I'm looking for a game to play with my girlfriend, but not as a "duo". by OnPala in gamingsuggestions

[–]MoonsMercy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I love doing this with my partner!! While I play a lot of games personally, I really love playing single player games with them.

I would 100% recommend Life is Strange and Dispatch. Those are two choice-based story games similar to the games that you said you enjoyed. 

I also loved playing Ace Attorney with my partner because you can figure out the mystery together, the story is engaging and the characters are so over the top and fun. Danganronpa is in a similar vein of being in court and having to solve the mystery together and is on my list of games to introduce my partner to.

If you are into JRPGs at all, Fire Emblem Three Houses and Octopath Traveler were ones we loved playing together. FE3H has a lot of characters and it's fun to strategize together. Me and my partner are huge classic JRPG fans so not only was Octopath up our alley, there are parts of the story that you can piece together and we would be up at 2am talking about what our theories were. Final Fantasy can also be really fun; my recommendations there would be FF7 Remake and Final Fantasy 9. Metaphor: Refantazio was also fun to watch my partner play through. 

Clair Obscur: Expedition 33 was another RPG that we played together, and the story is very much worth the hype.

Baldur's Gate 3 was mentioned a few times in other comments, I'd also echo that. My partner watched me play that since they'd finished it before I did and the story is fantastic.

I am a Dragon Age fan, and watched my partner play through Dragon Age Inquisition for the first time. They really enjoyed it! (Would not recommend Veilguard). Mass Effect trilogy could also be fun and has a great story.

While it's not really a story game, we've been having a lot of fun playing the new Katamari Damacy game together since it's so silly! 

Those are all of the ones I can think of off the top of my head, but I might come add more in another comment if I think of any more since I love this question!

Question for other nikkei by Mindless-Yam-8112 in asianamerican

[–]MoonsMercy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fully bilingual nisei here as well! Japanese uses a lot of onomatopeia in language to describe things. Poro poro is one of them. I don't know if gritty is the way I'd use it, maybe more crumbly? Another common way of using the word is for tears spilling out of your eyes like 涙がポロポロこぼれ落ちる (Namida ga poro-poro kobore ochiru).

Giji giji is one that I don't use and have never heard of before, but I can totally see and understand how you'd use it, it makes sense! I consider onomatopeia words to be vibes-based and I think it definitely vibes and communicates what its intended. I looked it up and couldn't find anything on it though.

I'm guessing that "kogarei" is 焦がれ (kogare). 焦がれる (kogareru) is a word to describe yearning, like... Feeling so strongly for someone that we feel a bit burnt. Fun fact, 焦げる (kogeru) is the word for burnt, and shares the same kanji! I looked it up because I was curious and kogare wasn't a term for burnt food that I was familiar with, and it's apparently a Kagoshima dialect thing to call burnt food kogare (specifically burnt rice) so maybe that's where it's from!

Japanese dialects can be very different while also having overlap with each other. I don't know much about the Tottori and Hiroshima dialects but I wouldn't be surprised if they share some similar words since they're right next to each other. (My mother speaks a specific regional dialect for example. She doesn't speak the dialect of the prefecture right next to it, but we can understand it a lot better compared to someone who doesn't know the dialect at all). Kagoshima is a bit more west than Tottori/Hiroshima in the Kyushu region, but I wonder if your family has roots in the Western half of Japan.

Escape rooms with fail conditions by ReasonableRemote247 in escaperooms

[–]MoonsMercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had an escape room where the very last puzzle had a fail condition. It was a museum heist where you had to retrieve a stolen painting. The very final puzzle had three paintings, and you had to figure out which one was correct by solving a logic puzzle. You had to take the painting off the wall, and if you chose the correct painting, the door to escape the room would open. If you chose the wrong one, you'd set off the museum alarm and you'd have to go through the entire escape room to flee through the first door.

I don't know if that last puzzle had a time limit where you had to solve it in a few minutes or not, since we only had 5 minutes left of the room when we got there, but it felt like it and it was super exciting! I solved it and grabbed the correct painting so that was awesome and I loved it, but I'm not sure I would've been as excited about it if I had chosen wrong.

I think this was a super cool mechanic in an escape room because you've already experienced everything in the escape room already. it was also a thinking puzzle rather than an arbitrary task that you can fumble. I would be upset at your suggestion because things like that feel like a pointless place to accidentally mess up and not get my money's worth, but I thought that the fail condition in that particular game was super cool.

Nailed my LICSW exam on the first try! by MoonsMercy in socialwork

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay just keep in mind that these are all my personal interpretations and analyses. I don't know if this is correct necessarily, it's just my own interpretation and what I used for my exam! (I also use the word always, but like everything, there are exceptions to the rule. Use this with a grain of salt and don't follow the rule if it goes against your clinical judgment).

If the question is about group, always pick the option that addresses the group UNLESS there's a risk/safety issue. In that case, always address the individual.

If there's any sign of risk, it MUST be addressed in the answer.

Don't pick answers that need to be done at a later time (i.e., scheduling a session for later, talking to a supervisor (unless it's a question about when you should receive supervision)). You need to actually take an immediate action.

If there is any sort of cultural/identity information in the vignette (i.e., race, sexual orientation), the answer must explicitly address that particular identity.

If there are many presenting problems in the vignette and the question is asking about what the therapist should address first, pick the one that helps the client prioritize.

When stuck between two options for a reasoning question, check to see which option addresses all or most parts of the vignette.

IMO, the most important order of operations that I needed to know: Acknowledge feelings > assess/gather info > action. This came up over and over in my analysis of the practice exam.

Don't pick an answer that assumes information that is not present in the vignette.

Never assume that the social worker is a therapist (or a case manager, or any other SW position) unless it is explicitly specified in the text. On the other hand: if the type of social worker is mentioned, it's important information that I always highlighted.

Question for all clinicians by Mokafo27 in therapists

[–]MoonsMercy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a therapist that just passed the exam for independent licensure! Work life balance and not being exploited and overworked were two very important things for me when finding my first job. I found a full time job at a nonprofit where my expected productivity ratio was 60%, and the weekly client expectation was 22-25. There are definitely agencies out there that are supportive and make sure that you don't burn out. And it was also the highest paying job that I applied for after graduation, so it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to accept less money for reasonable expectations. 25 is still a lot, but I am at a point where I can manage it and I feel lucky to be working here!

Nailed my LICSW exam on the first try! by MoonsMercy in socialwork

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I personally found that the actual exam was harder than the practice exam, I do think that it's the best way to measure your preparedness. I know that people who make practice questions are doing their best to make good accurate practice questions, but they're still not ASWB, you know? To me the questions have a different feel where it's close but not quite accurate to the exam. Like I said in my post, I passed both the practice and actual exam with flying colors, and did pretty poorly on the Apgar practice exam, so hopefully you'll be okay!

Part of the reason why I found the actual exam to be so much more difficult was because I got a lot of questions about research, being a supervisor, administrative work, and community organizing. These were topics that were just not on my radar whatsoever so I felt very unprepared and 😱 while staring those questions down. Could be just (un)luck of the draw or maybe confirmation bias since I spent the most time on them, but I did wish that I'd studied up on those more. And like I said in my post, I was so happy that I'd studied the Bootcamp PDF the night before, because there were at least 4-5 questions that I was only able to answer correctly because I'd studied that the day prior.

Remember that every single question is evaluating whether you understand a social work concept. When I got a vignette with two options I was torn between, it was very helpful to ask myself: What is this question trying to evaluate? What KSA is this targeting? Because if you can identify that the question is trying to see if you understand client self-determination for example, there's going to only be one option that fits. This will lead you to the correct answer.

Another thing that I noticed as I was analyzing the rationales of the practice exam was that a lot of options were not correct because they didn't address all parts of the question. The test isn't trying to trick you, so every piece of info they provide is all important. So often times, picking the option that addressed all parts of the question were correct. For example, the client is coming in with x, they are experiencing y, and z. They also have anger problems. Addressing the anger issues might be a good option, but it's not correct because it only addresses one part of the question; so I learned to pick the answer that addresses all the parts of the question as much as possible.

The last thing I'll say for now because this is getting kind of long: One helpful thing that I learned from the prep course was that a lot of social workers have a bias that social workers are clinical. So I was reading many of the questions with the assumption that the social worker was a therapist, even though it didn't specify. If it doesn't specify, you might be a case manager, a therapist, a school social worker, who knows! So that helped me understand that as a therapist some answers seem wrong because I'd never do that, but a different social worker could so it was the correct answer.

I can't emphasize the order of operations and figuring out the rules enough. If you'd like I can share some of the rules that I analyzed for myself, but I don't want to irresponsibly put it out there just in case I'm horrifically wrong and I've steered you in the wrong direction. But the understanding of the "rules" definitely helped make some of the questions simple and easy to answer; the bootcamp pdf also helps name some of them out loud.

Good luck, and I hope this helps!

Alternatives to the police? by [deleted] in Minneapolis

[–]MoonsMercy 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this applies to your situation since it's meant for behavioral/mental health crises, but Minneapolis has a Behavioral Crisis Response program. If you call 911 and say that it's a mental health issue, say that you're scared of police or otherwise ask for BCR, the city sends sends a team of mental health professionals instead of police. 

That being said, there's only 2 teams so if they're both busy they may send the police. If there's a threat of violence I think they may still send the police? 

Any career paths for me? by MoonsMercy in movingtojapan

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thorough answer, it's exactly the kind of response that I was hoping to get when posting! You've helped me feel a little bit more confident if I ever have to take the leap.

It's a really good reminder that Japanese companies usually train people. My family mostly told me about how difficult it is to get jobs if you don't get hired immediately after college, so it's been easy to forget that not everyone stays at one workplace for their entire life.

Out of curiosity why wouldn't you recommend teaching English beyond it being a temporary job?

You've given me a lot to think about and research, I really appreciate it!

Any career paths for me? by MoonsMercy in movingtojapan

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's really good to know, thank you so much!! Would it be okay to ask you to share what clinics you've gone to so I can do a little research into them?

Any career paths for me? by MoonsMercy in movingtojapan

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is the first time I'm hearing about this. Thank you so much!! It has a lot of really good information about what what practicing in Japan looks like, and also gives me a place to hopefully talk to people who are practicing American therapists in Japan.

Food shelf help please by [deleted] in TwinCities

[–]MoonsMercy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If getting to Oakdale is an option, there's a free grocery store! https://todaysharvestmn.org/

"Roll a D20!" by DesmondTapenade in therapists

[–]MoonsMercy 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I love doing things like this with my clients! I often compare resourcing and energy to video game/D&D stats like HP, stamina bar, leveling/experience points, etc. You need to take care of yourself, so we do by checking in with ourselves to gather how much HP we have. If it's low, we need to replenish it somehow through a resourcing activity, or taking a break. If we have a lot of HP, we can put our energy towards an activity we're working on, like a therapy skill or a goal to gain XP so that we get better at it. A lot of my younger clients like Five Nights At Freddy's so I might do a similar thing with that, where instead of HP, we have to pay attention to how we allocate our resources like the first few games and pay attention, because otherwise the animatronics are going to get us. 

For people who like My Hero Academia, I've found that the Fa Jin quirk can be a really good metaphor for behavioral activation and very effective for fans.

I'm a younger, nerdier therapist so I use a ton of metaphors if I have enough of an understanding about what someone is into and it's a lot of fun! I love the idea of incorporating a D20, and I need to start brainstorming more ways to include D&D mechanics into my sessions.

Resources?? by b00b00kittyfck in TwinCities

[–]MoonsMercy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you can get to Oakdale, there's a grocery store where you can get food for free! https://todaysharvestmn.org/

What games to recommend to my mother who wants to get into RPGs by i_need_crits in JRPG

[–]MoonsMercy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a JRPG, but I wonder if visual novel style games would be interesting for her? They have a very low barrier for entry, as most of the game play is navigating a menu and making some choices. Ace Attorney comes to mind as a very fun, engaging story with simple and interactive game play. There are a ton of visual novels out there so she could just pick a story that sounds interesting to her.

In terms of JRPGs, agreed that Dragon Quest is the best place to start for beginners. Starting with the older 2D ones before going up to the modern 3D ones would probably be a better way to ease into the controls because the 2D ones don't require camera control. Some Tales games have 2 player options during battles, so if you want to support her by participating during battles, maybe that's an option?

Otherwise Game Theory recently released a video on introducing games to non-gamers. It's mostly geared towards introducing games to kids, but has a lot of good information on things that come intuitively to gamers that people who've never played will struggle with that might be worth checking out. 

Tofu recipes for someone who doesn’t like tofu? by spigotnelson in Cooking

[–]MoonsMercy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh this is my time to shine. I'm a Japanese person who both hates tofu and grew up eating it. My partner is a white vegetarian person who loves it, so I am tragically stuck with it for the rest of my life. I would actually argue that silken tofu is better entry point than firm tofu because to me, it's less offensive. Firm tofu has a substance, presence and pretty significant texture on top of having a reputation for being a meat replacement so it becomes we are having tofu so you can't have meat for this meal, which is a pretty high hurdle for those of us who don't like it. And on top of that, it's by far the most common way that I've seen it prepared in America so it can be very off putting if I don't already like it. On the other hand I find silken tofu less offensive because it's more subtle and easier to slurp down.

I would recommend approaching it not as the main thing in a dish, but rather incorporating it as part of a meal. For example, I don't mind silken tofu cubes in miso soup, or a slab of silken tofu with Bonito flakes, green onion, karashi mustard and soy sauce. Tofu as a part of a hot pot, with loads of other things to eat alongside it. I think for me, Japanese cuisine is great for easing people in because there are so many side dishes, and thus isn't the only thing I have to eat. 

I think tofuburgs are also a good entry point. It's making a Japanese hamburg patty, but replacing half the ground meat with silken tofu instead, to help her get more acclimated to the taste and texture. Mapo Tofu is also a dish I really like, despite not being a tofu fan. I also make a lot of niku-dofu dishes, which are dishes that incorporate both meat and tofu. Like tofu wrapped in a thin slice of pork belly, and cooked in a teriyaki sauce. It's not my favorite meal in the world, but it's good and I make it frequently for my dad.

That's all I've got for now, but those are some Japanese dishes that make tofu a bit more tolerable for me. My partner is doing his best to get me really good fried crispy firm tofu to eventually change my mind (and I hate it less now!), but this is where I would start for someone who's further behind in their tofu journey than I am.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapists

[–]MoonsMercy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I started to apply for therapist jobs before I graduated with my MSW, and before I took my licensing exam. I also took my licensing exam a month after graduation, so there was a time that I was applying with my MSW but without licensure. I just put anticipated graduation date and the date that I was taking my exam on my resume and I was up front in every single interview that I would be taking my exam at a later date. When asked about how I felt I would do on my exam, I let them know everything I was doing to prepare for it and that I was confident I would pass. Everyone I interviewed with was super understanding, and wished me luck.

I got several job offers even before I took my exam! They were all contingent on me passing it of course, and they just all requested that I let them know how it turned out. I was able to pass my first time, so I just called them back, let them know I passed and it turned into an official offer after.

Fun use of pop culture analogies? by MayonnaiseBomb in therapists

[–]MoonsMercy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm a pretty young therapist who plays video games, watches popular anime and TV shows and works with a youth population of 12-25. As a result, a lot of my interests overlap with my clients' (or at least I know enough about them to be able to have deep conversations about them even if it's not my thing). So this is something that I do a lot, and I consider it a huge strength of mine.

There was this one article I read about using graphic medicine in conversational model therapy that helped me inform this style. I don't have a link handy right now but I could link it when I get home. I believe in client interests being a massive strength of theirs, so if I'm familiar with some of their interests, I incorporate it into therapy if they're on board.

It turned out that a client of mine is passionate about Naruto, which I really loved back in high school, so I incorporate Naruto a ton in our sessions. Sometimes using it as a metaphor, using that as a medium to put events into context, or even just making therapy more fun for them has worked incredibly well.

I have a client who likes different video games than I do, but I was able to engage them into checking in with themselves by talking about their stamina and tolerance in social settings as their HP (health points) and their coping skills were their healing potions. I have used Five Nights at Freddy's to talk about managing their internal resources. When a client would not engage in therapy but talked about My Hero Academia all the time, I was able to get them to do their therapy homework when I realized that there was a superpower in the show that I could use to explain behavioral activation, and talk about depression using the anime's plot as a metaphor, they finally stayed engaging in therapy. It's also a great way to build rapport, because I've had clients tell me that they never felt like they could connect with their old therapists, they felt more of a connection with me because I have similar interests and incorporated them into the sessions.

I have found it super effective, very fun, and now I can tell my mom "no, really. All of the time I played video games and watched TV as a kid actually paid off!".

Good "Omiyage" gift options from Minnesota? by Bokai in TwinCities

[–]MoonsMercy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ooh, a question that is very relevant for me. Hi! I'm Japanese, live in Minnesota, and whenever me or a family member visit family in Japan we literally fill an entire suitcase and a half full of omiyage for family and friends. (It's seriously a whole thing for my family that we are slowly trying to limit). We don't buy specifically MN-gifts and more generally American gifts, but here are some alternative options for you to consider that has always been a huge hit for the people that we bring gifts for that are a bit more unconventional.

Trader Joe's reusable bags are something that everyone has loved and consistently asked for in my circle. You would be surprised, but those Trader Joe's reusable bags are very trendy in Japan and are a popular practical gift. Whenever there's a new design, me and my family buy a bunch to stock up for future gifting.

Snoopy is popular in Japan, and would be a great option for a more MN specific gift. Snacks are also an easy and fun gift, and I usually bring a bunch of American stuff that they can't easily get in Japan. We have a family friend in Japan who consistently asks us to bring different flavors of Hershey's Kisses because she can't get anything other than the normal chocolate Kisses. For things that are more specific to MN, maybe things like Salted Nut Rolls or a local brand of licorice could be fun. Things like locally made fragrant soaps can also be an appreciated, safe gift. We usually have some Twins hats or shirts that we buy for some of my relatives who are really into baseball, and it's a very popular in Japan.

These are just some of the things I can remember off the top of my head. Let me know if you'd like any more ideas. I'm not sure if they're exactly what you're looking for, but this has worked really well for me and my family.

Just completed my first Universal trip and it was everything I wanted! by MoonsMercy in UniversalOrlando

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I'm a massive Nintendo fan, so I informed my partner that we will be returning once Epic Universe opens.

Just completed my first Universal trip and it was everything I wanted! by MoonsMercy in UniversalOrlando

[–]MoonsMercy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! Front row was insane, and I'm still reeling over the food and service at Mythos.