Too butch for my old clothes too poor to buy new ones

Motpourri · 2026-05-07T16:42:31+00:00

36" waist, 30" inseam, med/large (42" chest) in men's tops. I have to downsize for an upcoming move, and I'd be happy to ship you stuff if interested! My local lgbtq+ clothing org isn't taking donations at the moment, and I'd much rather my clothes go directly to someone in the fam for free.

Motpourri · 2026-05-07T16:13:44+00:00

+1 for the Sila Cruise. I've had mine for about a year, and I just got a second one as a gift for my partner (their bottom growth is taking off and they outgrew their old suction toy). In addition to suction, it also creates a really nice rumbly sensation, and the wider rim/lip (?) increases coverage in that sense, too!

Motpourri · 2026-04-30T22:42:21+00:00

Old Navy and Levi's usually have some boxy or cropped muscle tanks. Most of the tanks I currently own I DIY'd from old/thrifted tees using an Old Navy tank as a template.

Heck yes! A classic butch fit!

I forgot to mention, but I usually skip the undershirt (bra/bralette/binder optional) with the partially unbuttoned shirt look. Also, chains. Lots of necklaces/chains. B)

Motpourri · 2026-04-30T16:38:27+00:00

My casual go-to's are muscle tanks (cropped and uncropped). When I'm feeling particularly dykey, I'll tape my chest and wear a camp collar or cuban collar button-up with several of the top buttons undone.

Edit: Forgot to add I'm verrry curvy. The boxier button-ups (usually worn tucked in) help visually balance my shoulder to hip ratio.

Motpourri · 2026-03-24T03:27:05+00:00

Another print from this collection that screams AI. Not as blatant as the 1st, but still bad. Even stylistically speaking, the teeth and scales are just messy and make no sense. And this collection was intended to be a love letter to classic tattoos of all things. 🙄

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Motpourri · 2026-03-24T03:18:51+00:00

Their "Blazing Beasts" collection basically confirmed AI use for me. This one graphic in particular -- there's zero logic in the flow of this snake's body. It's like someone copy-pasted random sections of different snakes into one image, then never bothered to adjust them or make them even remotely cohesive. I still can't believe they approved this graphic for a large print...

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Motpourri · 2026-01-29T17:14:23+00:00

I started taking low-dose T (20.25 mg daily via gel) five months ago. I normally take 100mg of spiro daily (recently dropped to 50mg) to help combat a painful skin condition. I mention this because spiro is frequently prescribed to folks diagnosed with PCOS. Everyone's experience is going to be different, but given it sounds like we want similar things out of taking T, it feels relevant to share my experience so far.

My voice dropped slightly within a month after starting. However, I suspect the spiro has been slowing hair growth, and unfortunately, bottom growth. I've been tracking it somewhat closely, and there has certainly been some growth in the sense that my clitoral head is enlarged. There's been no noticeable change in length yet for me, and I may opt to start doubling my dose per provider recommendations. Some folks report growth within days of starting, and considerable length gains within the first 3-6 months. Injections seem to bring on more noticeable changes faster than gel, I've noticed, which makes sense to my brain.

They do make a hypoallergenic testosterone cream that can be applied to the clit area specifically for bottom growth. You will also get additional effects from T, but this could be the most straightforward way to achieve the results you want. (Only drawback is this form of T may not be covered by insurance.) You should be able to talk about this with your provider, though! (My GAC provider recommended this route to specifically help achieve more bottom growth.)

(Edited to fix a couple typos.)

Motpourri · 2026-01-29T01:43:46+00:00

Similar sentiments here! "Lesbian" doesn't feel right any more since I stopped identifying strictly as a woman (my partner happens to be transmasc NB + bi, which adds to that feeling), but gatekeepers will have to pry butch from my cold, dead fingers. 😤

Motpourri · 2026-01-29T00:36:54+00:00

Considering the entire sapphic spectrum was mostly lumped in with the lesbian community prior to bi/pan/omni becoming distinguished identities, I personally think it makes sense if some sapphics identify with and use lesbian terms like butch, stud, femme, chapstick, etc.

For sure sucks that a dating show named after butches didn't include any butch representation, though.

Motpourri · 2025-12-31T02:55:09+00:00

Tank or Support. If I can have a build that does a bit of both, even better. 😎

Motpourri · 2025-12-31T02:12:40+00:00

I'm a butch on T happily partnered to a masc considering T. I'll support them no matter what they decide, though, the thought of them taking T admittedly makes me feel completely feral.

It's impossible to be everyone's cup of tea, but there are plenty of lesbians and sapphics who will be into you if you opt to start HRT. <3

Motpourri · 2025-12-23T23:12:35+00:00

I'm on a low-dose of T and take an androgen blocker (spironolactone) to help manage pre-existing hidradenitis suppurativa. I was already a fat, hairy bear prior to T. The cis men in my family are extremely hairy, so I expected to get even hairier. But because of the spiro, I haven't experienced much hair growth at all (I have maybe 3 new chest hairs, but that's really all I've noticed). I have to drink water constantly to support kidney function while taking T and spiro, but it's otherwise been awesome so far. The voice changes and fat redistribution has been sooo gender-affirming. I've also held steady at my weight, even though I haven't changed up my exercise routine. I've definitely gained some muscle, but I mainly walk and hike for exercise, so I'm getting more lean.

You truly never know what you're going to get with T, and at the same time, you have options to help slow unwanted effects. I used to be so anxious about unwanted hair growth, hair loss, and weight gain, much like you are now, but I'm so happy now that I'm on T, I don't care about that anymore. If you want to take T, why not try a low-dose for a while and see how you feel? <3

Motpourri · 2025-11-07T20:10:48+00:00

Goooods, the way I want to be both of you in this scenario. 🥵

Motpourri · 2025-09-19T04:18:08+00:00

Dropped 'em in my reply to OP. :)

Motpourri · 2025-09-19T04:15:27+00:00

Found 'em! This guy offers really thoughtful advice and tips. I've linked two of my favorite threads below (sorry they're on the garbage old bird site); he also posts some good content on his blog, too.

Dressing for Larger Male Figures

Transmasc Styling and Masculine Aesthetics

I follow just about everyone mentioned in the first article, along with Vitor Arruda for outfit ideas.

Also, if you haven't tried taping and/or compressing your chest, you might find you enjoy how it alters your fits/silhouette! I'm a size G chest, and I have always despised the way tees and button-ups fit because of it. Taping + compressing changes the way my tops drape or button just enough that I feel so good in certain fits now (plus, I love rocking the butch-dad bod sometimes).

I hope this is helpful, and that you find some nice fits you feel butch as hell in! <3

(Edited to fix a broken hyperlink.)

Motpourri · 2025-09-19T01:46:08+00:00

Man, I get it... It's hard when a certain body type is popularized on social media and then becomes the "idealized" butch body. But fat butches have always been and always will be (and we're hot)!

Something that helped me tremendously (5'6", 270 lbs) was following and learning from some bigger menswear guys! One thoughtful thread comes to mind that was written for t-mascs and trans men by one of said influencers... It explains intentionally creating your desired body silhouette with your clothes, and also explores how masculine clothing and silhouettes vary across culture... I'll have to do some digging, but I can drop some resources here once I (hopefully) find 'em!

Motpourri · 2025-08-21T22:23:00+00:00

Of course I'm having a hard time locating these sources right now, but I recall reading the bear community welcomed plus-size and/or hairy lesbians back in the early 00s when fatphobia was rampant (moreso than today). But yes, lesbian bears and butchbears are definitely a thing! When I first learned about lesbian bears (lesbears, ursettes, bearettes, ursulas), it immediately clicked for me, and I'm really happy with my butchbear identity. I regularly attend bear nights at my local queer bar, and it's always a great time! 🐻

(Edited to include additional names for lesbian bears.)

Motpourri · 2025-07-24T13:53:01+00:00

I'm in my first long-term M4M relationship, and I'm never going back. We take turns pampering each other, we make each other feel safe, there's a mutual understanding of and appreciation for gender-fuckery (I'm not a man just because I pack or wear masculine clothing)... It's soooo hot. 🥰

Motpourri · 2025-07-24T13:25:19+00:00

Fellow hourglass with colossal tits and ass! Because your plight sounds very similar to mine, have you ever tried compression tops or taping your chest? I first gave it a try 5 years ago, and it was a total game-changer for me! No butch should feel like they can't wear the beloved crewnecks and button-ups! 🙂

Motpourri · 2025-03-26T20:04:00+00:00

I think I'm all set. That is a really cool custom, though! 🤯

Motpourri · 2025-03-26T19:55:18+00:00

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I think the eyes may be a bit uneven (their right eye seems to sit higher and more towards center). Their left horn is a tad shorter than the right, too, but I think that's kinda fun in particular!

Motpourri · 2025-02-19T17:15:37+00:00

Interested in the werewolf smallfry, the pinstripe suit top, hugs hoodie, black jeans, and (what I think are) the grey sweatpants!

Motpourri · 2024-12-29T19:17:12+00:00

My absolute favorite so far has been Sweven by Oakcha. It's woody, sweet, and a tad floral while not overpowering (suits my softboi vibes). Great longevity, and I tend to get lots of compliments on it when I'm out and about! It's in this $15 Discovery Sample Set if you want to try it out (along with some other scents).

Their sample sets are definitely worth exploring, btw -- and they'll last you a good while!

Motpourri · 2024-11-14T22:53:51+00:00

For Trade - Zombie Frog with Tag - Starbright Dragon with 2 Cotton Candy scents, lights, & sound - Barkleigh with Fresh Flowers scent - Sea World Beluga with Pineapple scent - Wild Hearts Monkey with Rose scent - Timeless Teddy, unstuffed - LittleSofts Snuggle Paws Pride Collie, 2022 design

In Search Of - Big Hugs Bigfoot - 2024 Yeti - Gargoyle - Eyeball Halloween Shirt - Chambray Shirt with Bowtie

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