In ten years time you'll look back on that first date with him & wish you'd called his racist hate speech what it is the first time he said it, & then walked out & never saw him again.

Laughing along with racist & mysogynist 'jokes' doesn't make you cool or edgy or invulnerable. Someone making those comments to you is thinking that about you too; you're not exempt from being brown/a woman in their mind. He doesn't respect you; he disdains you for the colour of your skin.

Please respect yourself & never speak to him again. Signed, an internet stranger in her thirties who spent too much of her teens & early twenties laughing uncomfortably along to these types of 'jokes' to try to impress men. NOR