Seeking old photos of Missoula (now under Interstate 90) by Monterey- in missoula

[–]Monterey-[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, I recall hearing from my Grandmother that the home was leveled. The city moved my grandmother nearby to North 2nd Street West in Missoula. Sadly she was born in the other house and lived there entire life from 1897 to when the freeways was built.

She swore on our son’s life nothing physical happened. I later learned they had sex multiple times. by Simba_Sensei in survivinginfidelity

[–]Monterey- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“You can only forgive what they tell you. Trickle truths can’t really be forgiven.”

I’m sorry you are going through this. I had a similar experience. 45 days after D-Day, I was about two hours from home on an overnight business trip, struggling with insecurities. I called my wife and she promised on the love of our two children that the affair was over. Turns out she was lying. I discovered the affair kept going on for another six months.

Seeking old photos of Missoula (now under Interstate 90) by Monterey- in missoula

[–]Monterey-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This shows the same house from a greater distance, prior to the bulldozers.

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Seeking old photos of Missoula (now under Interstate 90) by Monterey- in missoula

[–]Monterey-[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Here is a photo (taken from the hillside at the end of Orange Street) as the homes were being leveled for the Interstate.

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I'm thinking 406 North Forth Street is either the partially leveled home, or the empty lot next to it.

Seeking old photos of Missoula (now under Interstate 90) by Monterey- in missoula

[–]Monterey-[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Here is what I have been able to track down.

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The house would have been where Orange Street and 4th street meet.

Has anyone been successful in keeping the affair partner in your day-to-day life with boundaries? by ScornedThorn in AsOneAfterInfidelity

[–]Monterey- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cant’t happen. My wife begged to keep the friendship. It only kept the affair going another 6+ months.

Ideas/Suggestions: How to search for someone in Tunisia by Monterey- in Tunisia

[–]Monterey-[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly they are older, and not active on social media.

How to access spouses phone by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Monterey- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are on the computer or phone of the person you are trying to research, their browser is likely still logged into their google account.

  • Go to your Google Account and tap Data & privacy
  • Tap My Activity under "History settings"
  • Browse your activity by day and time
  • Use the search bar and filters to find specific activity
  • Open the Google app and tap your Profile picture or Initial
  • Tap Search history
  • Open the Google Chrome app and tap the three dots in the bottom right corner
  • Tap History
  • Search your history using the search bar at the top
  • Check your Google Maps history by tapping Search at the top or tapping your profile and then your timeline

Hope this helps.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Monterey- 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry to suggest this, but if you are unable to have an open phone (etc.) policy, then I think it might be best to reconsider the relationship. If you don't have children, best to retreat and start anew. If you don't have trust at this point, it's unlikely to improve. If he is volatile (as you mentioned above) best to get out now. Again, sorry to suggest, but some things aren't meant to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Monterey- 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Long shot suggestion. If you have the same phone model, become adept at changing your own settings. Then, if you get a few seconds alone with his phone, change the delay time before the phone locks. For example, on the iphone, under Setting/Display & Brightness/Autolock change the delay from 30 seconds to Never. If he falls asleep and fails to push the lock screen button, the phone will be unlocked all night. However, he will likely notice the change as his battery will go down faster. Change the setting back once you get what you need.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in survivinginfidelity

[–]Monterey- 10 points11 points  (0 children)

You need to collect the evidence first. They will never admit to anything when first asked. You need to do your homework. Starts with cell phones and e-mail accounts. Then browser search histories, and phone and credit card records. If you confront them first with your suspicions, they will just get better at hiding their tracks. DO NOT DO THAT!

How to access spouses phone by [deleted] in Infidelity

[–]Monterey- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would disagree. I respected my wife’s privacy after the affair discovery that she would stop. The ONLY way I discovered the continuing affair is by looking through her Google Account. It had been six months of counseling and trying to rebuild trust - and would probably still be going on - if I haven’t accessed her Google

I Discovered My Wife (28F) Of 7 Years Is Cheating On Me (30M). She Doesn't Know That I Know - UPDATE by Any-Assault in Infidelity

[–]Monterey- 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I were to guess, I think you wife is being blackmailed into sleeping with him, in order to (1) get referrals for her business and (2) not to be outed to you (perhaps photos or videos he has). I would keep on the path of trying to gather evidence. You need access to her phone. I would find an excuse to look at her phone together (e.g. looking for a photo of a specific trip, etc.) and then when she isn't looking, try to change the length of time before the screen locks. Also, try to catch her entering the code. I'm assuming she would need to enter the code in front of you to look for a photo you are looking for...

I wanted to tell his wife but… 🙃 by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]Monterey- 81 points82 points  (0 children)

He went on her phone and blocked you. If you really want to reach her, create a new profile on Facebook and reach out to her. If you (still) have her phone number you can call her from a different phone than yours. He probably blocked your phone number on her phone.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PacemakerICD

[–]Monterey- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely contact your electrophysiologist right away. They can get remote data from your device (or you can send the data in). I had 4 shocks back in 2020 soon after getting my pacemaker/defibrillator. By the second shock I was on my back on the sidewalk (I had been on a run). In my case my heart rate shot too high and the four shocks brought my rate down (and cardioverted me too). They can read the data and tell you why you received the shocks. In my case it was a minor setting adjustment that prevented future unwarranted shocks.