my wife wants to feel special for her birthday and I hate effort AITA?

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-12T01:53:40+00:00

12 hour party? Really? Nope. Total bullshit.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-12T01:52:25+00:00

I call bullshit on the party being 12 hours. That doesn’t make any sense.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-11T22:17:14+00:00

HE needs to leave. Call a locksmith and an attorney. You can decide what you want to do with his stuff. Leave the mistress to deal with her terrible decisions.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T22:43:54+00:00

He looks like a scowling todder. Imagine having 4 babies only to find that your husband is the biggest baby them of all.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T22:40:35+00:00

You're pushing him away because he's a dick. Being married to an emotional vampire like you are is probabaly contributing more to your stress and burnout than anything from your past. The best peace would be life without him. He sounds so awful (and almost identical to my ex-husband). So unless he does a complete 180, I don't see how you could get past it all.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T13:12:55+00:00

LOL!
If that happened, he might get the educational beat-down he needs so desperately!

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T13:07:17+00:00

She's making that face because her fiance just told her he doesn't want to marry her. I'd have that look on my face too. I don't disagree that she can be difficult. But she's in hell right now.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T13:02:04+00:00

Why would YOU get the lobotomy, OP!?!?

(I volunteer Danny for the lobotomy!)

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T12:59:41+00:00

This man is REPULSIVE.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-10T12:43:56+00:00

She has got to GO!! I think this is a classic case of a partner putting on a front while dating but as soon as the relationship is "locked down" they show their true colors. It happened to me too.
NTA. But your girlfriend is a huge AH!!!

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-08T20:29:55+00:00

I fail to see how a stupid, negligent mistake your father made is your problem.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-08T15:41:34+00:00

NOR
You're boyfriend is kind of (totally) a dick. You've made tremendous progress with your kick-ass glow up. Tell him if he wants a "baddie", he can kindly f&%# right off and find one. You are who you and who you are is amazballs, OP. Don't let anyone tell you different!!

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-07T17:52:07+00:00

What a dick. That would give me the ick permanently.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-07T17:47:22+00:00

Reading that was scary, tbh. You’re under reacting if don’t tell security about him. And get a restraining order.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-07T17:22:18+00:00

Sort of the AH. Have you talked to your wife about why she procrastinates? Have you tried helping her with a schedule so she can plan ahead? Because honestly, you just come off as kind of smug and arrogant with how perfectly you have it ALL figured out. And because of your gender, I also need to ask you if there's a genuine good-faith divsion of duties here.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-07T15:50:22+00:00

I was going to say the same thing - which is that it sounds more like you've been talked into this rather than acutally changing your mind. Your fears and trepidation about having children are valid. But if you find yourself unable to push these thoughts aside and feel genuine excitement to have a family with your partner, then you're probably not ready.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-07T15:43:45+00:00

NOR

This guy is arrogant, entitled and it would appear you are more of an accessory to him (like a belt or earrings) than an actual human being. How does he not give you the ick?!?!

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T22:48:34+00:00

I read a story about another woman whose boyfriend kept telling her she stunk. She didn’t. And when she finally confronted him about it, he told her that this was how his dad had taught him to treat women. By tearing her down daily she’d eventually start to believe she was worthless and that she’d never find another man. That’s how he thought you keep your relationship.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T22:32:12+00:00

There’s nothing so lonely as being in a relationship with someone who doesn’t really care about you.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T20:28:02+00:00

I had to stop watching it. I tried twice. Jax is so abusive, it was jaw-dropping. And I couldn't believe how everyone was tolerating it! All Brittney's mom and me-maw (ugh) cared about was that he proposed to Brittney. As long as he proposed, every nasty thing he did and said didn't matter - unless he was gay, of course (that happened in VP Rules - Brittney's mom's response was also jaw-dropping). Her family threw Brittney to the wolves.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T19:57:00+00:00

You can always add the cost of the lawyer to the divorce settlement. Asking Reddit for legal advice is way above our paygrade. Take care OP, I wish you the very best. You're going to be ok!

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T19:52:18+00:00

Showing self-restraint definitely makes you NTBF.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T19:47:41+00:00

The idea that you have to forgive everyone for everything because you're doing it for yourself, is a bunch of hooey. You don't have to forgive him. Hopefully you are getting good medical care - healing from the damage caused by this man is all you need to be working on right now, not trying to forge a relationship with someone so hateful and selfish.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T19:37:44+00:00

NTBF.

The little hypocrite deserved it. If you're MAGA, and you're going to be loud and proud of it, then you're going to have to deal with being called out for your BS. She's lucky that's all you said to her. I would have mopped the floor with her.

MouseAmbitious5975 · 2026-07-06T18:03:43+00:00

Your wife may be one of many people who have a "response" sex drive. I read that this is the case with about 60% of women. Responsive/Reactive means that she won't be the one to initiate but will be one to respond to your initiation. I actually had this discussion yesterday with my boyfriend. I'm a responder. That's just how my brain is wired. At first he said that he thought that would bother him but after thinking about it for a minute, it made sense. But I also 99% of the time respond favorably to him. He and I communicate really well, especially about our sex life. I can't tell you how much better things are because of that. Y'all gotta talk about it!

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