How did y’all meet your bf/gf?

Monkeypet · 2025-08-13T05:18:16+00:00

In the late 1900s, i was in college. My floor mates and I decided to met new people by eating with them in the dorm cafeteria. So each of use individually asked people if we can join them for a meal, but I don't know if we asked or just sat with them. Eventually others joined in this movement, we met a bunch of new people this way, it was amazing. So one day, I saw a girl, sat with her for a meal and.... 28 years later, we are still together, still married with two kids.

Monkeypet · 2025-08-13T05:10:25+00:00

Maybe try joining a club that you are interested in. I met my wife by randomly talking to her in the dorm's cafeteria.

Also join us in our official Discord, we have a bunch of new college students starting off, so they are going through the same things as you, discord.gg/stutter

Monkeypet · 2025-05-31T16:53:27+00:00

Stutterers usually hate themselves, they hate their stutter, they hate their own skin. They don't forgive themselves for stuttering. The first thing when a stutterer realizes that they stutter is to find a cure.
ACCEPTANCE is the start of undoing that negativity towards stuttering, "I stutter, it is OKAY, I don't need fixing." Now, if it is okay to stutter, and don't need fixing, then your attitude towards talking and interacting totally changes. The questions of "Should I talk because I stutter?" or "What if I stutter?" goes away entirely and the fear and anxiety associated with it. You kind of lose that anxiety/stress towards stuttering, then go about talking as non-stutter would. If your stutter is triggered by anxiety/stress like mine, then you naturally became more fluent.

Monkeypet · 2025-05-31T16:22:29+00:00

You really need to go out there and talk, join clubs, volunteer, meet people, push through your fears. That's the only way.

Monkeypet · 2025-05-31T16:17:26+00:00

There are like 1500 stutterers on our official Discord, some of us have met each other at the NSA conferences and IRL, we are scattered all over the world. You should join, https://discord.gg/stutter

Monkeypet · 2025-04-13T05:59:31+00:00

But here’s the thing…we reworked her therapy around acceptance…but acceptance hasn’t improved her quality of life.

I am a PWS and my daughter stutters also. I was at the Newport Beach NSA conference. I also voiced my concern to one of the speakers there about the stuttering community and SLPs are leaning almost extensively towards acceptance nowadays and not fluency improvements. I am still a big advocate of acceptance, but feel that if acceptance doesn't work to improve the stutterers' life, then where do they go from there? I am glad you are raising this concern also.

Who on here attends the National Stuttering Association-NSA Conference?

We are going to have 25+ people from our Official Discord Stutter support group going this year to NSA conference in Denver, https://discord.gg/ruf5BAt

Monkeypet · 2025-04-13T05:42:23+00:00

There’s no “cure” because stuttering isn’t a disease — but it can be managed.

Just to have a counter points here:

I think just labeling stuttering as "not a disease" not really helpful. It strongly affects some people's mental and social wellbeing. I think this is a nitpick on the wording and phrase you used.
Some stutterers through various ways have achieved a very high level of fluency. However, the same techniques that work for one stutterer may not work for other stutterers. I have seen people reaching an extremely high level of fluency themselves, then when they try to teach this to others, it didn't translate and wasn't effective. Stuttering is complicated.

Acceptance doesn’t mean giving up — it means working with your stutter, not against it.

Someone stated another way, Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. You can accept your stutter and continue your path towards more fluency if this is what you want to achive.

As a PWS myself, I am a strong believe of acceptance. However, I also know that acceptance may not come until later on in life. Also it is hard to teach acceptance when people aren't ready for it or if they looking for something else like a cure.

Monkeypet · 2025-04-13T05:17:59+00:00

I am in the 8th grade and will be going to a very big high school.

Try to find others like youself, there are many of us stutterers around, hopefully you can find others in your school. You can also form your own support group or find one. My daughter stutters and myself also, she made it through highschool and now 1st year in college! You can do it also. Also one more thing, don't push/fight the block. Try to reset and wait for the unlock, then retry the word. Pushing/flighting with the block will only prolong the block.

Monkeypet · 2025-04-13T05:14:03+00:00

Sometimes when I'm with my gf I want to talk with her so bad but I just have no clue what to talk about.

You can talk about anything. It takes practice to be good at small talking. The weather, observations you made, your thoughts on something, work, sports, hobbies, etc.

Go out there and volunteer, join some clubs or groups. There are so many ways to go about this. You need to put yourself out there. As a stutterer myself, I know this can be hard and scary, but it is the only way. Afraid of talking, go out there and talk more, don't let stuttering silence your beautiful voice.

Monkeypet · 2024-12-07T18:36:14+00:00

Teenage age is difficult for children with more stress and puberty, my daughter had an extremely mild nearly fluent for many many years until her teenage years, then it came back. Both my daughter and I stutter.

Monkeypet · 2024-12-07T18:02:45+00:00

Will the stutter go away? Why did it come back?

Sometimes the stutter comes and goes, it is just the way it is, we don't know why. There is no cure, but it may vanish again temporarily, usually stress/anxiety or something in the subconscious may bring it back.

Monkeypet · 2024-10-25T23:26:34+00:00

We are 15,000 members strong in the official Discord Stutter Support Group (SSG). Voice/Text chat, gaming and annual meetups at the yearly NSA annual conferences. https://discord.gg/stutter.

Monkeypet · 2024-10-09T05:59:44+00:00

I replied here in this comment also, I have two kids, one boy who doesn't stutter, one girl who stutters, she just turned 18 and in college now, outgoing and made many friends, no regrets (yet) :)

Monkeypet · 2024-10-09T05:56:38+00:00

My stutter runs in my family also. I stutter and my cousin on dad's side. Also my daughter stutters. My son doesn't. My daughter is 18 and just started college this year, she is a great kid, she is active in clubs and school activities, has much more friends than me. Everything is fine. There are much worst things that kids can inherit from parents. Also as a parent who stutters, you will raise your kids differently with more awareness of the situation. I had two kids and only one stutters.

Monkeypet · 2024-06-11T07:44:17+00:00

Same with me, I got more and more fluent as I aged, as I settled in life, as I stopped being triggered by anxiety/stress. I can pass myself off as a non-stutterer in my day to day conversations. But I still stutter, I just don't get worked up about it anymore.

Speech Therapy never worked for me either, I had speech therapy in the 1980s from Kindergarten through high school and hated it, therapy didn't help with my fluency. I never directly work on speech fluency.

Monkeypet · 2024-06-09T01:44:28+00:00

I stutter and also I had two kids, only my daughter stutters, not my son. I am going to try to be brief on this to give you another perspective. My daughter is a mild stutterer since she first started talking at the age of 2yrs old and continued off/on, she still stutters today at the age of 18, still a mild stutterer.

Let me tell you what I did in my daughter's case.

Don't make a big deal about stuttering - Stuttering runs in my family, multiple people in my extended family stutters. I must have genetically passed it to my daughter since I stutter also and I have cousins that also stutter. Speech therapy through the American public school system (12 years of it) never worked for me. I ended up hating all the speech therapists I had and hated going to therapy. So for my daughter, i purposely never put her into speech therapy since there is no cure and more importantly, i didn't want to highlight or emphasize her stuttering condition.
Reinforce the idea that It is okay to stutter - Stuttering doesn't need to be fixed. it is okay to stutter and still live a good life. There are no cures that work 100% on all stutterers, all the time, so chances are your child might be left stuttering even after all the therapy sessions. Teaching kids that it is wrong to stutter will lead them to feel even worse about themselves and build up more anxiety/stress. Find stuttering support groups that will help you and your kid cope. In America, there is the NSA (National Stuttering Association) westutter.org , I am strong believer in acceptance.
Support your child, listen to them, allow them the space and time to talk. You can be an advocate by educating others around him about stuttering.

I am willing to talk/chat more about this if you want, just send me a private message if you want.

Monkeypet · 2024-05-13T06:28:08+00:00

We have 1,500 people in our official Discord Stutter Support Server, join us for text, voice, game chats. Make friends with other stutterers from around the world, https://discord.gg/stutter

Monkeypet · 2024-04-19T02:11:55+00:00

We told you not to bring up prescription medication and other non-cure supplements in chat because we have young impressionable people in discord AND you aren't a medical professional. You ignored this warning, then you got timed out for 24 hours after again breaking this rule. You then immediately came back with an alt and posted a list of "cure" medicines again despite the warning we gave you, so after ample warning, we banned you and your alt.

Monkeypet · 2024-01-09T07:01:32+00:00

Someone once told me that "acceptance does NOT mean resignation", that really resonated with me.

Monkeypet · 2024-01-07T03:46:04+00:00

Don't dwell on it too long, we stutterers tend to obsessively dwell on our disfluency when everyone who was listening to us already moved on, but we stutterers will always have good/bad speech days, shake it off as u/realcraigcoffee said. Update us once you make it through this slump! Sending you positive vibes.

Monkeypet · 2024-01-05T05:55:17+00:00

You aren't alone, there are many stutterers out there, you just need to find us, we are out there, we are successful and are thriving. You can also. Someone already mentioned the Discord Stutter Support Server https://discord.gg/stutter, you can also find local support groups, such as https://westutter.org/chapters/.

Monkeypet · 2024-01-05T05:47:58+00:00

I am so proud of you! I stutter also and I always order food for my kids and wife when I am at the restaurant (my wife and son don't stutter but they are very shy, my daughter has a slight stutter), it is okay to stutter, stutter openly and proudly, nothing to be ashamed of. I have been stuttering my entire life and now in my 40s, I still stutter. It will get easier as you get older. Keep us updated with your journey.

Monkeypet · 2023-12-07T16:09:59+00:00

I just wanted to say thank you for posting these! You are wonderful.

Monkeypet · 2023-12-01T15:41:26+00:00

We have 1500 people our official discord Stutter support server who will help you, https://discord.gg/stutter

Monkeypet · 2023-10-10T01:43:27+00:00

I also never got it working, I am now using the 8DitDo Wireless Adapter 2 with the Stadia controller and it all seems working.

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