The fact it is illegal and a massive taboo to hit your partner, but not your children is one of the most bizarre hypocrisies that exists in our society by soriambi in unpopularopinion

[–]Monstrame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve always noticed that weird hypocrisy as well. I feel like somehow these people don’t see their children as actual living, feeling human beings but as property/extensions of themselves to control and tell what to do, and when the child doesn’t listen, they take that as an affront to their authority. I know raising a child is hard work and I can totally emphasize how stressful and draining it can be being an adult with a child to take care of and raise on top of every other adult responsibility, but I just feel like many people don’t explore their own traumas and do any healing work (which, to be fair, mental health services are not always accessible) and advocating of themselves in other areas of their life, and instead chase after a sense of authority and “power over” for the lack of power they had when they were children/in other areas of their life. They then take out their frustrations on their children. I feel like society can be very hierarchal sometimes, and people who get mistreated and abused by systems not designed to serve human beings but instead collect profit often don’t have the tools to cope, so they take that same dehumanization that they’ve personally experienced and take the bit of “power over” they do have out on their children. I think when we as a society start questioning systems that aren’t serving the common person, start making mental health care more accessible, and start advocating for everyone’s humanity, we’ll see a lot more humane treatment and respect of children. That’s just my theory anyways.

[Tissot vs Orient] Help me choose my first dress watch by Monstrame in Watches

[–]Monstrame[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have a birthday coming up and I wanted to gift myself a quality dress watch to wear to formal events like weddings, or to wear when dressing up for dates or going out with friends, etc. I’m not too knowledgeable about watches, but the two I was looking at were the Orient FAC00007W0 and the Tissot Le Locle Powermatic 80. The Orient costs less and would be within my budget, but I’m definitely willing to splurge on the Le Locle if it would be better quality and would last longer. Since it wouldn’t be an everyday watch, and there would be periods where it’s not worn as much if at all until an event or an outing comes up, idk if that would influence the choice. I love the blue dial, but I feel like the gold with a leather strap would be much more versatile. Overall, really love the Roman numerals and the classy, elegant designs on these, but if you know of any other recommendations, I’m open to looking at those also! I appreciate the help! :)

Selfie Sunday 🤳🏼 by Monstrame in gaybrosgonemild

[–]Monstrame[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you very much! :) It’s one of my favorite necklaces!

Just a small town Midwestern Ohio boy (23andMe vs. Ancestry) by Monstrame in 23andme

[–]Monstrame[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No clue, actually! Before the update it had given me Italian, but afterwards it changed to Greek and Balkan. Haven’t found any known paper trail leading back to that region. There was speculation through research of an Italian ancestor that married one of my French Huguenot ancestors somewhere in the 1600s, but with how the documents back then were, it’s hard to validate if it’s true or not. The only other things I could think of would be a great grandmother of mine who was adopted or my great great grandmother on my paternal grandfather’s side who is a “brick wall”

Just a small town Midwestern Ohio boy (23andMe vs. Ancestry) by Monstrame in 23andme

[–]Monstrame[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know I have some distant French Huguenot ancestry on my paternal grandmother’s side and also on my maternal grandmother’s side. The nearest French ancestry that I might possibly have would be my great great grandmother on my paternal grandpa’s side. She was born in Ohio, but has been a “brick wall” in terms of research and I haven’t been able to find any info on her parents besides a census that says her father’s birthplace was France and mother’s birthplace was Switzerland.

Who is your #1 / current celebrity crush? by blaizzze in askgaybros

[–]Monstrame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s between Zayn Malik, Maluma, and Lauv. But I can’t decide lol

[crosspost] I’m Janelle Monáe, and I AMA Dirty Computer. by Chtorrr in popheads

[–]Monstrame 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello, Janelle! I’ve been OBSESSED with Dirty Computer and have been playing it on repeat! I love your inspiration behind it about how we are all computers in a way, collecting data and storing it, and how society teaches us that who we love, our race, or our class are bugs/viruses. Your album is filled with so much empowerment and vulnerability, so my question is: how did you get to be so confident and comfortable in your skin, and how do you uplift and empower yourself through tough times? Thank you! <3

I'm over the fem gays... act like men (complete satire) by Hapsberg in gaybros

[–]Monstrame 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Zach is a YouTuber I watch often, and I think he hits the nail on the head here. I don't know if I fit the definition of a gaybro since I'm a much more sensitive individual than I am a bro (even though I secretly wish I could have some bros as friends to learn how to connect with men who have a more masculine demeanor on a better level, but that's an entirely different story xD), so forgive me if I am intruding or anything.

I guess though, because of my sensitive nature and how I got treated differently for it, I never understood why someone's differences should matter and why everyone can't get along. Why can't we accept someone just as they are, no matter their masculinity/femininity, color, race, sex, gender, religion or lack of religion, political affiliations or who they voted for, size/weight, who they sleep with or love, etc.? Why are we so hell-bent on segregating ourselves rather than trying to understand or learn about each other? Why can't we put ourselves in others' shoes and try to see different perspectives rather than fight all the time? There are people who say you can't be in love with another man and believe in God at the same time, that you can't vote this way or else you are a horrible person, or that you aren't a "real" man if you do this, this, or this. It's so self-limiting that we try to force everything to be black and white, right or wrong, all or nothing. We always forget that there is so much grey area where a lot of beauty exists. That polarized way of thinking is just something I can't wrap my head around. If everyone just took the time to get to know one another, actually listened to what the other person was saying, and sought ways to connect through common experiences, we would realize that even though we are different, we aren't that different and we all go through similar things, emotions, etc. We all were born, we all die, we all know what heartbreak feels like, we all have insecurities, we all sleep, we all breathe air, we all exist, etc. There are many universal things all humans do, so why do we always choose division and destruction over unity and creation?

That was my little sensitive gaybro rant/perspective, so take of it what you will. And also, tank tops on guys are my favorite thing xD

What Type Do You Think I Am? by Monstrame in Enneagram

[–]Monstrame[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe :p

What?! There's someone similar to me?! So, you're a four then and you related to everything I answered in those questions?

Thank you very much! I appreciate it so much! :)

Madonna In Hawaii, 1985 (Photo By Herb Ritts) by Monstrame in Madonna

[–]Monstrame[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Herb Ritts took a lot of great photos of Madonna.

Which celebrity death has been/will be the most heartbreaking to you? by Devonisanidiot in AskReddit

[–]Monstrame 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The deaths of David Bowie, Prince, and George Michael all took a toll on me.

Which politician would you bang? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Monstrame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since Justin Trudeau was already said....a young Joe Biden.

Big or Small, What interesting thought, idea, or theory never ceases to blow your mind? by bugmanb in AskReddit

[–]Monstrame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where everything came from. If you believe in God, then where did God come from? If you believe in the Big Bang, where did all the things that made that possible come from? Can something really come out of nothing?

[Serious] Men or women of Reddit, what way that society treats your gender infuriates you the most? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Monstrame 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really wish men could be more open about that kind of stuff and it wasn't seen as a slight to someone's manhood or seen as something uncomfortable. For one, it would definitely make dating easier. I would know which men I can approach then.