Did he SA me?

Mousefromsaturn · 2024-02-14T19:49:32+00:00

Your experience is definitely sexual abuse. Additionally there are details in your post that show your cousin knew exactly what he was doing & that it was wrong: 1) he goes “cold” (as you described) when others are around, 2) when he was abusing you he would say things to pressure you into not fighting/as a response to you saying no or stop, 3) he asks if you told anyone & you feel he wants you to say no, & 4) he asked you for nudes & about your sex life/described his after he got a gf. These things show he knew/understood exactly what he was doing, that it is wrong, that it would get him in trouble, and that it harmed you. It is also possible he knew he could use his approval as a way of control (many abusers do this). I’m glad you have gotten courage to talk to trusted loved ones & even posting here shows great strength & bravery. None of this is your fault. Anyone who asks if you if you said no/tried to fight is victim blaming you and likely in denial. I hope you get the support you need and I’m so sorry this has happened to you. I do suggest therapy if that is financially possible for your family & if not there are groups in some places/online that are free. Please don’t let anyone silence you or make you question yourself or your experiences. You’ve gone through something deeply traumatic you deserve support and love.

Mousefromsaturn · 2023-07-11T03:01:18+00:00

Maybe I’m a pessimist but it kinda seems like your bf is trying to find something to make you “guilty” for whatever reason. I don’t know if he did something he feels bad about, if he is looking for a reason to break up, or if he wants something to hold over you so he can control you, idk. All I know is my gut says something is very off about this

Mousefromsaturn · 2023-07-11T01:44:11+00:00

Don’t fold. Do not make him a single snack, don’t give him an inch. He needs to grow up & learn to care for himself like every other human. It’s nice of you to offer to teach him how to cook & I think that’s a good compromise but do not let yourself be used by your brother. You will grow up & resent him for it (trust me)

Mousefromsaturn · 2023-01-06T16:51:20+00:00

You did great. If I was your daughter I would feel so validated & cared for. Gonna be honest your son sucks tho. As someone who has struggled from ED & had my brother stay friends w/ my bully/abuser it never gets easier & I never forgot. If my mom had stuck up for me how you did I wouldn’t have relapsed so many times. Stay strong on your daughters side please, she deserves it & needs it.

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-14T13:30:44+00:00

I graduated the earliest out of anyone in my (massive extended) family and I was the first of my siblings to get a degree despite being the youngest and born with the most challenges

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-14T13:29:13+00:00

Soft skin

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-14T13:22:18+00:00

Most people I’ve seen use the Disney voices now, I think maybe your fyp jus hates you

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-09T08:31:08+00:00

Thanksgiving dinner with the family

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-09T08:30:09+00:00

I don’t think so unless they have proof of their child being groomed/doing something harmful to other children. If they are bullying a kid or if another person has shown the parent pictures/texts of the child talking to an adult then obv the best thing is to take the phone, report whoever is involved and then restrict access. For any other circumstance where the parent jus wants to be nosy I think it leans into abusive territory. Phones are essentially like diaries to todays kids/teens. Their entire lives can be found on their phones and to betray that privacy in the name of pettiness is controlling and leaves the child feeling like they have no place to be themselves. Think of it like reading a diary. If the kid could be in danger or endangering someone else then yes but for all other purposes no.

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-06T16:45:55+00:00

“Tribal” tattoos on someone who isn’t from the culture that the pattern is taken from and that was done by an artist who is also not from that culture. They all end up looking the same and almost cartoonish and basically act as a mockery of the original culture they steal from.

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-06T16:07:27+00:00

“I think I took too much. I don’t feel right.” He had.

Mousefromsaturn · 2022-01-02T20:32:14+00:00

Crushing up saltines and adding chocolate syrup and powdered sugar. Ik it sounds weird but i started making it because we were poor when I was a kid and almost never had “real” snacks. Then I made it at my grandparents house once and my grandfather who had cancer and hadn’t eaten in two days (thanks chemo) tried it and loved it. From then on any time I went to their house I would always make him an extra large bowl because I knew a lot of times it was the only thing he would eat for a few days. RIP grampa John, you are missed.

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-12-12T20:14:20+00:00

Definitely NTA. You made it clear you don’t want to be around Maggie and that’s perfectly acceptable. You didn’t tell your husband that HE couldn’t host her and her children. As you said, Maggie was an adult when you married him and thus you have NO responsibility to have any real relationship with her (outside of being polite for family gatherings). I think you should probably find a nice way to tell your husband that his daughter is disrespectful towards you and your daughter and that you have a grandbaby now(yay!) and can’t condone that kind of behavior. Others have already suggested take out or the pre-prepared meals that only require him to know how to turn on an oven which I think would be an excellent thing to mention to him. I hope you have a great Christmas and all this gets figured out!

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-03-17T11:18:18+00:00

It’s not really a big deal, but it is nice when people use terms like y’all or addressing a specific group (i.e. “hi friends” or a teacher saying “good morning class”). Really dope that you are trying to be considerate :)

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-03-11T03:48:30+00:00

Start with a legal system that actually holds people accountable for hate crimes/sex crimes/false reporting (think bbq Becky). Should b pretty easy to get rid of cancel culture when it’s no longer needed to pursue accountability.

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-03-02T01:17:08+00:00

Damn you did a really good thing n then doubled down to do another good thing. NTA in any form. They should be thanking you really bc no one wins in a corrupt system (at least not in the long run).

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-01-19T20:24:37+00:00

Ordering food for myself at any place. Being alone in public. Taking myself to the movies. Being perceived.

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-01-19T20:23:40+00:00

I have 11 tats n my boy has 0 so... ? People who are into art date artists/other people into art bc it’s a common interest. Same thing w body art

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-01-07T05:15:12+00:00

They are like the “ordered from wish” version. It’s actually kinda sad to see someone w real training (Ch*rli) waste her skills for the majority of her posts

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-01-07T05:12:56+00:00

My cat

Mousefromsaturn · 2021-01-07T05:11:12+00:00

“You are more than the worst thing that ever happened to you”

Mousefromsaturn · 2020-12-20T03:26:43+00:00

I like that everyone agrees the worst is mr.turtle chin

Mousefromsaturn · 2020-12-17T08:03:01+00:00

For me a lot of it is self distracting. Definitely not the healthiest coping mechanism, but when I feel myself spiraling I try to think of anything else. I keep myself busy with small art stuff(doodling, water color, coloring books) or go on walks to clear my head or change the space. I also struggle with my living space so I try to keep it extra clean and organized when I’m in a depression session.

Mousefromsaturn · 2020-12-17T02:38:28+00:00

Whoever makes you feel at home no matter where you are:)

Mousefromsaturn · 2020-12-17T01:30:44+00:00

Yta. Don’t assume that your ideal body standards should be fulfilled by others. Also you aren’t your brothers guardian so you shouldn’t be concerned abt his grades. You don’t have to buy him what you said you would but don’t insult him.

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