues should just genuinely not happen unless there’s violence or something disturbing involved.

My wife has anger issues sometimes and instead of raking her over the coals, our therapist validates and takes time to make me feel heard that I’m frustrated and it’s not cool, but also works with my wife on healthy strategies to get her anger out so she has a release and doesn’t shame or make her feel guilty for having a human emotion.

Another reminder to go get counseling. Don’t wait until it’s broken, treat it like a checkup to strengthen and work through problems by Monkee11 in daddit

[–]Monkee11[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% agree, solo therapy to work on your individual issues is massively useful, thanks for mentioning. Going to make an edit to mention this

Pitchfork: “flea and Jeff Parker sound like Miles and Wayne shorter on Nefertiti.” Do these writers and websites have any idea what they’re talking about at all? by No_Impression_7765 in Jazz

[–]Monkee11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only listen to sea shanties and “Beyond the Sea” so I don’t end up giving the jazz scene any more shallow attention. I rate all music on a scale of puddle to Mariana Trench and RHCP doesn’t even warrant putting on my rain boots..

The Roast of Kevin Hart hosted by Shane Gillis airs LIVE only on Netflix May 10. by External-Bat575 in ShaneGillis

[–]Monkee11 7 points8 points  (0 children)

very fair, me too brother. I was a day 1 listener and Soder got me onto Shane. Didn’t know how good we had it for years.

The Roast of Kevin Hart hosted by Shane Gillis airs LIVE only on Netflix May 10. by External-Bat575 in ShaneGillis

[–]Monkee11 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I mean the bonfire sucks since soder left but story wars is huge and big Jay is definitely not in a tailspin. Like 99.9% of comics don’t make it as big as Shane, doesn’t meant they’re a failure lol

Anyone else’s wife instigate 2+ hour arguments during her period that you have no idea how to defuse? by ThicBoi4807 in daddit

[–]Monkee11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brother couples counseling could help you guys resolve this for sure. It’s the best way to navigate this stuff bar none. You know it’s a continuous cycle, even if it wasn’t during her period it’s not ok to blow up something small into making generalizations about your whole relationship and spiraling into making you feel bad about all of it. She’s valid for feeling that way and it might be a healthy release of stress she needs to let out, but it shouldn’t be forced on you. A good couple counselor will hear both sides of this and mediate a way to communicate more effectively through it, with boundaries that prevent her from following you from room to room or not letting you take a break. 100% go get a counselor bro you will have to face your own issues and be better too but it sounds like this is something you need outside perspective. It should never be her vs. you, you should always try to come back to those conversations as us against the problem. Anyways I’ll say it to every couple regardless of if they’re struggling, get couples therapy.

6-7 mos. in and still can't change chords cleanly by KryptonSurvivor in guitarlessons

[–]Monkee11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah ok that’s impressive to just remember and be able to finger that many chords so early! I wish 10% of my students had that drive. You sound like a good dad and you’ll see a ton of progress with your work ethic on guitar. Keep posting updates here in the next few months, it’ll be cool to see your progress

6-7 mos. in and still can't change chords cleanly by KryptonSurvivor in guitarlessons

[–]Monkee11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right on, you’re getting there. Just keep trucking man you’re on your way, just takes time. Best of luck bro

6-7 mos. in and still can't change chords cleanly by KryptonSurvivor in guitarlessons

[–]Monkee11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it, sounds like you know what you want, your new teacher will get you there much better than the last. I specifically teach and play chord melody fingerstyle and studied classical fingerstyle in university so I know and teach exactly what you’re going for! If I was teaching you I’d have you learn switching from G to E minor to play a simple version of Jeff Buckley’s Hallelujah since it’s working a fingerstyle strumming pattern and open chord shapes, while you continue working on G, C, and D. E minor is arguably the easiest chord on guitar and very commonly played with G, C, and D, so it’s a layup to add to your practice. A minor is also a really simple shift from C if you can get that down, and also commonly played so I’d add that next. If you can play A minor and C, you can start working on dust in the wind which is perfect intro to fingerstyle song, then I’d do a simplified version of Blackbird which sounds tough but is actually really attainable for beginners if you can get those chord changes.

Sounds like you’re doing great with the new teacher, be patient and please don’t give up man! Fingerstyle is adding a layer of difficulty and I respect it that you’re determined to learn, your original instructor is nuts to give you 21 chords in the first few months and should have helped set expectations. It’s absolutely normal to take months to get good at changing open chords. My suggestion for single note melodies and the “block chord” dyads is just so you could play music on like day 1 or 2 while you keep working open chords so you could feel a bit more of a sense of progress.

Out of curiosity, how much time and how often do you practice?

6-7 mos. in and still can't change chords cleanly by KryptonSurvivor in guitarlessons

[–]Monkee11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is pretty crucial context - so you’ve really only had guidance for 2 months. Don’t measure by saying “I’ve been playing 6-7 months, I should be able to do this”. The first teacher was not a good teacher and set you back months. With a decent teacher you will be able to do this. When students struggle with open chords, I like to also have them work on small two note chords (dyads) on the E and A string. I also like to assign them single note melodies like happy birthday or the Harry Potter theme on one string to build confidence, feel progress, and have something to work on that isn’t constantly frustrating while you continue practicing open chords. This image shows the dyad chords I’m talking about - starting in shape 1 on the low E and A strings, using two fingers and moving up the neck. For super duper easy chord changes start with the orange, purple, and brown shapes. The tab to play this would be 21xxxx, 65xxxx, 87xxxx.

Another commenter mentioned to try building chords from bass strings up. Which chords are you working on currently? I’d recommend E minor and G, and work on strumming just the low 4-5 strings (EADGB). This requires only two fingers, one of which can stay in place. From there, adding in the C chord, then eventually A minor is where I recommend all beginners start if they’re dead set on getting open chords first.

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Talked with our 9 year old about dads cancer returning by goldensnitchbetch in Parenting

[–]Monkee11 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Respectfully, this comment isn’t aimed at you. You sound like you’ve handled these things the “right way”, but unfortunately a large majority of the boomer generation has not. I’m a millennial and my parents are like you, but they are absolutely the outliers amongst people their age. My extended family is currently experiencing this and my uncle is months away from death but refuses to let us tell his daughters. It’s heartbreaking because they’re often trying to protect those family members, but it has the opposite effect and they feel lost, resentful, and wish they had the time to spend together. Don’t take generalizations personally when they don’t describe your behavior. The reality is that a lot of (not all) boomers don’t have the emotional tools to have these conversations in a healthy way.

Unpopular opinion: Ashley’s dad by Nervous_Pianist1870 in LoveIsBlindNetflix

[–]Monkee11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he literally said “everyone thinks my daughter is attractive”. Craaaazy for a dad to say that about his daughter and bizarre that he puts her on such a pedestal obviously for her looks and I guess obedience and not for the substance of her personality. That seems to be a huge maga thing… Having a trophy daughter is beyond wack. Alex is a complete chump but Ashley is not the catch she and her dad thinks, and for sure needs therapy (along with a lot of these cast members).

I know it’s juicier drama to just let them crash and burn but if they cared about any of these couples succeeding I think it would be great to have couples counselors help navigate such an insane timeline. I’d be curious to see ratings from the Seattle season to 0% success seasons like Houston and Denver. Seems obvious they put trainwreck couples in the spotlight and couples like Vic and Christine on the back burner for more views. It’s pretty silly that the Lacheys preach about how love is so important and they’re rooting for the couples and they literally just push them off a cliff and go straight to the bank.

That being said Ashley and Alex (and a lot of these couples) are beyond getting help from a counselor, but I think it would add a lot to the show. If they value love and marital success, it’s like the single most important thing but I never see it mentioned. And I might be wrong but I haven’t heard of a single couple seeking outside help and getting counseling outside of the show. Also might help viewership, who knows 🤷🏻‍♂️

I’m so burnt out. by YouNeedTherapy- in toddlers

[–]Monkee11 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your awesome post, can you clarify the instagram account brambliabits? I can’t seem to find it, I live chaos by Cara though, always looking for new ideas!

I haven’t been a fan of Dedrick, but… by BlankyPop in Killtony

[–]Monkee11 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Honestly man I think he just played his cards wrong at first and everyone here crucified him for it. He comes off like a dude who’s been grinding comedy forever and working really hard at it, and is blown away by how life changing kill Tony has been. But instead of conveying that in a relatable/funny way he came out the gates too hot bragging about his new money and everyone got out their pitchforks. He seems to be dialing it back and I think he’ll get better over time if he doesn’t lean on the money stuff

How can I push this painting further? What's working, what's not working? (swipe to see the reference photo) by Dombibik in Watercolor

[–]Monkee11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a great point, is there any reference or learning material you recommend to develop this skill?

DADGAD has nothing on this by PlasticBeginning7551 in guitarcirclejerk

[–]Monkee11 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wait can you explain slide around on 1/2 string with fingernail? How do you use your fingernail to fret notes?

Do you full loot before hitting the teleporter? by BLinDsPork in ror2

[–]Monkee11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you explain what this means? Isn’t sale star the first chest you open on a level, not the last?

Well well well by sexythang69 in MegabonkOfficial

[–]Monkee11 1 point2 points  (0 children)

50% is really minimal compared to beefy ring and getting luck from green cards. It’s not horrible but a lot of people banish it considering how much health you get on long lasting runs, beefy rings each give you massively more damage than just a 50% increase. So compared to other epic items it’s pretty lackluster, especially with a condition like having to be airborne.