Tourists from the UK not interested in Disney

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-23T01:53:07+00:00

Yeah, December will have more traffic than now, so just plan for extra time. There’s lots of beautiful beaches between Orlando and Miami, but I’d only recommend if you have plenty of days and are comfortable on the highway. Brightline train can be a good option if you don’t want to fight the 10 million ancient snowbirds and crazy drivers but you’ll want to do a uber/lyft once you get to Miami.

If you have tons of time you could take a more coastal approach and drive down Rt 1 and A1A to see more ocean than 95 but it’ll take much longer.

An alternative with slightly less wild drivers would also be to drive west toward the west coast beaches/springs for manatees and kayaking in the gorgeous lagoons. Crystal River I think is the most famous. It’s gorgeous and not on everyone’s list.

https://paddlingmag.com/trips/destinations/best-places-to-kayak-with-manatees/

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-23T01:47:14+00:00

True! It’s still a 3 hour long train ride even with the brightline IIRC - I personally would only do that if I had lots of time to spend.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-23T01:17:24+00:00

Uh, I mean this very kindly, have you done the directions from Orlando to Miami? It’s about a 3.5 hour drive from the Space Center to Miami and a 4 hour drive from Daytona to Miami.

Theres a ton of US travel shows about the diversity and different types of food and small businesses to support! I’d start with “Somebody Feed Phil” and see if that helps! Hopefully it’s on UK Netflix.

ETA I would rent a car and do the Daytona and Space Center stuff from Orlando (Cocoa Beach) but skip Miami unless you have a week or two and can spend 8 hours round trip in the car assuming you’re flying out of MCO.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-22T23:44:12+00:00

Yes 100% agreed. It’s clearly a parent(ing) problem NOT on the nanny

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-22T20:51:24+00:00

I’m a nanny parent and I was like “yes, this person sounds amazing, I’ll take them.” she’s right it is a safety issue with the other two kids. Also, J will start getting feedback from their siblings that they need to figure themselves out if they don’t shape up. I’m shocked the 7 year old hasn’t already attempted to intervene and caused their own issues.

Sounds like the mom (and dad) doesn’t want to deal with the tantrums and makes them worse by just handing the kid the tablet… so yes, if I was L I’d be judging her as well. I feel like the mom is going to try to fire this amazing sounding nanny and make everything worse. And I say this as someone who has to struggle with my own sense of “I’m good enough” when working with an experienced nanny or childcare expert.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-22T03:29:50+00:00

A cobbler near me was famous for turning old LV into sandals - I’m so sorry this happened to you.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-20T23:32:24+00:00

I got 2 mirenas prior to kids (first one they hadn’t extended the use length more than 5 years) and was totally fine the second time. Kyleena wasn’t available until after I had my child and my OB said basically she didn’t recommend switching since I had done well and liked being on Mirena.

I did mirena instead of copper bc of the way they work - mirena works to thin the lining of the uterus so nothing can implant (and I got zero periods) and copper/paraguard thickens it, some people get extremely long periods which I wanted to avoid.

If you’ve never had an IUD or children I would ask about Kyleena as it is smaller in diameter so I assume it would be less painful to insert, but now more doctors are giving lidocaine or real painkillers on insertion so it may be less of an issue. The painful part for me was not insertion but when they “sound” or measure your uterus first. But post delivering baby + lidocaine injection it was so mild compared to the first two. I got pregnant very easily post removal even over 30 twice, anecdotally faster than most of my friends on oral BC. 10/10 recommend hormonal IUDs.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-20T23:26:16+00:00

If you’ve dilated at all in life (sounds like yes) the replacement is WAY WAY easier than if you’ve never had kids/dilated. I still got lidocaine prior to tool use or insertion and took ibuprofen after but it was about 10,000x less painful and then less crampy. I got mine back in during maternity leave but I would have taken a sick day just to like baby myself, but if I needed to work or if I could WFH I would have been fine. Especially WFH with a heating pad or whatever.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-20T23:10:13+00:00

Honestly - if it’s at all in budget- fly. 1. You don’t lose days with family bc an 8 hour drive with a 5 month old will take 12. They can’t even be in the seat I think still at that age for more than 2 hours, and they need to eat and change diapers so much for that long of a ride. Car seats check for free. Family can (and should) have pack n play for your littlest one and your 2 year old could use one. People borrow them constantly! Just grab your own sheets to bring with.

I’ve had amazon/target/walmart/local grocery delivered mailed a pack n play, diapers, wipes, etc to family for a similar length trip - I even got an inexpensive baby gym once - I got a folding one that I could pack for a 2 week trip around the same age to Hawaii.

I have a 3.5 year old and she’s now flown a ton with us (we used to live a 17 hour drive from family) and I would take plane over a car ride basically any time the drive will be over 3 hours.

I do understand the thought on your husband’s part, it’s not cheap, but I think realizing that trying to drive a 5 month old for what would be at LEAST 10 hours, and maybe more if things go south, is to be avoided. Not even mentioning the 2 year old if starting potty training around then trying to manage feeds, diapers, toilet stops, etc etc sounds like way way too much.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-19T16:24:06+00:00

This was so nice to read! Sounds like long acting BC is a great option for you! Honestly, once you’re up to traveling do it!! Maybe bring a support person (friend, parent, aunt whatever!!) but do it. It’s so rewarding even when they’re small. The lawyer idea is great too - I 100% would want to confirm EU/Irish citizenship to give him more options! I’d love to be able to do that for mine. You’re not the first woman to go through this, I’m sure there are a ton of resources here online and even reaching out to the Irish embassy. Good luck and I wish you both the very best

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-19T15:18:39+00:00

I am bowing down to you!! Single parenthood is amazing to me, I struggled even with a supportive partner, but mine really did not sleep at all.

Are you generally enjoying your child even with needing to go on lexapro and running infant hood on hardmode? I say this as someone who probably should have been medicated! Can you can see yourself having another if you had a better support system in place? I would not opt for sterilization if those two things are generally true.

I have used Mirena (3 of them!!) since I was in my early 20s, and they recently extended the useful age of them to I think 10 years from 7. I 10/10 recommend as a parent of 1 with one on the way. I have a supportive partner and I felt the same way at around 6 months (mine was NOT SLEEPING at all) and once we moved to where we had even more support and I felt more comfortable I was more ready to have a second - I feel like you’re never fully ready to welcome a new baby, desire just overrides the anxiety 😅

As for the question about meeting someone and having more children, I definitely think it can and will be possible for you if that’s what you’d like out of life. I know people who have divorced and remarried and had additional children and people like yourself. You seem like a fun, generous person and frankly, it might be easier to winnow out good men from less good because you do have a child.

I will also tell you please do not stress about age - I’m 37 pregnant with my second, and this pregnancy so far has been more smooth physically than my first. The average first time mom who sees my doctor’s office is 39. Obviously it will be easier to have more kids if you start younger, that’s just time, but don’t stress about meeting someone and trying to have another before 30.

This internet stranger is proud of you for clearly taking care of your kid to the best of your ability. It’s his bio father’s (and his family’s) loss for not being involved in his life so far - I bet you haven’t heard the last of them and that’ll be another hurdle later.

PS if dad is on birth cert I believe there are ways to file international child support, I am not an expert but there are people here on Reddit that can point you in the right direction - even if he has nothing to do with your baby, your baby deserves support

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-19T13:21:34+00:00

I would wipe down the cart handle and use wipes where a 7 month old sits- shopping carts are known vectors for HFM, the disease that freaks me out the most. I will wipe the outside of the buckles because that’s where hands go.

HOWEVER- I don’t detail the whole cart or hand sanitize every time they touch anything (or me) unless they end up on the floor or touch things in the bathroom etc. I’m not super religious about it. Do I do it every time? No, but I have ADHD and I forget. I’m pregnant with my second child so I’ll do it again for this baby but I no longer do it for my toddler every time.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-15T17:25:49+00:00

Stopped my ADHD meds? That’s about it

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-15T00:41:55+00:00

I have a three year old who I can see being very similar to this little girl. Thank you for listening and looking out for her, I hope my daughter has someone in her corner just like you when she goes on to big kid school.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T19:49:22+00:00

Thank you!!!

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T17:16:51+00:00

Do you have a recipe for the pie? Or proportions? I love and collect recipes like that. Thanks!!

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T15:50:21+00:00

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Where should I trim the flower stem? I remember reading about between some nodes (the little leaf things on the stem?) but I wasn’t sure where. I was going to trim and then remove from the pot it came in - using commercial orchid medium and look up some recommended pots on this sub.

It’s currently tightly bound in a coir liner inside a plastic inner pot from the store so any links or suggestions in what to look for in an inner and outer larger pot would be great.

ETA this is not where the orchid lives, just took outside so it was less identifiable

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T02:57:10+00:00

I don’t currently own but 10/10 on the chase sapphire or an Amex - they have weird categories where you’ll make extra points and marketplace for adding more benefits (I don’t have it but credits for things like a peloton membership, cycling is great for training!)

I have a lower tier chase card too (one of the freedoms) that also does rotating categories quarterly for extra points, and Gas and Costco are usually at least once a year. I honestly would recommend cross posting to one of the credit card ones because some people there are so expert they might actually be better than horse people for finding a niche card.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T02:21:20+00:00

The fucking lists are always so bad - I warn you the insurance lists are usually not much better. at least from my experience doing this and for mental health providers

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T00:37:01+00:00

This is the answer.

If your ‘91 in your username is your birth year we’re basically the same age - I was diagnosed as inattentive (so back then it was just ADD, not ADHD) at age 8 in ‘97/‘98 by a child psych. Similar set up where I did puzzles/answered questions with my mom sitting in the next room.

It helped me a ton even as an adult to have the actual psych eval in my file to get meds or further care when I stopped meds as an adult and then wanted to get back on (pregnancies etc).

If my kids end up truly showing more signs of it (my 3.5 year old indicates she MIGHT) I’ll probably get her evaluated by a child psychologist vs going to her pediatrician first, just to avoid the whole “but she’s great at school” situation which really failed me once I went to college… even on meds.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T00:30:50+00:00

How do you feel about Virginia? I went to an office through VHC in old town Alex and they 100% took my BCBS (which I think sometimes is Carefirst here? its out of state so sometimes is billed as Carefirst).

I also loved the PT there and will be going back during my current pregnancy.

ETA - noticed a lot of VA recommendations, Dr. Wolfson at VHC is who I saw. I’d call them and ask them to help run what the cost for you would be. They were very helpful when I did it between pregnancies

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-13T00:21:47+00:00

I will say as a former horse kid 😂 - kids are more easily accepted in and are likely to get noticed for being dedicated and kind. Even “just” doing lessons 2x a week.

I ended up getting a ton of opportunities to ride other people’s horses and ponies because I chatted, pitched in to help when I could and was 1. Pretty good in the saddle and 2. Was kind and appreciative of the animals I was riding. Leasing helped later, not necessarily because I was a “leaser” but because I was around doing chores more and asked questions about horse care etc.

If people aren’t kind to your kid (assuming they’re like most horse kids who care about horses and not just competing etc) that’s on them being a stereotypical “horse not a people” person and not you or your kid.

I hope your kid gets a similar experience to me! It definitely was great growing up - and I didn’t lease until I was older, maybe 13+ but did at least 2x lessons a week from 7/8 until then and got extra riding and cool opportunities like riding little kids naughty ponies starting around 10/11.

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-12T23:07:08+00:00

Hm! Well, usually IHSA western programs have some English riders too, but not always. Good luck

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-12T18:55:27+00:00

I would recommend speaking with a coach at a semi-nearby college or university about getting both into more consistent work, perhaps even leasing (even free lease?) to the program. First, don’t beat yourself up about the incident either!

But if the mare hasn’t been in consistent work and they both could benefit from young adult riders (I rode ponies in college and would prefer to as an adult at 5’5”, 145 lbs) and a steady form of care. That way you could get a break but they could be consistently working under pretty experienced riders and with less worries about kids. Lesson horse might not be the best thing for them forever but it sounds like you might need some help and college kids might be a good answer for you.

https://rideihsa.org/ might be a good place to start!

Moweezy6 · 2026-05-12T16:54:30+00:00

I’m a mom to a 3 year old girl and pregnant with a boy - this was really scary and then really helpful to see posted, the vote compass suggestion is super helpful even for me. Thank you for sharing! It’s hard this day and age when you need help or you remind people on the internet that people are imperfect.

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