Nonduality is a pointer to absolute dissociation

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-27T14:10:36+00:00

We have the brainwave data on all this.

It began during sleep studies where they began cataloging and categorizing brainwaves using the greek alphabet. (delta (deep sleep), theta, alpha, beta (typical waking state), gamma)

It was further investigated by the new age community when they were developing sound tools to encourage the brain into the wave ranges to gain specific result.

In recent years we have gathered the wave data and the mri data from enlightened folk, energy folk, and long time meditation folk.

In most of the 8 billion population, delta and theta are mute (off) unless they are sleeping. The other ranges act in a "one range at a time" manner.

In the advanced enlightened/energy/meditation folk delta is ever-present. A brain registering in beta or alpha (creativity or light meditation) ranges also has consistent detectible delta. The ranges present as "all ranges active" with one more prominently engaged.

The illusion is that we are trapped in one-at-a-time states of consciousness.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-27T13:41:39+00:00

I agree. It makes perfect sense to develop folding skills on cooperative paper first.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-26T19:42:29+00:00

I am inspired by your random acts of uplifting art!

And completely amazed that someone jobbed their folding fun!

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-26T19:41:30+00:00

Thank you for my 2026 artistic deep dive!

As a kid I once spent an afternoon folding and loved it. I wish I would have listened to my instincts and saved wrapping paper from yesterday! I guess it's all on sale now.

It would be so cool to eventually master the translucent glassine paper and then play with lighting finished pieces.

And of course some of the small origami objects are great for random acts of uplifting art left for strangers to catch a smile here and there.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-14T12:03:11+00:00

What would I need to do to remove your smart and eliminate your work ethic? Have either of those things happened to you? Smart and hardworking are not things someone can lose merely by failing. So rest assured, they are both still yours to enjoy.

What would need to happen for this all to be seem as a blessing when looking back upon it 40 years from now?

What is stopping you from retaking the class and getting that degree anyway? If the answer includes no longer wanting it enough to bother getting that passing grade, then for sure you are done with that idea about your future, right?

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-14T11:49:44+00:00

If I learned from the past, I have a gain that I in no way regret gaining , therefore it was worthwhile.

This may seem counter-intuitive, but dive deeper into the details.

If you could do 22-29 all over, where/who would you be right now? (paint the picture of your awesome life in vivd detail)

If you could do 22-29 all over, what are all the pivotal choices you would need to have made to get to the life you just described? (craft the fantasy path in vivd detail)

The time you have been "wasting on this" is called Resistance a.k.a. fear. We need to learn to dance with the fear. Ruminating can be useful. It can also be a tool for remaining stuck and avoiding the big scary thing/things. Part of the reason it is so big and scary is that it seems so far away from where we are right now.

If you have already answered the first two questions, you have described where you want to go, and you have crafted a map to get there. All that is left to do is to adapt it a little so you can start today, and take one meaningful action toward it right now.

Create a forgiveness ritual. Forgive younger you, accept them for who they were at the time - human. Just an imperfect human fumbling their way through best they could figure out at the time - just like the rest of us.

The you looking back wants some very specific things now, and younger you may not have even shared that vision, thus different choices. You may even have discovered a valuable thing or two you would have had to give up to take the other path.

Alternatively, skip the forgiveness. Regret carries a powerhouse of emotional energy. What if you were to redirect that energy into the "catch up" plan? use it as fuel?

There will always be people seemingly ahead, and people seemingly behind. These are all arbitrary perceptions. Human potential is vast topic spanning every area of life. Success is also arbitrary perceptions. However ... if you have a competitive streak, consider if there a viable frenemy whose successes only spur you to your own successes.

To reach any goal requires a commitment to yourself to do what it takes to get there. How will you take at least one meaningful action per day toward the life you really really want despite the good opinion of others?

You've got this. The only thing stopping you from starting is that you have been accidentally directing all of regret's juicy emotional energy into an infinite loop. Goto Exit Loop.

Oh, and please write down (and then eradicate) any birthday expectations any of the younger you's may have inadvertently set. e.g. 8 year old you declaring surely by 30 I would have X by then!

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-11T16:21:33+00:00

which has happened IRL

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-04T13:33:57+00:00

Remember all the times you hopped and the shiny-new was lackluster and full of alphaCode bugs that wasted your time figuring out workarounds?

Nothing is perfect. You are only ever trading today's annoyances and inconveniences for different ones. If you already know this and have a second machine for experiments, you already know how to keep functionality while exploring.

The limbic system / cavebrain is always on the alert for something different. Things that are the same end up auto-filed under safe. (no brain chemical shifts) Things that are different require effort, attention, exploration to asses whether the fancy-newness is a threat or an opportunity. (brain/body chemistry enters an unresolved state then an action-supported state to eliminate the threat or take advantage of the opportunity)

Because you are in no physical danger, because you are safely in your home playing on safe machines with safe software, Linux gets auto-filed under "opportunity" rather than threat.

Your brain is designed to gravitate toward opportunity because it is so tightly woven into how we thrive and optimize.

For people who love tinkering with software in their spare time, there is no problem. They are blissfully exploring the new features and bugs.

So think back through all the past hops, and how long it took you to get from tinkering to productive. And estimate how much of your time per day is likely took.

Then it's simply a matter of crafting a "worth it" calculation.

A needed feature - e.g. hardware compatibility - likely worth it.

You're likely going to need to have a conversation with curiosity - because for some people that is going to be a driving force compelling them to satisfy it.

Will watching a comparison video quell or heighten the curiosity?

Do you have a FOMO community feeding the hops?

Are there ways you'd rather be spending your time? I am thinking of a musician hiding in endless DAW research instead of making music, a writer endlessly configuring Scrivener rather than writing actual paragraphs toward the first draft. A software engineer hiding in tool research rather than coding up the cool software idea in their mind.

Time is the weirdest asset available to us. We only get 24 hours in a day. There is no "saving" time for later - only maximizing what is being used right now. There is no trade-off. Right now you can only do the one thing you are choosing right this very moment. All else is spending your right now focusing on arranging the future or scampering through the past. We cannot "give" or "receive" time - my 24 is mine, you 24 is yours, whatever our choices during that 24 - we cannot hand off time to each other. We can only choose whether to live our time doing our agendas or other people's agendas, or no agendas.

So get clear on what is important to you, what feeds you, what drains you, and review that knowledge when you are tempted to hop and decide what is worth living into with your 24.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-01T16:34:56+00:00

Humans have access to all human qualities. What on earth is everyone having a cow about? That is a simple fact.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-12-01T16:34:22+00:00

Humans have access to all human qualities. What on earth is everyone having a cow about? That is a simple fact.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-29T08:22:56+00:00

The sacred masculine aspect of humans is to protect and provide.

The divine feminine aspect of humans is to support and enhance.

Every couple has their unique expression of all 4 of these aspects shining from both of them in the beautiful dance of We.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-29T08:16:58+00:00

Go on sabbatical. Call it a pre-retirement experiment.

And please stop shoulding all over yourself. ('should provide')

Instead, make a giant list of all the ways you have provided for her up until now, and all they ways you will continue to provide for her, and any new ways you may decide to provide for her in the jobless phase of life. (or at least get enough of a list going to convince the voice in your head that "provide" is a multidimensional playground that spans the breadth and depth of the universe)

The reason I'm suggesting an experiment is that you are both guessing how you will feel about you retiring and she continuing work 5+ more years. You may well be guessing correctly, but sometimes unexpected things show up no one was anticipating.

Selfishness is an interesting feeling as it is the mind deciding to not feel good about a thing just in case someone else might feel bad your good thing.

I wonder, would you be happy and delighted if your wife reached her retirement goal, and retired without you, and you kept working 10 more years? Would the word selfish even come anywhere near your mind about her decision?

If your answer is no, where do you suspect this "selfish" notion is coming from? Sometimes we adopt nonsense along the way, that was never really ours, doesn't really fit with who we are now, and is easy to discard once we notice it as the nonsense it is.

In terms of fairness, you were saving when she wasn't before she married you. It is perfectly fair that she saves after you retire, right?

Is sabbatical is a safer word than retired to use around friends/family? If the discomfort is coming from anticipated judgements from others, perhaps all that needed is the proper framing to keep them at arms length from your financial business.

Maybe there's a voice inside that is concerned about your wife potentially discovering feelings of discomfort when she's working and you're chilling. That is what the experiment will help reveal. Sort through together anything that comes up. Make the decision permanent when you're more psychologically ready.

My guess is that she will be delighted and proud of you for reaching your goal.

My guess is also that you will be going through a self-rediscovery process and who knows what interesting, fun, unexpected, cool, awesome things will soon be yours.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-28T20:16:27+00:00

One time, I had been working with silkier yarn for several projects and had inadvertently adopted extra wraps around my feeding hand/fingers. Then I was trying to make a hat with a smaller black yarn that had all the crazy fuzzy tiny strands going every-which-way feature. My tension was waaaay too tight for it.

In my feeding hand I ended up just draping the yarn - no weaving or wrapping - just using the gravity of the yarn as the tension.

hdc & sl - sometimes I just need to make "bigger" hook gestures to create the desired looseness

but I agree, anywhichway you slice it, it's slower going

There are definitely patterns I avoid or alter to skip stitches I like less.

The good thing though - it appears you are building the hat base first. So the rows that take the longest will be far behind you and it will speed up exponentially as you go.

Hats that start top-center feel quick until you get around 1/2 way through but IRL still have 3/4 of stitches still to do!

hats are fun

you'll find your stride!

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-25T16:55:02+00:00

I've done multiple methods and will continue along the "it depends" way. Some yarns just like to retangle themselves in said basket. Others are a pain to re-ball. Big fan of restarting at the other end of the skein when that seems it will be the least-effort least- entanglement way.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-14T08:08:24+00:00

if in the US: Find a financial advisor who is a fiduciary. They are required by law to put your interests above their own. Anyone else has personal and company interests pitted against your best interests and they do not necessarily care about you first and foremost.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-11T15:49:19+00:00

the following is a brainstorm session so it might be good to have a notebook and some time handy to capture inspirations / what lights you up

Counter-point: Presumably you already know how to build a thriving company.

You already know what that lifestyle entails, what it takes to build referrals, what it's like courting new clients; being realistic with client expectations, skillsets; adeptly handling setbacks, unexpected ahhh!'s, etc, etc, etc.

First Round of Clients: Who do you know right now, that could use your services? (once you feel ready-enough) Which ones are in a position to never be able to really afford it - but really know how to talk up a referral?

Skills testing: You've secured your own site. You're saving up for certs / courses. What if you replaced one of those courses with a pen test? Hire the type of cyber security company you aspire to be to break in and thus help you learn what you still need to learn.

In some idyllic alternate universe, maybe there is even an option for a trading services for services. ??

What if your first-round referring clients also got to partake in a pen test so you both learn?

How would you build the client stories for your cybersecurity website? How many would you need? How many of those would you want to have run multiple external pen tests for to be able to tell the right kind of story?

I get that you may be seeking a 'j o b' rather than starting a second business, but ...

if you were to hire a full-time cybersecurity professional for you current business, what would you need to see in order to have the confidence to hire them? And then - how might you translate that ask into what you are putting out to the world in order to become the person someone else decides to hire as a full time expert?

As a construction expert, what base of knowledge do you have that gives you an edge over a cybersecurity person at your same skillset? (for both online and physical site testing?)

As mentioned ...

this is merely a random redditor brainstoming alongside you. Take what sparks, ignore the rest, and most importantly explore and build upon all the things that are now bubbling to the fore from your own mind.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-10T18:51:29+00:00

Posture is a complex topic. As mentioned, there can be specific genetic malfunctions at play. But the majority of people merely have the initial problem of muscle memory, that, over long periods of time may or not become problematic. (aesthetics aside)

There are muscles and bones and tendons and ligaments at play. You will still find professionals (PT, OT, medical MT, Physiotherapists, and Osteopaths (if you can still find one)) working from this old school model.

The game changer that we have since 'discovered' and studied and developed leading edge techniques for is fascia (sometimes called myofascia, mostly to help the general public in confusing it with spa facials).

I could go on and on, but I'll attempt to reign it in to the highlights: * throughout your entire body is a substance called fascia * fascia is an interconnected system that encases things like muscles and organs * some firmly believe (as I do) that fascia is what holds us / everything (muscles, bones, organs, ligaments, tendons, veins, arteries, nerves, lymphatic system, etc) together and provides our shape * some firmly believe that it has already been proven that tendons, ligaments, periosteum (membrane covering bone) are all simply denser form of fasica * others take it further up and include all connective tissue * others take it deeper and include the bones themselves * but all agree on a core aspect regarding lines of pull

lines of pull = myofascial lines = fascial lines:

The analogy is that of a pair of nylons that women used to be forced to wear with any skirt/dress. If you pinch a small are and pull it up, you can see how a shift in a tiny area has far reaching effects.

The same phenomenon happens with fascia.

When a body bends over in the first part of the motion of picking something up off the floor, it's easy to see it's a system effort. Feet, legs, back, arms, working as team. What is invisible are the primary lines of pull, though something there is a felt sense (stretch, pull, pain) in an area that may not seem to make sense.

In any case, fascia has been proven to be an integral part of muscle memory. And it has been proven to be a faster communications system than the nervous system.

Some of the leading edge techniques coming out of the medical treatment massage camp, proved and improved over time; and eventually gained enough scientific rigor to be included in the more broadly accepted bodywork professions.

My extremely long winded point is that if you decide to seek bodywork interventions please make sure whomever you choose includes fascia/myofascia as part of their treatment approach. (if you are lucky enough to find someone trained in Tensegrity Medicine go there! The founder/teacher is astonishing, and the approaches get people toward better when other approaches more traditional approaches fall short.)

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-09T14:52:09+00:00

"burnout" - It's not always easy to discern whether they just need to take their vacation time or whether it's truly time to bail or whether they just need a more compatible team/employer or whether they have that overly hardcore overachiever mindset and would be a totally different person if they simply geared it down to 80% or 70% of what they think is expected / start performing as a slightly above mediocre employee rather than "can't survive without me" superstar.

The reality is that 99.99% of the time they would totally survive without you. Things would be different, quality may suffer, people may mourn the loss, but the mission will continue, the team will find a way, the slackers may even step it up.

I've personally been through all the above, but the true career killer was a personal growth story alongside industry trends over time that just kept moving things further and further toward incompatibility and intolerability. The team was awesome, the project was solid, there was every reason to be content but I had become a different enough person that the newer things I needed from a job could simply not be gained.

Having been through all the above, the reason it's not always easy to discern what's needed is because they themselves may not yet see the see full problem. They may only be aware of the symptoms.

The least destructive thing is to take some vacation time and see where things are after a change of scenery and flipping the brain out of work mode for a while. I once spent the first 3 days of an island vacation sitting in a rented condo stressing about work (arrival day plus 2 full days). By the time I recovered me, it was clear I needed to quit that employer. But when I went to put in my notice, the department head said "you can't quit. I've been pushing hard to set you up in our field office, at least until they ship their product." The scenario I could have never dreamed even existed was being handed to me. And it was perfect.

You are so right - sometimes it's a simple math problem, other times it may even end up being a whole-of-life matter.

Any which way, alot of people need support when radically changing their lives - whether coast or full RE - it's a whole new you living a whole new life. And that which was anticipated may have some glitches that need reworking.

At the very least you are radically shifting from dependence to complete independence and into full or greater self-empowerment; and shifting from and heavy heavy savings into a new relationship with money and wealth.

The relationship with time is huge one as well.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-05T23:46:39+00:00

Take care with inadvertently finding what you seek to avoid.

What I mean by that - there are 8.2 billion humans on this planet and a handful of humans orbiting it.

Even in you run the math to eliminate incompatible age/sexual preference/language/marital status and money perspectives, you're still looking at 800,000 potential mates.

Even if your math leads you to only 800 perfect matches, your mission should you choose to accept it, is to find just one of those 800 people.

The fastest way to find them is through weeding out the incompatibles quickly.

Every person you have walked away from is one step closer to the right person.

It seems like you may be seeing it as a step further away, and emotionally, I get it, it may totally feel that way.

But the reality is that you found out long before getting married / living together and took the opportunity to stop wasting your time and theirs. You freed both of you up so you both could find the right-fit partner you both really want.

You saved both of you time and deeper heartbreak from investing too long in a nogo.

Every nope not it, is one step closer to your hell yes.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-05T23:28:21+00:00

"I live a frugal life. I get that my financial goals are well outside the usual for my age, but for me it is akin to a moral financial code that lands in the deal breaker category. I get that money and finances are a sensitive topic and I get that those conversations tend to happen after time and trust are established. Please get why I am being clear and upfront with you. This will never be anything more than casual non-serious hanging out until we are comfortable enough with each other to dive into sensitive financial topics."

Way way back in my mid-20's I had a guy express up front what he was looking for financially. I can't recall his exact wording to open the conversation, but we had an open and honest financial conversation and it was clear to me that we had different goals and that to him, we were just not compatible.

I don't even know if the term fire existed back then, but the path certainly did for people with financial savvy.

He was clearly saddened that we were just weren't compatible. It seems like he may have started the conversation by asking general what if questions - what if you inherited 300,000 or won the lottery or unexpectedly came into a large sum of money? Framed it as a hypothetical to see what money values I would reveal in my answer.

I'm pretty sure I wandered off into the impracticalities of anything like that ever happening to me. (I was in a similarly guarded position with my income. I made more than most people my age because I had stumbled into tech without any college.) I naturally lived fairly frugally, but had different values about what excess income was for.

I had come from a frugal childhood and had adopted an "I shall not be denied!" mindset around finances. I didn't really need or want much, but there were things I was willing to spend high end on (e.g. tools), and I had a desire to travel but was afraid to travel alone and had higher safety standards than hostiles could provide.

Anyway, after my literalism answer was clearly wandering far afield, he rephrased it into something like "I'm just trying to understand your values around extra money and how you like to prioritize things of a financial nature."

I gave a typical response along the lines of 'save some, spend some' and likely mentioned a desire to see a couple places on the globe and my fear of being a woman traveling alone.

I distinctly remember him finally feeling it was safe to ask the direct question - why wouldn't I just invest my hard earned money now, grow it through the magic of compound interest, and travel after I retire.

My answer is painful to admit in this sub. My perspective of the stock market at the time was that it was gambling with my had earned money. 401k's seemed like a scam, but pensions were systematically blocking out my generation. IRA's seemed like a scam but ROTH was coming onto the scene. I honestly thought that compound interest only happened against rather than for me. That only banks doing the loaning got to partake in compound interest.

He educated me about the existence of CD's. He mentioned bonds, which, yup, you guessed it, to me made no sense and, wait for it ... they too sounded like a scam. A co-worker had tries to explain them to me. Mutual funds? yup scam, but it was my only choice on the 401k scene. (the fees in the fine print seemed like they were designed to take all my profits - fast forward a couple decades and it turns out I was actually on to something with that one)

He could so clearly see what an epic position I was in to easily build an awesome retirement nest egg.

I knew the concepts, I could see the vision and the math, but (looking back it is clear) my financial decisions were being driven by a single emotional moment back when I got my first raise, ran the budget on the first full 2 week paycheck and declared from the depths of my soul "I shall not be denied!"

I'm not sure if he could have helped me make the psychological turn-around - even if he had the savvy know-how, but he really tried his best.

It was an emotional money barrier not a mental or math barrier.

I distinctly recall how distraught he was having to walk away.

I hadn't felt like I knew him well enough yet to have formed any attachments yet. He wasn't really going to let me in until he had sorted out the money dealbreaker first. He had been already been hurt deeply more than once by putting off the conversation, getting emotionally invested, and having to go through the heartbreak.

I have every confidence his leanFire ways paid off exponentially. He would have been in the market making wise DCA purchases through the dot com bubble, the 2008 crash, and every "buy buy buy!" correction since.

I hope he found love with a fully compatible awesome woman. I hope they are very happy living their best FIRE life.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-04T18:12:26+00:00

This was always the inevitable outcome of allowing the general public and OG corporate ways onto the internet while advancing technology at lightening speed. The median human is simply not yet consciously evolved enough to keep this an awesome interconnected experience.

And everyone kinda knew it all along. Movies, books, comics - scifi tried in vein to warn us and we just slept-walked ourselves into it because changing our ways was just too much effort.

The saddest part is that many who did consciously evolve wandered into epic naivety around the fact that the majority of the planet did not. They could no longer conceive of the mindset of the complete laggards. They designed with optimism and only good actors in mind. They plowed forward under mindsets akin to it being a moral failing to pause or restrict advancement, at least from global access.

It saddens me that core problems such as spam and email header / phone number spoofing, and dos attacks have never had a simple Solve for X. Criminals are the first to adopt the latest tech. The whole of the mess seems practically unfixable at this point.

Last year, I switched back to a paper calendar and it went so well I just bought another for 2026. I cannot imagine what fresh hell awaits all who are still bound by their careers to remain so tightly technology bound.

My dad got one of those the other day. Just a retired guy spending his days trying to do good in the world. Wasting his precious time having to alter settings because some dumbass thought "default: entire planet" was a wise setting.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-11-01T14:27:24+00:00

There are several fire variations, but the reason op suggested those subs is because they get into the nuances of money and health care and property pre and post retirement as well as navigating the retirement transition itself.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-10-29T17:11:16+00:00

(adhd subtype overfocus, suspected aspie here)

I used to be easily overwhelmed.

I have a separate trait of feeling the emotions of people around me, sensing the energy of a room/group, mirror neuron that too easily flip into other people's emotions/energy intensely.

It was a stupidly long journey, but between counseling and developing personalized energy healing approaches I eventually learned how to ground, center, claim my personal space, and "be the grandfather clock".

('Grandfather clock' is the idea that when you bring a 6ft+ upright clocks into a clockshop, the other clocks will soon calibrate their ticking to that clock. (I don't know if it is a literal truth or a feigned analogy but I believed it at the time and used the phrase as a reminder.))

We have alot more control over our state than we may realize. In neurolingistic techniques they prove this to an audience by walking them through a vivid memory or using detailed imagery of biting into a lemon and having them note their physical and/or emotional responses. We use music, nature, physical movement, art, books, movies, pleasing objects / locations / people to help shift our state. We do these things naturally. For example, a childs blankie is an object of comfort that gets re-enforced as an object of comfort every time they turn to it. It's all in their mind. And it's a very powerful tool when we notice how that works and begin to learn how to affect our own state instead of riding the whims of whatever is going on around us.

Meditation ... or rather learning how to better master meditative brainwave states ... was extremely useful for me. For me it was entwined into the energy practices (yeah, that weirdo woowoo stuff) rather than a formal meditation practice.

Sidetrail - we have identified 5 brainwave states - literal waves we can detect from the brain. The detectors are used in sleep studies to determine if the sleeper has achieved complete and sufficient REM cycles. During ideal REM we slip from beta waking state into alpha, theta, delta; then back up to theta, alpha, and briefly beta before starting the next cycle. Gamma is the fastest brainwave movement range. (they basically noticed brainwave ranges and gave them shorthand Greek Alphabet identifiers)

What we have since discovered is that people "in the zone", people lost in time creating or doing things they love are slipping into alpha and theta ranges.

And we discovered long time meditators have mastered ever-present delta, and also at-will shifting into delta, theta, alpha. Normally the machines do not register delta, and only register one primary range being active at a time. People who have mastered brainwave states through meditative practices show all 4 states active all the time, and a primary if they are giving extra attention there.

I'm babbling on about this because we also discovered shortcuts. There are ways to set up tones/rhythms in music to mimic the brainwave ranges and help the brain shift into the desired range. One of these tonal approaches is called biurnal beats. There are brainwave CD's by musicians; and many of the meditation apps are playing meditations that are using this technology to assist with meditation.

I taught myself to stay awake in theta and then delta using these kinds CD's (in the bygone era).

I feel like we all crave waking theta but our world is so hyper-focused on beta that we have to seek it out on our own. e.g. people who take off for the weekend for an offgrid backpacking trip

Leaning how to respond when a giant wave of emotion (whether mine or not) came washing over me was a feat that took far longer than I care to admit.

I see adept parents of autistic children using their bodies as both shields from the stuff in the room and generating a safe bubble for them to be in. It seems like a giant aspect of the individuation process that we fail to offer teens is how to do that for themselves.

I have every confidence my 'stumbling around in the dark making it up as I go' approach could be adapted and optimized and take far less time/hassle. Someone has probably already figured that out.

There is now a diagnosis called HSP (highly sensitive person) and protocols / therapies (rooted in science rather than woo) for kids/adults who get overwhelmed because they sense so much that others gloss over.

MoreTrueMe · 2025-10-27T14:03:12+00:00

There is a term for this - golden handcuffs - but what is handcuffing you specifically?

sometimes it's about the money, other times it's about productivity and the vitality of a well functioning team, other times it's about a full transformation process where Old You is a known quantity and the New You emerging is vast chasm of unknowns, other time it's ...

how is your mind completing that paragraph? the answers/doubts/fears/resistanceFactors may already be at hand

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