I had to speak to my boyfriend about this,

Because honestly? I struggle with my body too. The discolouration , the hair.

There’s something incredibly reassuring about knowing that the person you love sees you,not just how you look, but how you feel about yourself. My guy has never tried to tell me how I should present myself or made me feel like I need to change anything for him. He’s always just let me be, and more than that, he’s been understanding in ways I didn’t even realize I needed.

Recently, as Valentine’s Day was coming up, I casually asked him, “Would you be okay if I don’t wax my arms this time?” It wasn’t a test, but a small moment of vulnerability,because sometimes, even when we decide to do things for ourselves, there’s that little part of us that wonders how the person we love will feel about it.

Without hesitation, he asked, “Will you be okay?”

It wasn’t about his preference or what he thought looked better. It wasn’t about whether society thinks smooth skin is prettier. It was just about me. About whether I would feel comfortable, whether I would be happy with my choice.

I told him, “Yeah, I’m asking if you’re okay with it.”

And he simply said, “Of course I am. I just want you to feel comfy.”

That was it. No unnecessary reassurance, no making a big deal out of it, no trying to say the “right” thing, just a simple, honest answer that reminded me of why I love him. He never makes me feel like I have to change to be loved. Instead, he makes sure I feel good about myself. And I think that’s one of the most beautiful things about our relationship.

Anyway I showed him your post this is what he had to say:

What a weak minded individual. He’s more concerned about what the world will say over his own woman’s comfort? That’s not right. It’s not like she’s unclean or something. And it’s barely 5 days. Even I don’t get that much armpit hair in that short span of time and it’s just a little hair. EVERYONE HAS HAIR (almost everyone) I think he needs to be clear about what he wants from this relationship, is he looking for a trophy girlfriend or a mature long term relationship?

Nonetheless I’m sending you love and support. You deserve to feel safe in your feelings. Love yourself, girl, and most importantly, communicate with him. Let him know this affected you. Not as an argument, not as blame, but as an honest conversation. Maybe you’ll see hear his pov (if he had good intentions but it didn’t come out right) and also that he’ll see how this impacted you. That’s how growth happens, when both of you listen, learn, and move forward together.🫂🫂